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On the Monday’s post; ‘She has no desires only goals‘ I described how my daughter is typical of so many of us; she has been taught to be goal focused, is achieving goals and yet lives an unfulfilling life where her unique personal desire and passion are missing. I too was once doing just the same, appearing successful but failing to love my life, until now that is.
Why might we choose ’safe’ goals over ‘unknown’ desires? Jenn shared her own experience of how her desires did not go to plan;
I stopped desiring things after an incident in my past where I made plans (full-out passionate plans) and then it got turned on me… I didn’t want to believe, and hope and desire again to that fullness… because I assumed it would be taken away again, and that was a lot of wasted good quality energy.
We all have seen our desires come to grief and leave us thinking we won’t do that again; lets play small instead. Little Voice then has the chance to come up with all kinds of justifications such as Jenn went on to share;
I think of it as selfish sometimes, or as an extra, or high-maintenance…
If I was to desire out loud, I feel it wouldn’t come true.
I secretly desire to … but I don’t want to believe entirely it could be real, or I might get crushed again.
…I feel what right do I have to desire too much … I don’t want to ask for more than I should and be ungrateful,
Many of us can recognize our own brand of Little Voice (ego) chatter that steadily undermines our right to desire and our courage to boldly declare our desires OUT LOUD for the Universe and everyone to hear. Congratulations Jenn for daring to declare your secret desire out loud on your blog.
Aysel sees clearly how goals are a set up by society and that goals on their own are not our desires at all or as she so eloquently puts it;
People spend years chasing the goal that was never theirs and once achieved they don’t really know what to do with the outcome… As a result we have a crowd that follows the same fit-all “dream” template to discover later on that apparently there was more than one train leaving the station. What a disappointment it must be to discover that you got on the wrong train after going such a long way, what a hassle to go back and start over.
We have a dichotomy here, between Jenn’s experience of struggling to come to terms with desires that do not go to her expected plan, giving her lots of grief and Aysel’s realization that we get persuaded to take the wrong train, and pursue a society inspired fit-all ‘dream’.
We each face the challenge of choosing between an apparently knowable society inspired dream or the Great Unknown of going for our unique desire. Peggy Nolan knows this;
Right now, I’m standing in the middle of this huge unknown landscape. I have no idea how things will turn out, I just know that I love being and doing what I truly desire. I’m excited, a little nervous…
I’m off and running towards my desire, with full open arms, and an open heart.
Robin Easton shares how it is for her to live in her desire’s Great Unknown;
Ever since I let go all that I thought I “should” be in society, and allowed myself to return to Nature and become what I ALREADY was and am, my life has taken me always, forever, into the arms of The Great Unknown. I embrace it willingly, hungrily, as my soul’s sustenance. The Great Unknown keeps me vitally alive. Even writing my book is a journey not of my ego, but rather a calling by Nature to let her speak through me, a calling that fills me with such intense Love that there are days I sit, write and weep because I’m filled with such piercingly intense Love.
While the ‘how’ of our desires belongs to the Great Unknown, it doesn’t mean that clear fixed goals, like milestones along the way, are not a useful and necessary part of the journey as Kristie Ryan recognizes;
I know what I do desire and I know that this job position will help to get me there.
A job or writing a book is a goal along the way, part of our desire rich journey but is not the desire itself. Once this is understood, it allows us to accept the challenges and difficulties as stations along the way; as part of our bigger dream. The details of our desires evolve too, an example of which Robin, the queen of living life from desire explains;
I am thinking of a way to bring people to ME and NATURE as opposed to me ONLY going to cities and towns to talk “about” Nature. It’s something that I feel will find it’s own course, if I just trust and “put it out there”. The way will reveal itself in the right time.
For a nature girl such as Robin, I can see that choosing to “go to cities and towns to talk ‘about’ Nature” is a considerable sacrifice that comes from desire and a true act of love.
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Dearest Wilma, John, and all the ASTOUNDING souls who come to Wilma’s precious circle, I am just blown away by the insights here. I am heartened by the way we are all learning to recognize the difference between a goal and passionate dream (or calling). And the difference between ego and the soul’s purpose or dream. Ego has many tricks up it’s sleeve to lure us away from our innocence, our sacred union with ourselves and the intimate pulse of Life.
Like Kristie wisely implied, we can set goals and use them as stepping stones, or in a sense “tools”. But they are NOT necessarily who we ARE, they are not necessarily “the soul of us”.
My goals and “callings” (dreams) can overlap, but if a goal—no matter how productive, no matter how well intended—left me devoid of passion and vitality, it would be the “death” of me, the death of my “soul”. I would forget who I REALLY am. I’d become disconnected from the essential core of Life, that which nourishes my soul, and lends me vitality and fearless Love. I think I would be like some machine or robot. I would have to walk away from ANYTHING that made me feel that way.
We may have all the money, prestige, and things in the world, but if along the way we forget who we REALLY are, we are lost to ourselves, lost to the world and those who love us, and lost to the Universe we are part of. Sometimes it takes Life bringing us to our knees to awaken us and set us back on our authentic path.
I live in a culture where millions of young people have been lost/abandoned to things, more and more things, more and more money, clothes, hot cars, million dollar homes (depending on the age). TV, ipods, and more. They have been told that these things ARE Life itself. Even in my generation I was sold this lie by my culture. And when nothing in my culture reflected back to me what I felt inside, I thought I had failed at LIFE itself. It wasn’t until I got beyond my culture into the bigger world of Nature that I experienced a WHOLE VAST world beyond my culture. It was sooooo HUGE and LOVING that it made my culture almost insignificant. This endless Universe that extends from a single grain of sand to the farthest star and beyond is MAGNIFICENT. Once I plugged into it, I plugged into truth, and my roots were so far reaching that I could never be deceived again. I was no longer confined (or DEFINED) by my culture, which was only a teeny part of the vast Universe.
From this vastness, things didn’t matter. Clothes, books, TV, radio, cars, money, etc. were only tools. Like goals…just tools. And for me, “the dream” was now reality. I was living “the dream”, and it had nothing to do with how many things or how much money I had. They might be part of it, but they were not “the dream” itself. Free of all this, I felt fearless, compelled to love, CALLED to Love…because Love is who we ARE.
We are so much more than we can imagine, and we are vastly larger than our social conditioning, vastly larger than ego, rules, supposed to be(s) and should(s). We are whatever we want to be. WE are Life creating itself. WE, you and me, are astounding.
Love,
Robin
PS Dearest Wilma, it was a MASSIVE honor to experience you this week on my blog. I cried, rejoiced and felt lit by a million mega-watts of Love. I don’t think I’ve EVER seen anything like it. You just rocked our world. All week I felt like this astounding miracle was happening inside me and in the world, and it was directly connected with WHO you ARE. I feel changed from it. There really are no words. You are a very very special soul. All my love, Robin
Robin Easton´s last blog ..Why I Love Robin
OMG!! I’m laughing my face off. I just saw how long my comment is. Oh my word!! LOLOL! Well, it’s how much you inspire me.
Please forgive and feel free to delete it. I won’t be offended at all. I’ve no attachment to it. LOL!! 
Robin Easton´s last blog ..Why I Love Robin
Dearest Robin, I too am sitting here laughing and with a big grin on my face. Erasing your comment, NEVER.
You write the heartfelt words everybody needs to have etched in their souls and in their minds. THIS IS IT;
Oh Robin, there is so much more to live and when we chase goals which are not part of -like Lisa Marie says – our larger divine desires, they are indeed just lies, pacifiers, like babies’ soothers.
Robin, the image you paint is there for all of us to see and yet it is still mostly hidden, this beautiful image of yours is there waiting for us;
We haven’t seen anything yet when we haven’t gone beyond our small reality, that of our ego and of our petty material goals. We ARE what you so beautifully describe here;
The whole vast creation will rejoice once we all finally access our greatness and our connection to the whole. Currently we play small and have developed bad habits, we lost the ability to see a grand image that draws us forward. YOU create that grand image, that is extremely important; as we can no longer see it we can no longer desire it, THAT is tragic.
Yes, we are astounding, we are living in an astounding world if only we allow its energy to touch us.
And dearest Robin, you connect me with an image that so inspires me, that so calls to me, honoring you is honoring that image that will ultimately makes me honor me.
The world is so much more than we see, you deserve every attention you are getting because you show us that vastness. I am honored to know YOU and that you claimed me.
With much love and tremendous gratitude, Wilma
I can’t help but comment on Robin’s comment – and I will make it short because I’m left speechless – WOW!!!
Aysel´s last blog ..Unattached – Free
Dear Aysel, I think that is the perfect comment and that from such an eloquent writer as you, that actually means a lot. Much love, Wilma
Hi Wilma — I can definitely identify with being on that treadmill, thinking that, if I achieve what you’re calling goals, people will finally become willing to help me achieve my desires — but that I have to “do my time” and “earn” their assistance. What I’m coming to see is that all that is unnecessary, which is a scary but interesting prospect.
Chris, it is amazing once we get away from our learned behavior what opens up. There IS a lot of unnecessary ‘doing’ going on, that leaves us tight, our brain undernourished and our wisdom unaccessible.
I am in total agreement and it makes me breath easily and deeply, when I hear you say this;
. . . and I relate the scary to the feeling I have just before I have to kayak through the surf. xox Wilma
Hi Wilma,
I am grinning from ear to ear because the energy on your site is amazing..my heart is so happy..your readers are stretching..(myself included)..we hear you..and we are applying your insights to change our lives..
Robin’s comment is incredibly amazing on so many levels..my heart *leaps* absolutely leaps at all that she expresses…
Thank you Wilma, for in allowing your heart to open to your dream, you are inspiring us all to open to our own dreams..such beauty! Such hope! Such love!
Joy, yes I am not surprised you ‘hear’ Robin and you know about desires and dreams.
Oh Joy, you are also finding the path to the life vitality and passion and yes, it is a path not trodden by many. I am thrilled that you feel supported, I am also honored as I know Robin is. We need to change, we need to access those feeling of love and passion and joy as you so eloquently express on your blog. We need to as that is the energy this world, the universe, the source and us get their life vitality from.
Nothing else and the sooner we get that the quicker the wold will change back into its pristine and wonderful Be-ing.
Joy, I am grinning from ear to ear now too because I know you are hearing and that is making my heart sing. As Robin says, being ‘claimed’ is all we can ask for.
Much love and much gratitude for you being you,Wilma
Hi, Wilma,
I love your questing mind. I love your honest introspection, your continual searching, uncovering, discovery… You invite me to put to voice thoughts I’ve not yet held.
I’ve learned to identify all my goals as end points of my dreams, and that to experience the living of my dreams as the bigger aspect. But even in that, they are just dreams, some huge, some tiny, some just for pleasure and some more in line with a more necessary part of life, of making life easier or more rewarding. But, still, they are just dreams. I have only one true goal and I’m learning to place the bulk of my focus on that: It is to fully be the shiny ‘me’ that I am. This is the lifeblood of my life, the single thread that touches everything and everyone that is a part of me, my days, my world. To be fully ‘me’ is my only true goal in life. The rest, all the fun dreams, all the lessons learned, all the diversions and hills and valleys, achievements and pinnacles… All that is the journey.
I love you. xoxo
~ Julie
Julie´s last blog ..In Others Words- 3
Dearest Julie, YES, I have only one true goal and I’m learning to place the bulk of my focus on that: It is to fully be the shiny ‘me’ that I am. This is the lifeblood of my life, the single thread that touches everything and everyone that is a part of me, my days, my world.
Imagine all of us shining, like stars, like the sun, touching everything and everyone.
OH Julie, and you know what, you already shine amongst nature as you claim what nature has to offer. Desires are contemplations that brings joy to all, to you, to nature, to people, to the universe and to the source as they all rejoice in your shining ambitions. As Robin says, it are the empty goals that keep us on the wrong track going nowhere and deplete us on the way.
I love you too as I bask in your shining presence. Hugs Wilma
This was a really good read Wilma – thank you for writing more about this topic.
I highly resonate with what Robin and Aysel have written. In fact, I mention this to people too, that I am glad I did not start writing my first book when I thought I should have, as it would have not been for all the right reasons. I needed to know that as Tess says “I am enough” always… with or without the book.
Wishing you a great weekend
Evita Ochel´s last blog ..Life with Unity- Getting Little to Grow Big! The Wisdom of 3 Years and 30!
Oh Evita, I have a high regard for writers and for writing itself. I find it hard work and imagine all that time writing for the wrong reasons while you could be outside and play!
I am pleased you had to find out that you were enough with or without a book as Tess said. While you were hiding writing we would have missed you here :~).
I am having a great weekend while yours still has to start; you enjoy the great outdoors, I am too as our winter is mild at the moment. Hugs Wilma
Dear Wilma, I have fallen a bit behind on reading and commenting here but am loving the insights from everyone. I think that in this easily distracted culture, we struggle making a distinction between basic things like goals and desires (one more mechanical, the other, more soulful). I for one am no stranger to overwhelm — which is why I choose not to have cable, I’m not active on social media outlets and prefer to slow things down than speed things up. I love how you always peel the layers off, no matter how subtle they first appear. Your blog is a gift. Thanks for all you do. xoxoB
Dear Belinda, there are a lot of layers to be peeled back, thank you for noticing. Nothing appears as it seems and it is worthwhile paying attention.
Then you can indeed see things like this;
Desires rest in the soul, goals are indeed the goalposts along the way. This distinction makes a huge difference to the journey as achieving goals is NOT a goal in itself. Understanding that keeps our journey flexible but our desires alive.
From a desire you can indeed NOT choose for overwhelm as you so astutely observe, from desire you can freely choose for do things from a place of peace and joy and take your time to smell the roses. Knowing this makes a HUGE difference to the quality of life.
Much love and I love your acknowledgment :~), xox Wilma
Hi Wilma.
Our wireless is down so I’ll make it short from my iPhone, I am in awe of your following, each of you more eloquent then the next.
Thank you for confirming that I am on the right path as writing is my passion. I know that if I persevere it will bring it’s rewards, it has to right???
Jillian´s last blog ..A Night Out on the Town of Nantucket
Dear Jillian, following one’s desire means being Love-in-Action and that is more powerful than we understand right now. Doing what you love doing will always bring huge benefits to you AND everybody and everything that is touched by what you are doing.
We have been told of course that what you love will NOT bring the bacon home, BUT that is to use Aysel’s words a fallacy. It brings home far MORE than the bacon; it brings happiness, health, generosity AND a ‘divine being’ home. Jillian, you will flourish when you do what you are talented for to do and the money will come. You do not have to know ‘how’, you just need to produce quality results from you being Love-in-Action and you will be taking care of. Those are the law of the universe, NOT the laws of the world we currently know so it is a bit weird to get to believe these laws but trust me these ‘new’ laws make so much more sense. Why do things that do not bring fulfillment, THAT is utter nonsense. Dear Jillian, you write beautifully and you keep writing and expect success and in the meantime know that all is well. Much love and thanks for visiting via your mighty iPhone, way to go, hugs Wilma
Hi Wilma,
My one desire is to love, give love, receive love, shine love,all love, love, love and really that is who we all are. There is nothing else. Nothing. And in that process all else falls away. Isn’t life grand. I love the photo of you and John and the wood.
Tess The Bold Life´s last blog ..Endless Summer Memories
I TOO just LOVE the photo here of Wilma and John. I loved the outfits and the whole “REALLY getting down to business, connection to the Earth, and life on the land FEEL of it”. I guess because I know it so well myself. Tess, have you been to Wilma’s Facebook page and looked at the photos there of John and Wilma? There are so many good ones, and the ones of them on the boat are beyond PRICELESS. You will see why when you look at them. I laughed, and ooohed, and aaahed, and literally felt like “I” had been on that boat trip.
Robin Easton´s last blog ..Why I Love Robin
You know dearest Robin and Tess, as you both know living from desire has real daily benefits and are NOT airhead things at all. Thanks to my desire to connect and co-create with Nature, I live in the most beautiful spot on earth, eat as healthy as I can from our own vegetables that John loves growing, the rain water is soft and great for my skin and hair and I could go on and on and on. Desires are real and they rock and yes sailing on that yacht for example was a desire and a real blast. xox Wilma
Dearest Tess, these words are extremely powerful AND touch the core of our existence;
When you really pay attention to what you say here than we can do nothing else but be in total agreement with you.
What else is there? What else indeed, with no Love nothing has value, it is just dead wood, ready to be chopped and burnt by John and me.
Tess, you live fearlessly bold because of what you say here, you are Love.
Wow, THAT is it, isn’t it? The secret of life and your life is awesome because of it. Your summer photos say it all too, they are glorious and obviously your love has touched all those around you as well. You are beautiful all over, in and out, huge hugs Wilma
Hi Wilma … despite all that’s going on at the moment .. I have at the forefront the forward future .. the blog and what I will do with it .. that is the great unknown — that future stretching out ahead of me, once I’ve completed my time with my Mama – so important for now.
Short and sweet .. brained out or moved out more likely! hospitalised out too .. bye for now – Hilary
Hilary´s last blog ..Could this be a sitcom – or a break out sitcom Ever had a one word – at a time – conversation Fish and Chips – how do you spell it
Dear Hilary, I can imagine you are brained out with all that is going on. Take care of yourself, do what is in front of you and no more than that. Pace yourself and yes the future awaits you, it will never run away
Big hug and much love, xox Wilma