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I quit blogging.
Until we meet again.
YES, I am quitting, I have to walk my talk.
Life for me is being Love-in-Action. Life for me is being in-integrity and authentic. Life is about paying attention and adding value. Life for me is being congruent and doing what I love. Life for me is connecting with Source and all that is, which includes you.
WomenLikeMe is about all those things as well.
I have spend 7 years cleaning up my environment so my conscious and unconscious mind with all its unserving beliefs had a chance to align and I had time to learn to act from Love and integrity in all things I do.
In those years I focused on the incongruencies in my life and the toxins of my own mind that had me behave in those out-of-integrity, destructive and fearful ways.
I learned that unconscious minds do not give up that easily and that we all have an incredible invisible power steering our lives without us knowing. Our unconscious mind is an incredible amount bigger than our conscious mind. Our conscious brain is the size of a pea in comparison with our unconscious mind.
The fact is that we all need our huge unconscious mind, we cannot function without it. It let us drive the car far more effectively than our conscious mind can; just remember how difficult it was when you were consciously learning to drive one.
Our unconscious mind in and by itself is not wrong though; it would have worked fine if it was programmed in a non-toxic environment that had pristine original divine thoughts about life as a foundation. Unfortunately it is not, it is programmed with a whole lot of crap that unconsciously steers me the wrong way on many many occasions.
The fallacy of changing your beliefs is that you cannot change anything when you continue to live unprotected in the very toxic environment that made your unconscious ’sick’ in the first place; hence my interest in detoxing my mind AND environment together.
So far so good, I have come a long way and living in Nature as I now do has accelerated the process hugely.
BUT … in comes cyberspace. For the past seven years John and I have keenly worked on the WomenLikeMe project.
We have gained quite a wisdom of what is going on, we live it.
We took our time and the result is a huge understanding. Non toxic places do that to you, expand your conscious knowing.
WomenLikeMe went on line fourteen months ago to add value to everyone who felt life could be lived differently.
Wilma’s blog was born with the intention to give you a taste of what WomenLikeMe, John and I had to offer and inspire you to make changes to your life in the non-toxic environment of the program.
Hopeful that we would change our code of conduct to a respectful one, to honor our heart-centered selves in this new environment, I set out to connect with other people.
I am sad to say, I only have been able to do so with a pitiful few.
For two years I have spend most of my days behind the computer, to find that the brave new world of cyberspace is not any different from the old one.
It appears to me that most connecting happens at the level of swapping business cards at networking events, I give you mine if you give me yours. Nobody pays any real attention to the messages or makes real connections for other than the WIIFM reasons.
It is all about quantity and very little about quality.
People read posts, leave appreciative comments but very seldom actually share in their comments about the changes they have made, leaving me wondering what actually happened.
On my own blog very few people took the trouble to contact me personally and clarify further what I was saying. Very few people actually showed any interest in themselves, took their growth or what was on offer serious enough to further explore what was shared on the blog.
It made me pay attention. It made me feel uncomfortable because I noticed cyberspace started to have a toxic effect on me. I too even have left comments that were meaningless, I always left my computer after each day with questions about my motives and the quality of what I was doing.
Despite years of working on congruency, cyberspace in its quest for quantity and superficialness had me go backwards in seconds, leaving me at the end of the day out of sorts and unhappy with myself.
How to stay congruent and grow the blog?
I have not found an answer. I don’t know.
What I do know is that I do not like who I have become in cyberspace as I set out to grow the readership and to make WomenLikeMe a thriving business and a vibrant community.
What I also know is that I do not like what I see in cyberspace. Most bloggers are meaninglessly socializing, hardly going for any depth and hardly paying any real attention to sustainable change.
All I see is a lot of noise.
I have to protect myself; I have come too far to contaminate myself again with toxic noise and little congruency.
You, me and our hearts are too precious to me.
So as I do not know how to do it in-integrity, I quit blogging and John and I have closed WomenLikeMe.
I continue to live in paradise in peace and love, looking after my conscious and unconscious mind and being careful what I am feeding it. I trust that the vibes will reach you that way.
The time for our solid self development program is obviously not yet come.
I admired the success of Leo Babauta, he is apparently genuinely getting through and yet his online course is NOT about self development and living congruently but how to make money with blogging. Go figure.
While I quit being present in cyberspace, I extend an invitation to all of you who did touch me and whom I have touched.
I am grateful for your sharing and connectedness. I am still available if you have any questions about my blog posts or for me personally; I love you to write me an email.
I invite you to read my blog posts again as they have a lot of content that can support you in your confusion about the toxins in your life.
Until we meet again, may you know that you already live in heaven on earth.
May you know all is well and that you are provided for.
May you know we are all connected and safe.
May you know we are in transition and we are to fulfill our role as powerful collaborative co-creators with Nature, Nature whose role we have grossly ignored.
May you be Love-in-Action always.
Much Love.
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I’m Wilma’s partner; though you have rarely heard from me I’ve been supporting Wilma, and reading your comments since Wilma published her first post in November 2006.
I’ve read all your comments, magically edited some of your errors and encouraged Wilma to write and from behind the scenes, encouraged you to act.
Wilma’s Blog was born in 2006 as the public face of WomenLikeMe our online learning program. In those days we were still delivering the WomenLikeMe program as a live three day intensive workshop while we shopped around for the technology to put the program online. By June 2009 we had done our pilot online program, ironed the bugs out and the culmination of six years work went live. On June 17, 2009 we launched WomenLikeMe.
It is now 14 months later and in that period we have had one woman join WomenLikeMe; Peggy. In that time over a thousand women have read Wilma’s Blog.
I agree with Wilma;
God bless you, I love you, I’m sorry.
Goodbye.
Wilma:
I just found you – you can’t’ leave!
But, I wish you the best in your endeavors. The heart knows what’s best!
Linda
Dear Linda, one of the hardest things in life is ‘moving on’ when you know you have done all you can. It is hard to leave when you know you touched hearts and when your heart has been touched but no results are forthcoming.
It took me a long time to leave a relationship behind that was not serving me, I am not making that mistake again.
My subconscious mind is screaming that I cannot ‘waste’ all my efforts, I cannot leave John and my dream behind, that I have not done enough ‘networking’, connecting and socializing.
My heart is sad but also relieved to get back to a congruent place of doing things for the ‘right’ reason.
Linda, enjoy the blogposts I have written and the marvelous comments that have been made. There is a lot of gold there and who knows what the vacuum will create. For now, I am returning to daily life in the garden and connecting with other intelligences, the Nature ones that will guide me how to create a small healed piece of earth so eventually we all can return to a peaceful, healthy, well fed, loving life.
Much love, Wilma
Dearest Wilma,
take care, xx Jenn
I know what you mean about straddling thresholds and it is hard sometimes not being swallowed up and other times I can see the importance of leading in spite of. I totally respect you for knowing when you have done your share, and often there are new doors that open as we step back, or follow the mysterious nudges. I am having some own changes of focus, about to share soon and it is exciting but also bittersweet as you said. I do enjoy the blogging community, but it is important to know that we are leading our own life first and foremost, and that sense of being is the most important!
hugs to you and cheers to your new spaciousness, to invite in what is.
I will miss you, but I carry you in my heart.. you have been one of my guides. and I am glad we are on fb together.
Jenn´s last blog ..L-Blossoming Bridal-days- R U Willing to Shine Naturally
Dear Jenn, it has been great to have journeyed together and have experienced some of the same things;
I agree, it is this ’sense of being’ we need to pay attention to and that is often difficult as although our minds are taking in new messages of love, our subconscious minds are still steering the ship coming from the old conditionings of fear, quantity and do what everybody else does.
This gives a lot of conflict that also happens unconsciously but leaves me feeling yuck and out of sorts at the end of the day.
Oh Jenn, it is all part of the change, it is NOT something we cannot handle BUT we need support to find out what on earth is going on with us AND we need to avoid as much as possible environments that do not support a graceful transition.
Yes I am sad that WomenLikeMe is not taking off, there is so much gold in there, but at least it served me and Peggy and thank you for letting me now that the blog served you.
I will carry you and your new adventure in my thoughts and heart too, may the transformation be smooth and graceful, much love and hugs, xox Wilma
I love you Wilma and John…and you can’t get rid of me quite that easily
You have touched my life, made me question EVERYTHING, and because of what WomenLikeMe is, I am better, focused, and still questioning…
Much love,
Peggy
Peggy´s last blog ..The Scientific Method of Assumptions – Part III
Dear Peggy, one of the beautiful things, like Lance said, are some of the people you meet and you are one of them and I am pleased I am NOT getting rid of you. That has been my issue, the people I have connected with, where was room for more to grow my message and not losing connectedness in the process.
Yes, it is great to have you see the offer of WomenLikeMe, to see the value in cleaning up your life so at least you do not add to the toxins around you. So often even our conscious mind adds to the mess we are in. So cool to have you observe and notice and then correct and change what you are doing.
Yeah for you, you are a real treasure, you Love-in-Action you. xox Wilma
Hi Wilma,
I understand and share your frustration(s).
If you haven’t come across Mark Silver’s Heart of Business you may want to check it out. He does have a spiritual process (getting in touch with your heart) that he injects into the spiritual development process.
Love always, Evan
Evan, thank you for listening and appreciating ‘authenticity’ and the difficulty of being that way in the current confused world. Our hearts are in the right place, our minds are not. It will take a while before we will find congruency between our heart and our environment and in the meantime I aim to not add to the confusion and toxins by observing my own integrity and conscious mind. That at least I can do and I have enjoyed reading about you on your website. I appreciate you understand and thank you for your recommendation. I am going to sit still for a while and let the vacuum do its work. Much love to you too, xox Wilma
Wilma and John,
I do want you to know that what you have created here IS meaningful. I’m not sure that I’ve always showed that in my visits here – but know that the words you have written have had an impact.
In the two plus years that I’ve been blogging, I can take away a couple of deeply meaningful insights for me personally. One is that because I’ve written, the whole process, the journey…it’s helped me to more deeply understand me. And for that – it has been so worth it. And two – I have been impacted by so many beautiful people in this amazing world we live in. Wilma…know that you are one of them. And what your words have done, first and foremost – they have without doubt, helped me to live more from a heart-centered place. I am deeply grateful to you.
As you and John move on in this journey through your life…may it be filled with much peace and love.
And know that I consider you a dear friend, and love you…just the way you are…authentically you…something I feel very much here today.
Peace and love,
Lance
Lance´s last blog ..The Moment
Dear Lance, it are these connections that I treasure and want to spend time on. How more of them can I deal with, with how many more can I stay authentically connected while I go out and scan for more readers? Lance, I do not know, all I know is that quality is important and that I have not succeeded to have women join me on a journey of cleaning up their own act and become clear about the things we at least can have clarity about.
I gave this blog my all and I really appreciate your acknowledgment. It is all we often have, we bloggers.
I too have appreciated your outpour of love, your healing heart and your commitment to lightness and laughter.
May we all find peace and joy in our daily do-ing.
Much love, Wilma
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Hi Wilma — as always, I appreciate you sharing your heart on this blog, wherever it leads you — and in this case, it sounds like it led you to some fire-breathing Kali energy, which is a welcome change from the typical personal development blogosphere! I am sad to see you go, because I know you’re someone who takes personal development seriously, and understands the necessity of facing down your pain and your foibles, rather than dissociating from them in the way I think a lot of personal growth material on the internet encourages us to do. On the other hand, I know you will continue to take personal development seriously, and so whatever you will do, I know you will continue to be a gift to the world.
I’ve thought about doing this too — and, I will not, because quite simply I am a bloody-minded and hard-headed bastard.
So, I hope you’ll continue to stop by and bring both your wit and your depth as you have for a while.
Dearest Chris, thank you for understanding, I too feel your authenticity.
For me knowing is also do-ing, as you say I do NOT want band-aids, I do not want spirituality and positive thoughts as opium for the masses. I could fool myself sitting behind the computer thinking I am making a difference, it would have suited me, but the results speak for themselves and where I could have made a difference would have been in a community where we are all committed to paying attention to the wholesome ‘what is so’ in our lives.
it has been interesting that many people talk about my honesty, why is that so special. Is it not in the honest sharing that we dare to pay attention and admit that the emperor has no clothes on? And, when honestly looking if the emperor had no clothes on, I often found out that he was naked and that in turn was often a disturbing discovery which -you are spot on there – caused mental turmoil.
We need to become an authentic, honest and responsible partner in the co-creation that life is.
We need to clean up our mental and physical environment by rigorously paying attention and adjusting our acting based on what we see.
John and I are now going to focus on what is in front of us in our physical community and see what we can do there and how to eek a living that sustains our integrity.
Life is an interesting journey, full of surprises. Chris I do want to thank you for your honest voice, it is refreshing and I am still watching my breath when I cut veggies.
I am pleased you are bloody minded, someone has to be to and all I can say is ‘keep watching your own breath’, Much love, Wilma
Hi Wilma — I like how you needle me on being a one-trick pony who does nothing but talk about breathing — or at least that’s how it occurs to me — that nails me in my soft spot about not really providing any value in my work and just saying the same common-sense things over and over again. WomenLikeYou know just how to do that!
Heh, and now I’m kind of doing it back and making fun of your shtick. I hope we can keep doing this on a regular basis to do our work.
Hey Chris, touche, this is one thing we have unfortunately to deal with, the sometimes one track mind of the listeners who only pick one little smitten of what is on offer.
So I stand corrected if I did the same to you, you do have a lot more to offer and you are one cool change agent. As I said I respect your congruent complete message which is NOT just about breathing. However that did stood out for me as one great learning that I keep applying, observe yourself and one very effective way is via your body. Often we take in message after message without actually changing one darn thing, just nodding our head, saying nice words and keep doing what we are always doing.
I take your messages at heart and I can also understand the annoyance with me repeating only that particular message which actually did make a difference . . . as if that is all you are saying.
For me it is showing to you with that repeated example that I pay attention and we all could pay attention and at least apply some of the things we are reading about and share it back to you.
To follow Tess however, some Ho’Oponopono is in order, I’ve you, I’m sorry, please for give me, thank you and good on you for getting back. xox Wilma
Hi Wilma — I wasn’t annoyed by your comment — I actually appreciate that sort of thing because it helps me to do my work. Love, C
Hi Wilma and John,
When your heart and mind are peaceful you know you are on the right path. I honor that you do what is right and good for your soul requardless of what anyone else is doing. I’ve loved your blog and the sharing you do of your personal growth Wilma. You are amazing. I’ll never forget the day I found your blog and how excited I was to learn more about you and your path. I also enjoyed having you write for my blog.
I consider you both friends and love and care about both of you. In fact I was just telling my daughter about you and your blog. Thank you for sharing so openly about your journey. You’ve helped me to grow. I also love the photos you shared. It has made it so personal. If you ever begin another blog I sure hope you let us know. God bless and back at you, I’ve you, I’m sorry, please for give me, thank you.
Dearest Tess, there have been treasures for sure and you are one of them. You too are a very generous soul, I loved receiving your book AND a birthday card. Your book shows that you too are committed to change, to doing things differently against what the status quo would have you do. You had the courage to create a supportive environment in which you and Roger could grow after you saw that the emperor had no clothes on.
We need to first look at what is going on in our immediate environment, see the mess and then find support in how to clean that up, because most of us still do not know what and how to change to keep our lives clean. That has been the beauty of blogging for some of us who dared to connect authentically, we did grow.
I enjoyed sharing what I was finding out, however blogging is obviously not the way forward for me at this time. If I have something to say I might be back.
I too am grateful for the friendships I have made and I too I’ve you, I’m sorry, please for give me, thank you. And if you come to New Zealand it will be great to hug for real. xox Wilma
Hi Wilma,
I applaud you for making the decision to step away from blogging since it’s no longer meaningful for you. To me, you’ve always seemed like a woman who has learned the lessons of letting go and releasing the things that don’t support your values or your life. It’s been a through-line on your blog, and I’ve always enjoyed reading your personal stories and your deep sharing. But I also imagine it must be awfully hard to start an online business in the current climate. And I agree with what you and Chris say about personal development in the blogosphere; I don’t think there’s much interest in a depth approach.
Interesting, too, that Evan mentions Mark Silver. I’ve participated in some of his classes, as well as Molly Gordon’s (they work together sometimes), and it’s helped me to link business with spirit, and better understand who and where my “just right” clients are, as well as what they truly need and want. It also woke me up to the fact that fans, friends, and followers aren’t necessarily clients. Now I’m way more relaxed about my blog, have unhooked from the demands of the computer, and focus on the joy of writing. Anything else that comes from it is just icing on the cake. Of course, it helps too that I’ve been caring for a sick cat this summer; he provided an unexpected wake-up call.
Well, my friend, I’ll miss your wise words but think of you often in paradise. Take good care! xox
Patty – Why Not Start Now?´s last blog ..Meaning Mondays- The Smallest Things
Dear Patty, I can tell you it was NOT an easy decision to stop but the results spoke for themselves and I could not crank my presence up any more without losing integrity.
I can agree from personal experience; . . .
If you take your life seriously, I was not joking when I said it takes courage. It takes courage to really see what is going on, it takes courage to admit what you can and can’t do, it takes courage to face your motivations, it takes courage to let go and handle the consequences.
An on-line community in which women shared their wholesome ‘what is so’ in a loving environment that encouraged honesty and where they could find an alternative to their thinking, was a dream of John and mine.
There is so much more about living we do not know, there is so much false conditioning going on, that is invisible to us but detrimental to our quality of life.
In a loving community those beliefs and conditioning could have been exposed in gentle ways and then corrected. It has happened in my own life and although it has not always been easy to recondition myself, it is so worth it as you know.
You are learning to play instead of living your life blinded by duty and fear and look at you. My friend, you keep playing and sharing your message, we will all in our own way add to the vibes that will bring the change and have us be responsible, authentic and in-integrity co-creators. Change will come, much love, Wilma
Hi Wilma,
I hope you know that what you’ve shared with us has been immensely valuable. The way you’ve opened your heart, shared personal stories so openly, and invited us to join the proverbial table — all of this has, to me, always felt genuine, inclusive and most especially, loving.
I take much from all the wisdom and love you have given us here and in the comments you’ve left in our blogs. One of which is the phrase “love-in-action”, a phrase whose meaning I will continue to find out as it relates to me and my relationships.
I wish you and John much love. I don’t know how to fully express how grateful I am to have met you and interacted with you, Wilma, other than to offer a sincere though trite-sounding thank you.
Be well and much love,
Belinda
Dear Belinda, thank you and I encourage you to keep finding out the immense power and value behind the words, being Love-in-Action. If we all lived from this principle, imagine how the world would look like. The problem is that that image will be so far off what we know, that it is actually hard to imagine what being Love-in-Action will create. Robin Easton often gives us a whiff of what it might look like, but she runs the risk of people thinking she is too far out.
Much love to you, Wilma
Hi Wilma and John – as you know I’d been dearly want to participate in your course – but the timing was not right .. and now, for now, it is not to be .. It came as a body blow – one that I’ve had difficulty thinking about – because so many other things were happening and I’m just getting to grips with a course, then I was going to hit your WLM button – and thing were on course.
I quite understand the need for you both to do what you need to do and am so grateful that you are able to make that decision and move away for a while – sit in your vacuum – sounds bliss.
I’m so pleased the blog will stay up – & perhaps I will readjust my time and start reading your blogposts from the beginning, which will give me some insight into WLM. Timing, timing .. sometimes things just don’t happen ..
Your programme sounds wonderful .. and I do hope you can go some way sometime to bring it back .. in the meantime – enjoy your peace and quiet without a toxic cyberspace …will you do FB occasionally still?
I expect to stay in touch .. and look forward to that contact and that stimulation ..
For now – relax, enjoy the start of Spring .. and the summer to come .. with love and thoughts – xoxoxo HIlary
Hilary´s last blog ..Under Sea Sussex – Tompot Blenny- Piddock- Devonshire Cup Corals and Jewel Anemones
Dear Hilary, as I often have said to you, I have admired your integrity. You responded, you connected, you acted and that I value. Making connections with people like you and sharing what is going on in our daily life and supporting each other with another point of view that could be useful has been awesome. I would say, you were part of WomenLikeMe because you did interact at a deeper level beyond just commenting on this blog.
You saw a possibility and took it and I thank you for that.
Of course we stay in touch, great news about the flat, much love, Wilma
Dearest Wilma, I will miss your posts, I will re-read the old ones. To do what we want and need to do to continue on our journey is so very important. Blessings!
Erin S.´s last blog ..A New Door
Thank you Erin, it is important to pay attention to results and motives, in a honest and open way, rather than closing our eyes and pretending all is well while keep doing the same old same old.
Life is too precious for that, much blessing to you, Wilma
Wilma,
I wish you much love. I wish you great peace. I wish with all my heart your detox renews and enlightens to even higher levels of achievement. Every ending is a new beginning. All my best to yours.
Always xoxo,
Angelia
Angelia´s last blog ..I wished for a cool breezy wind
Dear Angelia and thank you. May your wedding be awesome and you life with Jason and all your girls be heart-centered Love-in-Action, thus creating an environment in which all can thrive and bloom. That is what I wish for you, xox Wilma
Dear Wilma and John
I confess that although I have been on the list, I haven’t often taken the time to ‘go and read it’. In fact, I nearly missed this one.
I applaud you for your decision – I’m sorry things didn’t work out the way you planned.
However, the work that you have done, and the love and learnings you have poured out, has been an end in itself, that you can be proud of. It is there for others to learn from. (I’m sure the English teachers in my family would be appalled at two sentences in a row that finished with a preposition!)
Enjoy your nature setting, and send out the love, as per Joe Vitale in “Zero Limits”.
Cheers
Janice
Hey Janice, I am sure you are safe as no English teacher will be reading self development blogs.Schools are not a great place to create growth environments.
Yes, there are times when voluntarily letting go is what is needed, and I rather do it this way than wait for a crisis.
Thanks for your email, I will respond to that as well. Much love, Wilma
Dear Wilma,
So sad… I cried a little…. And yet with your words you’ve proven to me what I’ve suspected that there is very difficult to try and make a living out of this type of in-depth self-development. Personally I would rather participate with real live people in real life workshops, as I have in the past. Perhaps I should move to NZ and set up house next door? You words have rung so true to me lately and I am really sad to have you disappear out of my life. Quite a few bloggers I have been following have quit their blogs over the last few months – many of them choosing, like you, to live the talk.
All the best, Wilma and John. I so wish that I could retreat to a place of nature with someone I love, instead of being stuck in this cramped, unlovely environment, I call home, without anyone to help or talk to… I’m so scared that I’ll be stuck here for ever….
Dorothy´s last blog ..Being loved
Dear Dorothy, I am in total agreement that a physical closeness is the ultimate. Then we could absolutely go for a complete immersion in living life differently and supporting each other in creating a healthy environment which would make us thrive.
Oh Dorothy, we are NOT supposed to live alone in a mostly toxic environment, you are so honest in declaring that. The hardest part is now to create one that will serve you and that takes time but can be done.
Wouldn’t it be cool if this blog community could all live next door, you can see what I mean with creating a community. I am not sure about a life course, often it creates a feel good time when you are on the course but when you go home, it is back into the mud and before you know you are dirty again. Very seldom do we go for sustainable change as that takes a lot of doing and looking at a lot of areas in your lives. We had 14 topics on WomenLikeMe which all needed to be cleaned up and were all interconnected.
Change doesn’t happen overnight and Dorothy, do not give up your honesty and your inquiry how life could be. It might not look that great right now, but at least you are paying attention, you are looking at what you would love to change and that is where things start. My blog posts might be useful for you to read as they cover quiet a few things you are paying attention to. And I am sure that you will NOT stay stuck, you will find a way out, but you need time to find out what and how. Much love to you, Wilma
Dearest Wilma,
Because I have been actively responding to the BP spill since it occurred in April, I have been virtually absent from the virtual world and let my own every day journal/blog on letting my ego go, go. I hope to start writing once more in the future b/c I realized that while there can be negatives associated with my virtual world, it was b/c of my being “out there” that I met a wonderful woman like you and realized I was not alone in my struggle with my irksome ego. I was so touched when you read my posts, responded to the tales of my journey and so honestly shared yourself with me. It was amazing to me in some ways that someone in NZ could be so far away and yet so close and it was a wonderful gift. You are clearly a gift to your partner, your friends, your family and all the women (and men I’m sure) who you have touched with your presence here in cyberspace. I understand and respect your decision to move forward on your journey but I just wanted to thank you for reaching out to me. It was very special just as you are a very special person. Thank you and all the best in life! XO Dayle
Dear Dayle, cool to hear from you and receiving your wonderful words. It has been a privilege to follow your inquiry and your observation of your Little Voice, your destructive ego talk.
It showed me how we need to pay attention to our thoughts and what comes out of our mouths and how that can shape our lives.
I wish for you that your continued paying attention to that ‘ego’ will bring peace and joy into your life.
Although often it is very disturbing to observe yourself and your environment, it is worth it as then the clean up can begin.
Much love, Wilma
Wilma,
I am so sorry to hear this, because I will miss reading your blogs. I’ll be looking back at ones I’ve missed and keep reading because I know they are full of so many helpful concepts and practices.
I am happy that you are doing what feels good for you and being true to yourself, that is the most important thing and I congratulate you for making the decision you have. I’m not sure how easy it was or was not.
I hope we can keep in contact and I thank you for all that you have shared with me these last couple of months. Your support has meant a lot to me, but I am looking to do the something similar: take a break from blogging or maybe even quit all together. I’m looking forward to living more “in Integrity” myself and that means taking a break from the computer and the tie downs to it and immersing myself more in my immediate surroundings.
Thank you again.
Love,
Kristie
Hi Kristie, these decisions are NOT easy, let me tell you.
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Being amongst friends has been valuable, having a routine is soothing and John and I so wanted to make a difference, we so wanted to share what we have found out about how women can change living lives that do NOT serve them. After years of effort and THEN courageously paying attention to the wholesome ‘what is so’ to see if the emperor had clothes on or not, was indeed very hard. This is not a hobby, we also do need to have an income somehow; to admit it is not working after all the efforts we put in, is NOT easy. But somehow the internet is not the playground for us so we go back to our physical surrounds which luckily are not bad
Kristie, the main thing is really paying attention to your intent when you do things and keep checking if the results and intent measure up. If they do not measure up, if that means letting go, let go and yes as we have been programmed to go for comfortable and familiar, we often do not let go and nothing changes, we slog on.
Well we are NOT here to slog on, we are here to create thus we let go.
However for the time I did blog I have met women like you who did pay attention and took the trouble to share that it did add value. Thank you for that, we are all the richer for it.
Much love, Wilma
Yes, being aware of the intentions behind our actions/words makes total sense. It seems like such an obvious thing to do, yet how often do we actually do it? I’ll be sure to start doing this more often in my day to day. I know that if I am genuine and act from my heart than I can live in-integrity. I know now how important that is thanks to you. Although I’ve always considered myself as someone with integrity, I never thought to be so conscious about it.
I’m glad that you are doing what will make you happy and what feels good for you. You are the one who will know it best when it doesn’t feel right anymore. Congrats to you for being brave and doing what isn’t easy!
Love
Thanks Kristie and yes we very seldom really know the meaning of words these days. We hardly ever use the word intent and yet that is what we need to pay attention to and then take action. However the world actually doesn’t support paying attention to intent, we might rebel if we do and I do suspect we will. xox Wilma
Dearest Wilma,
Noo!! You cant just leave……why not like publish a post once in a while when your passion strikes?? Ok Ok..i know you have your heart set..and you know in your gut what feel right for you. I support you completely…but also know that just because i support you doesn’t mean I’m not gonna miss you.
I might not have commented all that often…but I read every post. You are such a wise soul Wilma….I will miss you terribly. I am in tears….
I do hope and pray for your immense success….in all branches of your life. May you flourish and fly like sunshine & Rainbow…
So Much Love to you,
Z~
p.s. if you ever want to write my blog is always open to you…always. Love you lots and lots.
Zeenat{Positive Provocations}´s last blog ..5 Fun Quick Fix De-Stress Tips
Dear Z, as I said to Kristie, it has been interesting to play in cyberspace and noticing that it is not the environment for me and my temperament, obviously.
How many friends and connections can one have and feel comfortable, authentic and in-integrity?
As you know, there is a lot of potential to live life differently supported by a community on the internet and a lot of possibility for understanding and oneness.
It is so cool to connect with somebody like you in India for example. However as I am for change not just connections, we built WomenLikeMe to create a loving intimate community where we all could support sustainable change in each other.
As that has not happened, I can no longer afford to deny that result and although I absolutely loved all your company, I need to do things differently to follow my intent.
I have been thinking about sharing my other adventures and who knows.
It is so like you to offer a place on your blog and I will absolutely take up your offer if I have the urge to say something.
I remember to be one of the first ones to comment on your blog, we go a long way.
You take care, much love, Wilma
Oh, Wilma, you’ve just shined a huge light of acceptance for me… Though our reasons for blogging are quite different, I understand, so very well, what you’ve been experiencing. You feel like you’re the only one hearing what you’re saying. You see the same “cocktail party” atmosphere online as in physical life. …so much quick talk, so little depth, so much quid pro quo. So often I would wonder what it was I wasn’t ‘getting,’ why it didn’t sit so comfortably for me, why I felt like the oddball. You’ve voiced it for me, thereby gifting me with acceptance, with not being an oddball.
I would end my day feeling like I’d been a hamster on the spinning wheel, exhausted after running in circles with nothing much to show for it. I doubted, questioned, thought of quitting so many times. Something kept pushing me to continue, but I couldn’t go on as I was. And then it dawned on me: I am not a blogger. Blogging is my practice. And so I continue…
But I’m still finding as you, that my real life, my main life, the life that feeds me and IS me continues to suffer. I make adjustments, comment only when I have something meaningful to contribute, reduce the number of blogs I read to only those who provide deeper meaning in my life, reduce the amount of commenting I do even on those… Reduce reduce reduce… Even as my commenters fall away, my readership continues to inch up; someone finds value. My practice is useful to me and others, it appears, so I continue.
In continuing, in striving to give more of myself back to main life, I’m learning to look more inward, to more meaning for me personally, to finding the value in the refining I’m practicing. I’m learning more about balancing my needs with my wants, about doing for the practice rather than the reward—and finding reward IN that… So I continue blogging for me. Along the way, my friendships with those who do understand, who do seek depth and purpose, are deepening even farther, and online friendships that bloomed have blossomed into real offline “family.” They are few, yet more powerfully rewarding than I could have imagined.
You aren’t alone. I know others who doubt… We all find our own way, and while sad to see you leave, I understand completely, and my heart soars at knowing the bounty you will receive. In fact, my eyes are tearing with happiness for you. You feel a loss right now, yet you are about to gain so very much… reclaim so much… And something new will find you, when the time is right.
You’ve given me much, and I thank you with love in return.
xoxo ~Julie
Julie´s last blog ..Existence
Dearest Julie, I hear you and thank you. As you say, being validated adds extreme value to our well being.
Mine and John’s intent was to make a difference in people’s and our own daily life by building a safe and encouraging environment in WomenLikeMe to clean up the women’s act in relationship to themselves and others. We have so many misconceptions that influences how we act in such a detrimental way and it is time to face those and change them.
I do agree that blogs can add value by sharing an useful different point of view. However as you say, I have to look at where my priorities lie. Mine are with creating change by creating a non toxic environment for people to face their own lives AND get encouraged to take action to do things differently. A blog on its own will not get people to act, so I had to stop.
I am now looking forward to spending my time focusing on cleaning up the physical environment here where I live, John and I are planning a community garden so people can once again see and eat real food. I also need time to earn money and to be in my own garden and learn the new ways of connecting with energy fields and nature intelligences.
There is so much for me to do off line now I am letting go of creating a safe and non-toxic community on-line.
I hear what you say, if we sincerely and authentically give, everybody always benefit and I do accept that my blog has contributed.
I too am grateful to have met amazing people who are also sincerely going for change. You are right, we are NOT alone and that is wonderful to know.
Much love, xox Wilma
Dearest Wilma and John, It does not surprise me that one of the MOST shining lights that has ever been on the interent and in the world, would choose this path. Of course, It makes perfect sense. Although I’ve not been able to comment as much as I used to due to work, I read everything you write, and have read John’s page probably 3 times, simply because you are real.
I think what blogging has done for me is make me realize how many good people there are in the world. Somehow my culture taught me that the world was full of “bad” people. That is not true. I’ve met the most amazing souls through my blog, and know that the world is full of good people. I’ve met you.
The other thing that blogging has done for me is to help me find my “voice”, and to better understand aspects of myself through the beautiful feedback of my friends, the people who share their wisdom and heartfelt insights. It also has helped me find my own boundaries and balance. I am learning each day what to let go of and what to keep. (Like Julie said) I am also learning that I can’t do it all, nor do I want to. I can’t be all things to all people.
What is more amazing is that I was wrapping a package to send you and I told my sweetheart that I had this sudden hit that you would leave blogging. I just didn’t sense how soon it would be, or maybe I DID. I just understand your reasons so completely. It is not the end of something; it is the bright, free, beginning of something so grounded and PRESENT.
Sometime when we meet I would love to talk more with you about this, and a thousand other things. I will miss you deeply, seeing you here. But I don’t have to see you here to feel you always with me. You both are great leaders of your time. Meeting you has changed my life. There are a hundred feelings in me right now and I really have no words. I just know that what you are doing it right. It’s brave. It’s beautiful and heart centered. I love you both, always. Robin
Dearest Robin, yes you too are one of the treasures blogging brought into my life. Absolutely. You have sung the image I have been looking for for so long.
You showed me in your words how life is supposed to be lived and that is surely one of the most precious things I have gained.
However how much I loved connecting at the deep level that I did with some of you, I can no longer afford the time to give to blogging.
As I said to Julie, my calling is to create non toxic environments so people can have a place in which they can let go of their conditionings that limit them. I so hoped that WomenLikeMe would thrive because that is the place where I could really interact and connect at a level that could bring about change for women and would pay the bills for us.
It didn’t happen and that is okay but that also means that the blog no longer fits my intent. I am not about words, I am about supporting change that will lead us to the beautiful images you share on your beautiful blog and in your book.
We all have our place in this world, mine and John was the internet for a while and now will be in our physical community and our own garden space.
Even gardens and nature need cleaning up by us humans, our out of integrity has done great damage to nature’s energetic well being and it is time to focus on that.
As you have so profoundly experienced, in pristine environments and only some nature environments are left pristine, we are encouraged to also return to our pristine origins. John and I with nature tend to do just that.
Oh sweetest Robin, I too am so grateful to have found you and to feel soooo connected. We are so different and so the same.
We are cleaners, we are committed to get each and everyone of us to shine, in whatever way we are called to do that.
I know your call to action at the moment is not precisely what you had in mind, mine is not what I expected to do either, yet we have to follow the path for the greatest good.
I have no idea how the path will look like, what I know is my intent and my heart.
Dearest Robin, thank you as always for your beautiful image, from your book;
Much love always to you too, Wilma
I’m speechless and well, just speechless right now. I’ve been missing you and thought last week that I should track you down… and now here I am and…
Denise´s last blog ..Be A Better Blogger- Whats Going On In the Mosque at Ground Zero Controversy
Hey Denise, you generous soul. it is funny how you have been on my mind with the BlogHer conference going on, I have read your story about how it was for you.
Yes, blogging has been interesting, it is a very powerful medium and yet no longer for me.
You and TW take care, give Nell my love and I admire your commitment to women bloggers. Much love, Wilma
Dearest Wilma and John, I just can’t stop thinking about you and how much I will miss seeing you here. I will always feel you near and around me. And I understand this choice SO WELL. In fact, sooooooo well that you wouldn’t even need to explain.
At the same time I am letting myself cry right now, it just feels right. It is my way of honoring you both. And at the same time I am REJOICING for you. I am cheering you on. So many have forgotten their roots; you have not.
I am grateful for the great BEAUTY you shared here so openly and lovingly. When I hike a mountain trail, or am on the water in my raft, you will be with me, always…of course. When the time is right we will meet one day, and sit and talk soul to soul and heart to heart. We already do this. What you have given here is a great gift to the universe. You changed lives Wilma and John, soothed hearts and confirmed so much for so many.
I want to say to you a line from my book: “Let your soul grow like the rainforest, a wild teeming menagerie that thrusts forward without a backward glance, without explanation.”
Live deep,
Without regret.
Without shame.
Let yourself be the Life you ARE.
Live like the Wild.
I love you dearly,
Robin
Robin Easton´s last blog ..There is No Separation
Wilma, Wilma, Wilma…
I need more time to respond as I am conference hopping madly this month. What I will say for the moment, before I return and convince u how much we all care, is to please, please lower your expectations.
If I were in the right place @ the right time, of course I would join but right now? With all I am juggling in my life? I can’t.
It is my hope that we don’t lose you completely for you and John are truly beautiful people.
Jillian´s last blog ..Be the Best Image of Yourself
Hey Jillian, I know it is very tempting at times to think that our levels of expectations are to blame for not getting the results we intend.
It is never the expectations, never, it is always the ability to honestly and courageously look at the wholesome ‘what is so’. It didn’t work and it wasn’t the right thing and why? I do not know but I do know it is no longer sustainable and thus ’stop’.
THAT is indeed a skill we addressed at WomenLikMe, we often hang on to things that we need to let go and as we hate letting go we find all kind of ways to prevent it or to make what happened wrong.
Dear Jillian, I too have had those moments of what did I do or not do, could I have done this differently or that, in the end those are useful debriefing moments BUT not useful to fully explain the why.
I now just accept the time has come to quit, I might not fully like it or feel comfortable and yet, the results spoke for themselves and something needed to be done differently. Life is a flow of things that happen, if you fight them you will struggle, if you go with them, who knows. I am learning to live this way, I too have my moments of not wanting to accept and to dwell and feel it is unfair and blah blah blah, but in the end life has a way and I am learning not to resist to face the wholesome ‘what is so’ and act.
Much love, Wilma
Hi Wilma,
I needed a day to process your words…
Thank you for your candor. Thank you for sharing your decision with us…
Yours is one of the blogs I greatly enjoy visiting..sometimes you challenge me to stretch, inspire me to just be, encourage me along on my path..but always there was a precious gift for me to take away..the knowledge that you *get it* and you live it…
I’ve shared many times I am greatly inspired by the relationship you and John have and I hope to be sharing in such a genuine way someday…
You sound discouraged…I do hope that you realize the best part about what we all share through our blogs or in life is that we are planting seeds..some blossom now, some far later in the future..some blossoms we celebrate together, some we may never know about..but each seed planted counts in myriad ways..your energy through this blog was well placed..you touched many hearts, changed many lives..and for that I thank you..
I do not understand your decision, but I do support it…
Much peace today and always…
Joy´s last blog ..Fearless Fun Friday- Random Facts…
Dearest Joy, John and I indeed have a treasure filled relationship and that is precious.
We all are meant to relate to one another in such an encouraging, open and accepting way, THAT is how we human beings thrive. That is the environment so different from the toxic ones we are currently having to endure.
We live in mental, physical and spiritual fog and even our energy cannot always lift that, but collective energy can. THAT is why it is important to look at whom you allow in your environment as you also so astutely wrote in one of your blog posts.
I am not discouraged, I am facing a result that is not serving me. As you know blog writing takes a lot of time for me, responding and connecting at the level I desire too takes a lot of time and I do no longer have that time available.
John and I need an income and it is either blogging and living in the van or letting go and being able to pay the rent.
I had planned to continue on the path John and I set out on with WomenLikeMe, but as you too know, sometimes apparently we need to follow another one.
I do look forward to connecting with the physical community where we live, there are things to do there as well and people to connect with.
It is interesting how life unfolds, I have enjoyed your sharing as well and seeing your life unfolding.
I do accept my contributions, I have no doubt about that and I also have to accept that I am not to blog professionally and to have an online business. I cannot cope with the sheer quantity of connections I have to make to get WomenLikeMe noticed and to cope with the noise that is around.
So be it. However I am not disregarding the few in depth connections I have made, of which you are one. For those I am grateful.
Dear Joy, much love on your path, much peace always . . . xox Wilma
Dearest Wilma and John,
Wow Wilma, I’m shocked and NOT shocked all at the same time. I sure teared up while reading this post I’ll tell you! I am sure you both gave this great consideration and I respect you for your decision even tho I don’t like it! Wilma you have given us sooo much – so many challenges to our thinking and behavior. Please don’t think that just because WLM didn’t fly that it was any lack of what you offered. Frankly I think its strictly economics for the most part.
Having said that, I know exactly what you mean about there being a level of superficiality in cyberspace. Yes I’ve met some incredibly cool people but cyber “friendships” are pretty fleeting – people come and people go – there is hardly what you would call a commitment to anything – it’s pretty loosey goosey.
In one of the comments there was the suggestion to lower your expectations. I might disagree with that. I would have NONE – as I do now with my blog and shift I am making into preventative medicine, nutrition etc. I am putting it out there. That’s it. I know it is valuable information. I am not trying to convert anyone tho I have the enthusiasm of an evangelist for the subjects I write about. If it helps anyone, fine. Beyond that I expect nothing. I’m doing it because I want to and that’s it.
When I finish school and get a webpage (somehow) for my nutritional coaching I will probably quit Erasing but link it to the webpage and continue writing health blogs somewhere or other – haven’t figured this out but I’ve “found myself” in terms of what I want to write about. Will I ever bring Millie back? Yeah, maybe in a book!
Whatever.
I will miss your challenges – you had this old gal diggin deep on more than one occasion! I will most certainly miss your comments – but if you do get into cyberspace please stop by – you just never know what crazy thing I’ll be writing about! I sure would love to keep in touch via email since I’d love to hear about where your path is leading you – I care Wilma, I really do care! I don’t know if your email address is in my computer’s address book (I KNOW I know, I need lessons!) but here is mine and I do hope you and I can keep in touch – as friends – real friends!
HUGS HUGS and More HUGS,
suZen
joyisours@sbcglobal.net
suzen´s last blog ..The Sum of Summer
SuZen, hear hear to all you are saying and I know when you are passionate about something you have to share it.
I love how you make us aware of the toxins in our food and cleaning products. People hello! wake up! to what you currently eat is no food and what you clean with is real poison.
Who needs war when we are killing ourselves?
I love that you too are on a mission and will not sit by letting people do these things to themselves.
I too will not sit still however I have to choose what I do wisely so I am covering all my bases.
I can no longer put it out there in cyberspace for the moment but I do appreciate your words of appreciation. Getting SuZen, with the wisdom of Milly, thinking is quite a feat, haha. I know you care SuZen, I know and you are of course are amongst the treasures I have found.
We are both on about toxins and how can we not stay in touch now we got the emails sorted.
Let’s get on with our passion and get to that tipping point quick smart before there are only a few healthy people left.
Hugs Wilma
Kia ora Wilma,
All I can write is that for me your place has created ripples which have run through my life, in discussions with Tara, of who I am looking at in the mirror, and who I am trying to be. That has helped me become braver, and stronger, and more hopeful I am on the right path for me. That means a lot to me, so to both you and John I write Thank You, and may the mountain breeze blow gently upon you. Stay in touch. Kia kaha!
Aroha,
Robb
Robb´s last blog ..Whereabouts Unknown
Kia ora Robb.
It is my turn to say thank you to you, first for really listening and do-ing something with what you heard, for that I am really grateful. Secondly I want to thank you for your own blog and seeing the power in nature. We are blessed in New Zealand with a lot of good energy and some great scenery and it is important that we recognize that. Nature needs healing just as we do.
Robb, Kei te aroha au ki a koe,
Aroha Wilma
Wilma, you are a super-cool lady, and I admire you for trusting yourself enough to follow your own path and know what kind of life you want to lead.
Good luck on all!
xoxo
Jannie Funster´s last blog ..10 Great Mysteries of The Universe- 3
Hey Jannie, you are cool yourself with your singing and your song writing.
It is one good thing that we do get peeks into the lives of some wonderful people and you and Kelly are good people to have peeks at.
You go well too, may you write many more songs, much love, Wilma
Dear Wilma, you have made such a great impact with this message. You have allowed us to seriously ask ourselves where we are now and where we are truly headed. Are we really progressing towards real change? Or are we merely socializing superficially, boosting our egos and saying things people want to hear?
I have not always been an avid commenter, but I do read a lot, and I have been helped a lot by inspirers like you. I believe there are many out there whose lives you’ve also touched but have not been able to share or return the impact you have made in their lives.
I wish you joy and love wherever you may go. At the end of the road, we may all reunite with one another and realize that we’re all headed towards the same paradise.
Joyce at What Would You Do In Heaven´s last blog ..Look Not On What You Have Lost
Dear Joyce, it is great to hear you say this;
For me this blog has been about seeing the lipstick on each other’s and then on our own teeth and then cleaning it up.
Only from observing we have a chance to see where we are so we can go forward.
There is a lot of noise in our lives, noise that distracts us often from our own thoughts and our own contemplations.
I am not just about writing though, blogging was about connecting with people to support them to make changes once they could see the toxic behavior they are engaging in.
I am very pleased to have made a contribution but the results I intended were different and thus I need to move on.
I appreciate you speaking up and wishing me love and joy, I wish you the same and yes in the end we will all end up in heaven on earth. Much love, Wilma
Hi Wilma,
I have always admired you and my face lit up every time I saw your avatar around the blogosphere. In fact, when I very first dipped my toes into the blogging community, before I even had a blog, you touched my spirit. Thank you.
I can tell you without a doubt that I love you, Wilma. You have been a positive force in my life. While I did not comment often here, I was always reading from afar. Thank you for all the work you’ve done in cyberspace, and for trusting your intuition.
Huge hugs to you and thank you for everything. I appreciate you more than you’ll ever know. I agree with Jannie, you are one cool chicka.
~xo
Lori ´s last blog ..Closer to Fine
Dearest Lori, I know you were reading from afar, you did let me know. It is an interesting journey to pay attention to the wholesome ‘what is so’ AND THEN acting upon what you see. It also takes stillness to get to your inner thoughts, and that reminds me of your post about the floating tanks. Instead of a television, we all need one of those so instead of having our thoughts distracted, we all should be regularly left alone floating with no stimuli and thus getting a chance to access our pristine thoughts.
We are so much more influenced by our noisy environment than we are aware off and it also influences how we act, more than we often know.
I am looking forward to spend much more time in the garden and clean up the environment that way.
Dear Lori, you take care, I do hope Ms MS will be kept on the side line as long as you can. Thank you for your acknowledgments and much love, xoxo Wilma
Wilma: I have been away far too long. I have been caught up in eBook land and was just dropping by your site for some good morning inspiration and love
I will miss your blog and your insights so much, but it sounds as if you and John have made a decision that is best for you. I wish you all the best and am so glad that I was able to meet you. Thank you for all the inspirational messages and being a part of my own personal journey. You really are a special person.
Sibyl – alternaview´s last blog ..30 Traits of a Pleasant Person … Are you Pleasant
Dear Sibyl, thank you very much for your loving words and acknowledgments. Life is an interesting journey, never predictable, forever changing if we let it and are not clinging to the side of the river. It was hard to let go of the blogging, it was hard to allow the river of life to take me into the unknown, but if I do not walk my talk I am nowhere and nothing.
I have enjoyed your alternaviews too, the world needs a change of vision. Much love, Wilma
Wilma,
I’ve been an on and off visitor, but I’ve always appreciated your “voice.” You did something a lot of bloggers have difficulty with…you were able to get people to have conversations in the comment box about deep, intimate topics that touched others who visited. I know because I would read the comments whenever I visit. I don’t do that very often, but the ones at your site always touched something in my heart:~)
I hope that you will consider coming back sometime. I know you and John wanted to establish WomenLikeMe and I regret that it didn’t happen. But, you did do something pretty special in the blogosphere — you helped many people. You are what I would call a “touchstone” of healing.
Also, I send my thanks to John for being there and sharing this particular journey with you. Everyone needs that kind of supportive partner. So, thank you, John, for sharing Wilma with us. Also, thanks for correcting mistakes:~)
I will miss you very much:~(
Sara´s last blog ..Story Photo- The Book Cover
Dear Sara. That is an awesome gift you are giving John and me, I receive it with gratitude.
I too have been thrilled with the level of sharing that has been going on, we need each other to come to grips with our current skewed and unhealthy views on reality. I for one has become aware that what I think and belief is NO based on useful and healthy information. I no longer trust what I know, think or take for granted. Just like SuZen is making us aware about the dangers of the food we eat, I so wanted to make us aware of the danger of the mental food we have been and still are being fed.
And when one is honest enough to question what is going on, usually others dare to confess their confusion as well. I have been honored to solicit honest responses as there is where our collective chance to change lies. If someone dares to say the emperor has no clothes on, soon others will start to see the lies we have been fed, being it deliberately or unconsciously. Things need to change drastically and I feel privileged to have been able to voice my concerns and being heard. However it is obviously not the time for WomenLikeMe to flourish so John and I continue to live in paradise and paying attention to ‘what is so’ away from cyberspace for the moment.
Dear Sara, go well, I know that you are paying attention to your food from SuZen’s site, what we eat is important just as what we believe and think is important.
Much love, Wilma
Hi Wilma,
I only am aware of a fraction of what your are doing in your life and in your work, but as I read your post I wonder if you actually have any idea of the agent of change that you are. I discovered your comments on stepmom posts. Your comments always stood out as the most wise, deep and tangible for positive change. You even came to my site and gave me enormous gentle wisdom on my ego battle (still in play by the way!). You became the wisest presence in the online world of stepmoms, I can tell you that. As a result I would visit your site whenever I needed a kick in the ego butt, whenever things weren’t working, whenever I wanted a better relationship with my husband, whenever I felt unloved…You live a far braver life than me, and you inspire me to be a better person.
I can imagine that perhaps you didn’t receive enough connection in return, or a viable business didn’t bloom out of your efforts, or perhaps you just tired of it all. In any event, you will probably never know the vast number of people you have helped and inspired, and that is sad if it would make a difference to you on some level. I hope you find the right medium so you can act in integrity and continue to help others heal. It is a great gift to all of us that you have shared your wisdom and I hope outside of cyberspace, you continue.
Anyway, I thank you, and the on line community of stepmoms thanks you. I’ll miss your depth and your heart in my blogging circles and I look forward to somehow following your adventure.
Lisa Bagshaw´s last blog ..Downright Giddy
Dear Lisa, I hear what you say and thank you. I do believe that I have made an impact and I am grateful for you mentioning it. I did set out to share as much as I could because what I had found out over the years sure changed my perspective on life and made it so much more congruent with whom I wanted to be.
And yes, I do know I have connected with others BUT I could not sustain a growing circle without losing that connectedness and depth. THAT is what I do not know how to do, so although I do acknowledge the contributions I have made, they did not grow the circle of women I was reaching. And when I set out to increase readership, I could not keep up with the volume and the amount of noise I had to shift through. Oh dear Lisa, I do acknowledge your ability to listen and willingness to change things in your life and it has been precious for me too, to have ‘met’ you.
Although I thoroughly enjoyed connecting with women like you, I can no longer sustain the time I spend on the computer without a financial return. John and I need an income and I do not know how to achieve that and get women to join our WomenLikeMe program.
My main aim is to live as healthy mentally and physically and John and I are busy creating nutritious soil to grow nutritious food and at the same time become connected with our own inner knowing about how life is to be lived, without fear and struggle and with great joy.
I have no idea what is next for us on the internet, I have enjoyed sharing my journey and my findings as I do think in honest sharing a space is created in which we all can speak up and have a chance to examine our own beliefs and way of being.
In the meantime, much love and much gratitude, Wilma
Hi Wilma, I get back from vacation, start getting caught up online, and discover you have left! I respect your choice though, and the honest words you have spoken here. Sometimes the blogosphere feels like a big marketing party, everyone pushing their own thing. I sometimes feel that way too, although I don’t begrudge anyone trying to share their vision, as many people do have wonderful things to share.
I did really value your insight and wisdom. I feel like every blog I read does impact my thinking, and that is part of why I continue blogging and reading blogs. But you are right, it’s not conducive to deep relationships or ongoing work on its own. Private, small-group forums sometimes achieve that, I have found, for periods of time, anyway.
I do hope you revisit blogging, for yourself, some day. I am a very ‘loose’ blogger, as you may have noticed, with long breaks offline, posting and reading when it fits my ‘real life’. And I still find tremendous value in it, with connecting with so many different types of people and ideas. But I don’t really hope for anything more than that from it – and perhaps my low expectations is what has kept me going!
Well wishes to you, XOXO – Lisa
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Dear Lisa. I love how you are clear on how you fit blogging into your life; it is really important to watch where you spend your time and it is great to have that ability to monitor that. There is so much on offer these days and it is so very easy to get distracted. I too value what is on offer and I too have been selective where I spent my time. However I do have expectations, I do want us to pay more attention to our daily life where we can make a difference.
In the end knowledge is of no use when we do not apply it in our daily environment.
And I agree with you, we need support from people who pay attention to us when we are attempting to change. We cannot do these huge changes on our own, the status quo is too strong.
We can feel good about responding to blogs but when we are too busy to apply it and experience the difference that the blogs talk about, it is all wasted effort by the writer and the reader.
Oh Lisa, the world can be so much more than it is at the moment, and I do want to have expectations about changes that we can make in daily life. So if I cannot get people to commit on the internet to take change seriously, I pay attention. What I realized was that the effort took me away from having time to make my own connections with nature, it took me away from making my own daily changes, so I had to weigh off the benefits and choose.
I do not know what the fiture will bring, if there is a next blog it will be about my connctions with nature and its intelligence.
I too always have enjoyed your great down to earth explanations about the mystical side of us. Much love, Wilma
Hi Wilma
Wow, like many of the commentators above, I was caught with shock at first, but then as I read, a complete and understanding for your reasons…. I will elaborate more below. I know we do not owe anyone anything, and no one owes us anything, but I feel I need to excuse my late arrival here to take in this news….
Last week was our first “normal” week in our new home… took the last bit of August and beginning of September to get everything into the house, boxes unpacked and all… it is still not 100% done, but life is starting to unroll in our new habitat with a more naturally flowing pace.
I so hear, and feel everything you stated above. Why I was shocked was mainly because I had the feeling that WomenLikeMe was doing phenomenal (and I don’t mean according to society’s standards), but just by being such a beautiful, transformational place.
But again, I cannot say I don’t relate. I have been running EB & EW for over 2 years now, and there were days… less now, than at first, but still, where it makes me stop and think about the purpose of it all.
When I “awoke” about 4 years ago, and had a deep shift in my personal awareness and consciousness levels, all of a sudden everything started clicking into place. The veil was lifted and I found Heaven on Earth, I found a deep internal peace and everything felt so good…. then came the day, where I thought, if my life is so awesome, I want to help others as well in as many ways as I can. I was only too eager to go out and share my passions and hope to ease human suffering in the people around me, or who connected with me through my work…
But I too saw, that talk is cheap, people praise this or that, but not enough was being put into practice. This made me feel a little “out of peace”
People say they want help, but in the end, very few mean it. I always compare it to reading those inspirational posters, and doing nothing about the words, that seemed to apparently have such a “deep” impact on us. I just found that many people are not ready or willing to change their ways. While to me the absence of suffering, both on a physical and emotional/spiritual level is the norm and something I would think all people want, I learned that for many people it is not.
While I have enjoyed my writing immensely and this is why I personally continue, like you I found a whole other “world” out there that could be as toxic as the offline world. But like Robin, I also found the beauty of people more than ever as well – I met people like you and her! Thus, I knew I needed to stay conscious, just like offline and not fall into the toxic traps of getting caught up in have a certain set of blog stats, etc. This is why I stayed away from obsessively watching my stats, doing anything SEO and reading too many sites.
This is why when you said:
“Most bloggers are meaninglessly socializing, hardly going for any depth and hardly paying any real attention to sustainable change.
All I see is a lot of noise.”
it went straight to my heart, too often I too feel it and see it.
And the observation about Leo is a funny one, but unfortunately true. I guess for too many out there, to make something themselves or of themselves, they need to give others a quick fix – that is too much the way of our world still. But true change, peace and success is not in a quick fix or the band-aid approach, it is about truly creating a new world where authenticity, love and honesty shine above anything else.
So in the end, I again respect and totally understand your decision – good for you Wilma so much for being so authentic and true to yourself, and so forthright and honest with your audience.
You are in an amazing place, and at the end of the day that is all that matters
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Dear Evita.
Thank you for ‘hearing’ me and congratulations on moving into your new home, your space of love, your own garden of eden. It is so great to live in an environment that allows nature to feed the soul and the body at the same time. Nature is so waiting to collaborate as an equal partner.
Where to begin with responding to your awesome comment.
I agree, for most people change is obviously difficult, I only have to look at myself to see how living life differently requires a LOT of attention and support.
That is not only because we are unwilling, it is because of the crap we have been conditioned with. For me awakening was to pay attention to the premises I lived my life by and once I started to do that, what I observed was initially very shocking. I lived by so many premises that were so unfriendly to ME and humans in general, it was hard to believe and still incredibly hard to change them. In that respect I love Robin’s ‘Naked in Eden’ book, because for me it shows that it is not easily done.
It takes courage and a willingness to step away from life in the fast lane and not many people dare to do that. And I can understand that too, I would not have been able to do that either without John’s support and confidence and the new explanations that we discovered along the way.
Knowing that life can be different, like you and Robin also have discovered, is awesome, it is so encouraging and hope-giving, that I too felt so compelled to share and encourage people to start cleaning up their daily life to make the transition possible and less traumatic. For me too it has been wonderful to find like minded people via the internet who are living life differently, but in the end I can count them on my hands and that is not much and the amount of noise became very distracting. In the end I’d rather be out in the garden and sharing real food with people in our immediate environment than sharing mind food on the internet.
On top of that John and I still must make a living, we hoped to do that by creating a supportive environment where women could learn to walk their talk together, because on one’s own one has NO chance.
The decision to stop became obvious when we dared to look at the wholesome ‘what is so’. John and I are now dedicating our time to create a garden of eden on earth, to grow nutrition dense food as not all organic food is nutritious because their soil is still lacking goodness and we do that in collaboration with the nature spirits according to Findhorn’s and Machaelle Small Wright’s findings.
Dear Evita, I second your words;
So I will now return to live a daily life in nature in accordance to my new beliefs and use that to showcase it where I live, knowing that will send ripples just like a blog will send ripples.
Much love to you and Markus, may your new home surrounded by nature provide the soul nurturing environment that too will send ripples into the universe that will support the change, xox Wilma
Dearest soul friends, WIlma and John, You may never see this message as I doubt you check the blog often, and that is a good thing. I don’t need you to see my words for me to feel connected to you. My coming here is just a way of connecting with you both and honoring you both for what you bring to my life. I came here to just soak in the good essence of you both, and to tell you that you are always with me. Somehow seeing this so familiar page, once again, brought you both so vividly to life. It is a warm feeling, a familiar comforting feeling.
Seeing you both standing in the photo at the top of this post made me feel like you were waving to ME, instead of waving goodbye. It was such a happy feeling in me. I felt like a child who couldn’t read the words, so they put their own interpretation on the photo. And what I saw was you waving a friendly greeting to me.
I love you both and treasure all we share. I’ve been knee deep in book promo and yet it’s bring about a lot growth, clarity of purpose, clean decisions, questioning everything, and asking myself daily, “What is it I want? Where have I fallen asleep at the wheel? How might I do things differently? This is my life, how do I want to live it? What is possible? And what brings me life?
You are thought of often with much love, I admire that you are living your dream in your OWN way and in your OWN terms. That feels wonderful, healthy. You inspire me to do the same every day. I am waving back to you! Love, Robin
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Dear Robin, of course I will notice your message. I am not about to disconnect, I am about not spending my time where it is not productive. Seeing you here brought a big smile on my face and a lift in my heart.
You are such a bright light, one that I do want to feel the warmth of.
John and I are thoroughly enjoying our time in the garden and the focus on Nature. We just have returned from a 3 days intensive bio growing course and when you treat nature with respect and ‘inner knowing’, what it offers is just mind blowing.
I feel very priviliged to have become free in spirit, mind and time to take this all in, it shows life and who I am being in such a brighter light.
Oh Robin, yes I can imagine the merry go round you are on but as you keep saying if you keep driving it, you have no chance to fall asleep and your message is important and very valuable.
My dear friend, thank you for visiting, we journey together, much love as always, Wilma
Kia ora Wilma,
Like Robin above I too just pop in once in awhile to connect. There a few places I venture to refresh myself. This is one. Hope all is well.
Aroha,
Robb
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Kia Ora Robb.
All is well, thank you so much for connecting and actually asking. That is what I call paying attention. John and I are in fine form, looking at the basics of life which is living sustainable mentally, physically and environmentally. It is awesome to focus on living that way. We recently did a weekend course with Kay Baxter from Koanga gardens about bio intensive gardening. Veggies even when they are growing organically are not necessarily carrying the full nutritional values they can because the soil is not carrying all the minerals that are supposed to be in it. If you want to grow good nutritious food, you have to pay attention to the soil and that has been very interesting.
We have learned to make compost that has more elements in them to achieve good soil and to give us our minerals and other stuff that plants than can produce.
it is quite fascinating and absolutely a great way to give back to the earth what we have taken from it.
THAT is a very valuable focus and can in the end make all the difference to how we will live again, off the land with respect for all and everything concerned and doing it from love and knowing there is abundance. We are harvesting mandarins, academia nuts and cherimoyas. Have you ever had cherimoyas, they are an sweet fruit with lots of pips. We are so blessed in New Zealand as you know.
Robb, thanks for connecting, I am really appreciating it.
Much love and let’s keep honoring mother earth and nature, that is where the healing begins. xox Wilma
Wilma,
I wonder if you still look to see if there are replies to your blogs. It is the 14th day of December. A while since you wrote your last blog. Do you know how much you are missed? (I wrote you an email but am not sure it was ever recieved, hence, this reply so late.)
I found you through the blog with Glenda Green. I have loved the connectedness that I felt with you and others. I thought it strange that I felt this way with people I hadn’t met and yet, those that I know, I am having a harder time connecting with lately. It is as though they are still sleeping soundly.
I appreciate all that you have given. Your blog made me know that I am not alone. You have made an impact. I will continue to check in and read the blogs and posts already written for moral support. The replies, too, are helpful.
We have a fresh new blanket of snow here in Vermont, so the beauty of nature is getting us into the spirit of the Holdays. I send you and John ‘Glad Tidings’ and wish you many Joy-full present moments.
Debra
I am really happy for you. I will personally miss you a lot because I loved your blog posts. They were totally awesome. But I am really glad that you are heading on to something bigger where your passion lies, and I wish you all the best.
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