Comments on: She has no desires only goals.

By: Wilma

Wilma — Wed, 04 Aug 2010 23:43:33 +0000

OH TE, there is so much in your comment to address but this is what we will never know and yet there is an answer in this question of yours based on the fact that the path away from his desire is not THAT good looking, is it?;

Had anyone believed in his passion and desire to cook from the get go, I have no doubt that he would have thought twice before pursuing his high stress law career – he might have followed his desire to cook professionally.

It is absolutely fear that has us follow what we think is a predictable path to success and yet we so need to have a closer look at what success stands for; money, status and stress, or love, enough and freedom.
Dearest TE, it is scary on one’s own and I would not recommend it in this climate. There is support though, we offer it at WomenLikeMe where our support have women access support that they did not know was right there where they needed it.
As we have not been taught to look for support, how to use and handle it, we often think it is not there, BUT there always is when you have jumped. However you never find that out until you have jumped and that is where it gets tricky indeed.
Oh dear TE, you keep paying attention to the desires of your precious daughter, and there is support, more than you will ever know.
Much love, Wilma

By: The Exception

The Exception — Sat, 31 Jul 2010 19:33:27 +0000

This is an interesting dichotomy. We are raised to have goals – to succeed in this or that profession – to do what it appears your daughter is doing quite well. That is the model that society preaches – it is the way we feel excepted – it is the “what do you want to do when you grow up” and then the pressure that we assign to our kids as they try to live up to societies expectations which we sometimes adapt as our own. There is a desire, in the US, to “fit in” and for everyone to fit the mold.

Desires are, as you suggest, different. How often do we ask young people what they desire? How often do we care what they desire? I know many parents who are setting their kids up for successful college careers in successful professions as that is what the model suggests. I have come to realize that there is a chance my daughter will not go to college because her “desire” is to dance. Her dad once told me that dancing wasn’t a viable career. I don’t remember what I said, but my belief is “so what?” The child loves to dance – her passion is dancing. Had anyone believed in his passion and desire to cook from the get go, I have no doubt that he would have thought twice before pursuing his high stress law career – he might have followed his desire to cook professionally.

Desires are risks that come from within and ask us to jump and to trust… and that is scary to do on our own, even scarier if others depend on us… or if no one is there to support us when we jump(emotionally) It is hard to look past the potential “failure” and embrace the unknowns and trust.
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By: Wilma

Wilma — Thu, 29 Jul 2010 20:30:25 +0000

Dearest Lisa Marie, I have to express my thanks again to you, now for claiming what I am expressing here. Yes we have to be wary of ‘goals’ and embrace desires, trusting that the ‘cursed how’ as Mike Dooley keep stressing is taking care of.
Goals could be us controlling the ‘cursed how’ AND that is indeed something to watch out for.
How absolutely delicious that you can say this;

I sometimes think I live in a dream-world (lol) because I’m always seeing the next fantasy outcome. Truth be told, I’ve been blessed with a life of many dreams come true. I quickly add to that: not by society’s yardstick!

Desires are inspired by the divine in us, I completely agree, and as the divine is so hidden in us, so are our desires. How often have we not been made ridiculous for desiring something or being made feel guilty as if desires are greedy. What misunderstandings and how those cost us!
The world is blessed with women like you, Lisa Marie, as just like Robin you lead the way by living and expressing yourself so clearly;

It’s the feelings of desire that stir up the energy of manifestation. Maybe to dream is human, to desire, divine!

Much love and gratitude for your inspiring comment, xox Wilma

By: Lisa Marie

Lisa Marie — Thu, 29 Jul 2010 18:30:57 +0000

Dear Wilma,
I just had to stop by your blog after reading your post at Robin’s. I appreciate the warm response you wrote to my comment over there.
Now that I’ve read She has no desires only goals, I’m right in the midst of a serendipitous moment. I happen to be reading Mike Dooley’s beautiful book, Infinite Possibilities. Till earlier today I’d never taken a second glance at my views on goal-setting. It always seemed a positive endeavor to me. He has other ideas, and here I find you echoing his wisdom.
I sometimes think I live in a dream-world (lol) because I’m always seeing the next fantasy outcome. Truth be told, I’ve been blessed with a life of many dreams come true. I quickly add to that: not by society’s yardstick!
What you wrote to Jenn about her dreams was profound. Dreams can invoke guilt, and I love the focus on desire you talk about.
It’s the feelings of desire that stir up the energy of manifestation.

Maybe to dream is human, to desire, divine!

Love, Lisa

By: Wilma

Wilma — Thu, 29 Jul 2010 02:29:22 +0000

Hey SuZen, ain’t that so, as wide as the Amazon river alright. I never liked goals as they felt so restricted and often not flexible, but on the road serving as a station they make more sense to me. But desires are delicious and do inspire me so much more.
Oh dear, a house full of guests, well I can imagine that you attract people , I would be over like a shot too if I lived on your side of the world. I hope you have done all the painting and had some quiet time to relax before all the busyness.
I would love to see you at Robin’s. But take care of yourself and many hugs in return. xox Wilma