In Monday’s post; ‘Having faith to LET GO‘ I suggested that pursuing our desires was more than our childlike desires of wanting new things for Christmas or a romantic holiday in the sun, but something as Megan Bord and Jan Lundy recognized; it is our soul calling us to act, calling us to have the faith to LET GO and LEAP.
Aysel in her usual eloquent way named the dilemma for many of us when she explained her situation;
I loved the “half-pregnant” analogy – and that’s exactly my problem. I long for change yet I am terrified to leave the security and comfort I currently have. Happy or not – as long as secure….this life stance implanted in me by my parents is not easy to outgrow. So I set one foot towards change but the other foot stays motionless until I feel it’s absolutely safe to take this step. Waiting for the right circumstances which might never come. We can engage in this self-deceit that we are in the preparation stage, keep finding excuses for delays, but the sad truth is many of us never have the guts to complete the step. Defeated we crawl back into our dark cave thinking “maybe next time…” And of course there are always “circumstances” to blame, never ourselves.
Deborah Wall too identified this issue of testing the waters with one foot but not jumping in;
I’m sloshing my toe in the well of change,
However suZen is quite clear;
I don’t think they [taking leaps] are optional. What kind of journey would you have when your days are done if not for the markers of a leap here and there?
Good call SuZen, not leaping is not an option if we pay attention to the emptiness of the ’safe’ alternative. The Exception came through with a very practical query;
I am not sure how we learn to quiet the noise and hear our calling – and then find the backbone to live that path…
Both the question of how to find your calling and the backbone for living that path is what is on offer at WomenLikeMe. One thing is for sure as Belinda Munoz recognizes; we won’t find our calling as long as we keep looking outside ourselves and desire to copycat others;
It’s funny that you mention copycatting someone else’s steps. It’s an alluring concept if you believe that life can be boiled down to a formula; a one-size-fits all mold of sorts. But we all know deep down, even if on a superficial level we’d like to believe otherwise, that each life is unique. Each calling is unique. We each have to figure out what works for us, regardless of what so-called experts say will work for everyone.
So to get back to TE’s query, I agree with Belinda that; “we each have to figure out what works for us”. This is where WomenLikeMe is uniquely different from learning from “so-called experts”. You are your own expert and WomenLikeMe gives you a framework for experiencing your own ‘calling’ and the backbone to keep going when it gets tough.
Look how it is for Peggy;
I’ve been so busy following my calling that I’ve lost track of time…even now, I’m up and wide awake because being, doing, and creating the rest of my life is not tiring.
As I leap into the great unknown, I have no sense of “fear” ~ those niggling thoughts of self-doubt and anxiety are no where to be heard from right now. Maybe I scared them away?
Yes Peggy, there may be considerable truth in what you say; you scared your fears away with your unstoppable love for what you are doing. Fear cannot survive when love-in-action is what you do.