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She has no desires only goals.
Nature and me, both here on my blog and on Robin's blog, desiring real food.
I have a guest post today on Robin Easton’s blog and it fits beautifully with all the posts on intimacy and LOVE and what it means when I observe that my daughter doesn’t have a life.
It means my daughter is pursuing goal after goal with no real desire where to take her life. She is missing out on a life that is rich with diverse experiences and LOVE and she is fooled into thinking that distractions like holidays and material things are her desires.
I know how hollow life is that follows a predictable pattern, I once lived like that too and I was as Peggy Nolan said in her comment “a rat running around in a cage going nowhere“ until it finally dawned on me;
But damn it, I am NOT a rat, I am a creative being with a purpose who should follow her growing personal desires with actions of Love.
Within purpose I can achieve goals, but goals on their own are like dead end railroad tracks, useless for expansive travel plans.
When I was thirty I had it all but was bored. Ironically I worked in career counseling assisting people to find their desires and how to make them come true. How ironic indeed.
I was lucky enough to anchor one ‘unconscious’ desire and that was to be in nature.
My annual seven week holiday in nature was the highlight of my life, there I blissed out and tasted what loving life meant and at the time I never gave it a second conscious thought why I did this.
Don’t get me wrong, I liked my job. It was a very good one. I had the privilege to hear a lot of life stories and learned a lot about how life never goes to plan. BUT although the job had a noble goal to help people, it had nothing to do with a personal desire and it didn’t give my life a purpose. All it did was make me feel good, earn me money and give me status and security.
Thank God that I got a chance to experience the difference that following a heart felt desire can make to the quality and intensity of one’s life.
The difference is huge BUT . . .
Like intimacy, committing and following a desire has consequences and requires letting go of the very things society says you must have.
A desire requires being intimate with pure heart-felt JOY. Money, security and a fixed waterproof plan have no place when pursuing desires.
Desires lead you astray from what you have been taught you must have.
Desires take you into the unknown, they go against what the ego perceives as ‘good economical practice’.
THAT makes pursuing desires extremely difficult and not for the faint hearted.
I followed my desires twice in my life.
The first time was when I migrated to the abundant nature of New Zealand without really knowing what I was doing.
The second time I am following my desires more consciously and I am doing it NOW.
Both times had me scared witless, had people around me frown and I was and still am unable to explain and predict how it all would and will work out.
Pursuing my desire the first time has payed off. I adore living in New Zealand and that vague dream has grown into a very ambitious desire; to return to living on this Earth as we are meant to; to co-create with the, until now, unknown intelligence of nature. This desire will make a huge difference to me and to the world as well. It is ME and yet far bigger than ME.
It has me write this blog, it has me work on becoming a strong basecamp so I am resourced enough to make this happen despite the status quo, it made WomenLikeMe.
It urges me to think and act differently around money, security and who I am being.
THAT is what desire does.
It leads me into the unknown, it makes me courageous and committed to deal with insecurity and it makes me smart as I have to find my own unique solutions. It makes me grow in ways I could never have imagined and it gives my soul the experiences it longs for. In my case I am to fulfill my ultimate desire to live in God’s Garden of Eden, in my Space of Love in a way that God intended us to live with Nature as the mighty co-creator that it is.
Desire lets me live from the purest feeling of all, Love, all day every day as I go about ordinary daily life.
And yet there is nothing ordinary anymore about my ordinary life.
As I said there are consequences though when becoming intimate with your heart.
You have to learn to do things differently and become a strong basecamp to handle going out on a limb like some of my blogging buddies.
Peggy Nolan’s desire from Infinite Yoga and Reiki and The Stepmom’s Tool Box is very clear when you read her blogs. Peggy wants to teach. Her passion is definitely Self-Care and she too understands that only a strong base camp can create a life how it is meant to be. Peggy pays attention to what there is to learn and thus increases her own understanding and ability to become the change she wants to see. She too has to go down paths unknown. When learning you obviously are not practicing things you already know! And of course teachers who learn from their own experiences are the best teachers!
Hilary from Positive Letters is following her desire to be with her Mother, it sure is giving her ‘rich‘ experiences although some of them must have left her scared witless. But I see Hilary as vibrantly alive while she pays attention as her desire is taking her on a very unknown path. As a result she is curious, she is doing things she never dreamed of and she is creating a whole new future for herself.
Joy from Unfoldingyourpathtojoy is committed to her desire to sail and live on a boat. She too oozes Love and makes her life joyful despite what circumstances bring. But she is also honest enough to share the frights and uncertainties as she veers off the trodden path. However Joy is also paying attention as she creates her life full of wealth and richness while letting go of security and old fashioned money ideas.
Then there is Robin Easton from Naked in Eden.
Robin committed to her desires when she lived in the Australian Rain Forest and ever since then Robin’s desires has kept her free, fully self-expressed and authentic in connection with Nature Intelligence. You only have to read the comments on Robin’s blog to know how her pursuit of her personal desire is inspiring others.
Desire filled people recognize each other, they live differently and they do things differently.
I have a guest post on Robin’s blog today where I show how accessing Love makes our lives rich and how ‘cold’ our lives are when we don’t. Of course I desire you to go and have a read.
What I am doing with WomenLikeMe is give women the strength and clarity on how to dream and go for it.
My biggest desire is to have you be a strong basecamp who is resourced enough to follow your desire; that is why WomenLikeMe is created for you and me. I love you to join, why not give it a go for one month so that you can taste what is possible.
Following your desire is a personal path and yet it is the most generous act of Love you can give to yourself and your loved ones.
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Dear Beautiful Wilma,
This is so so sooooo encouraging. I truly KNOW what you speak of. Ever since I let go all that I thought I “should” be in society, and allowed myself to return to Nature and become what I ALREADY was and am, my life has taken me always, forever, into the arms of The Great Unknown. I embrace it willingly, hungrily, as my soul’s sustenance. The Great Unknown keeps me vitally alive. Even writing my book is a journey not of my ego, but rather a calling by Nature to let her speak through me, a calling that fills me with such intense Love that there are days I sit, write and weep because I’m filled with such piercingly intense Love.
Lately, I am also learning to let go and tell the Universe that I need time to spend WITH Nature, and so I am taking that aspect of myself back even though I continue to follow my heart (and the Forest’s plea to speak for them) with this book. Nonetheless, I’ve noticed that when I simply “put it out there” that I need time to be with Nature, that I miraculously GET that time.
I wished we lived closer, as I am thinking of way to bring people to ME and NATURE as oppose to me ONLY going to cities and towns to talk “about” Nature. It’s something that I feel will find it’s own course, if I just trust and “put it out there”. The way will reveal itself in the right time.
Also, your words:
Yes, this is my path as well. And from my time in the Australian Rainforest I know VERY WELL the intelligence of Nature. In fact, it was the FIRST place where true intelligence was reflected back to me, where I saw who I REALLY AM, which is highly intelligent, and NOT what my school system tried to have me believe, which was that I was of mediocre intelligence, or less. Thank blessed God for Nature. I would not be alive today had I not reconnected with her.
I love you for the depth of inspiration you bring to me. I just love you. Maybe one day we can bring women home to the land where we can all sit in Nature, sharing, talking, singing, drumming, and dreaming.
My love to you and John (you are with me every day).
Robin xoxox
Dearest Robin, I am so grateful for the intimacy we have. I too love your sharing of yourself and your deepest experiences. Only through claiming ( I loved your beautiful post on this) the love and intimacy that is ours to claim, we can grow into our indigenous being.
Yes, here you create ‘again’ a beautiful image of the Unknown which most of us rather dread than embrace;
It is so interesting that we are on the same path although our paths might look so different;
I so love to have you as my travel companion;
It is a tragedy that we have strayed so far from this intelligent source and it is time to return and yes;
Dearest Robin, I love you too and let’s inspire more and more people NOW to journey together with us. XOX and a big hug, Wilma
My post wasn’t showing the ComLuv link at the bottom so I went and fixed it on ComLuv’s site.
Sorry the link to your guest post didn’t go up with my comment. But here it is now.
Thank you beautiful Wilma.
Love,
Robin
Robin Easton´s last blog ..Why I Love Robin
Thank you for noticing and fixing it because the post is so much worth reading. People need to claim your Love and what you stand for.
After all the trouble you went through I am sure ‘everybody’ will link through, won’t you ‘everybody’????
Wilma – the article on Robin’s site was so beautiful and so moving. Thank you for sharing so openly and intimately!
Much love to you always!
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Dear Evita, thank you! xox Wilma
Hi Wilma,
Thank you!
This is what stands out to me:
I can only say that each day I allow my heart to remain open and the journey is fantastic.
Then, reading Robin’s comment, my heart absolutely overflows! Wow! Talk about inspirational, and exactly what I needed to hear..
*You* are awesome Wilma, thank you for sharing as you do!
Dear Joy, this is IT. There you are really going into the unknown, AND appreciating the loving support from Robin and me and other people in our community. THAT is what the world does when it is Love In Action. It is encouraging us to follow our heart and joy instead of stopping us with fearful messages. This loving support encourages us to go into the unknown and thus we can all make a difference because every person who follows their heart adds to the Tipping Point coming closer and closer to create a world that serves us to be loving beings. Oh Joy, this so makes my heart sing and you go and open that heart of yours. We are all there right behind you. Peace and Love, xox Wilma
Wilma: What an important message you shared about being open enough to know what you feel and then choosing to follow those feelings. It can sometimes be daunting to just listen to your gut and do what feels right, but I do believe that is when we can be confident we are moving in the right direction. It is all about tuning in to your inner self and then choosing to move in the direction it guides you. It sounds as if you continue to do that so well and continue to have an amazing journey. Thanks for sharing and I am off to Robin’s site to check out your guest post.
Sibyl – alternaview´s last blog ..Why You Should Welcome Challenges In Life
Dear Sibyl, I agree
It is our confidence that we need to be paying attention to, because so often we rather follow the trodden path than having the confidence to dare to veer off and standing out by following our gut feelings.
I notice from the comments that support is invaluable in gaining that confidence, it really helps to hear that it is alright even if you are not sure of the ‘how’. And I so love to see that support to have us do things differently appearing more and more. Isn’t that beautiful?
Much love, Wilma
Wilma, this is very very good.
I needed to read this today.
I never thought of this before really, in this stark, reality-hit-me sort of simply way.hmm.. maybe that is my missing link. I stopped desiring things after an incident in my past where I made plans (full-out passionate plans) and then it got turned on me… I didn’t want to believe, and hope and desire again to that fullness… because I assumed it would be taken away again, and that was a lot of wasted good quality energy. While I have come to terms with this event in my life and have found some healing I still do struggle with desire. I have bad labels on it. Sometimes, I think of it as selfish sometimes, or as an extra, or high-maintenance. It is much easier to think in terms of reaching a goal.
For example, If I was to desire out loud, I feel it wouldn’t come true.
I secretly desire to go to Paris w/ my hubby for my 30th birthday, and if the Universe desires it with me, maybe it could happen, but I don’t want to believe entirely it could be real, or I might get crushed again.
does that make sense?
Plus with me working from home lately, I feel what right do I have to desire too much and what is too much anyway? because I feel I am aligning with my values and following my heart, but still, I don’t want to ask for more than I should and be ungrateful, so often I get stuck in the wishing, .. and achieving my goals .. for personal satisfaction. The thing is that I am a dreamer at heart, and I am moving toward more of those dreams as reality …
so now I am facing more “worth issues”… that are the few things holding me back from wanting these things and “actually going for them..” for myself.. believing that I am the only one in my way.
does that make more sense?
hugs, thanks for the ponder here today.
I am interested to hear your response. you are great at working out this mind battle .lol
have a lovely week!
xx Jenn
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Dearest Jenn. Your comment is rich with ponderings and my answer could cover the whole WomenLikeMe program. But I can make one important point.
You are saying a lot of things about dreams that we all have struggled with, society sets us up that way.
The current measure of a success of a dream is in its outcomes. But dreams are about the journey not the destination.
The real value of dreaming is in seeing possibilities and NOT staying stuck in so-called limited reality. It is what happens along the way, what you learn, what you experience as you dream. You can view the past failure of your dream differently. See that you didn’t achieve the result you expected, but learned and experienced a lot along the way. Dreams compel us to do something and it is in the doing that life happens. To not dream is to do little worth doing.
THAT is the value of dreaming, NOT that they come true as you planned, like on your 30th birthday. Dream of going to Paris and you will, only the timing you can’t predict. Dreams are not predictable.
Now society doesn’t buy that yet, society currently only looks at stats and results.
If we look at your dream another way we can actually unearth a lot more value than you currently can see.
Your dream about Paris is beautiful and can mean a lot more than spending your actual birthday there. It means you value yourself, it means you are dreaming about romantic times, your dream says that you love life, you are eager to explore this beautiful earth. Your powerful declarations are beautiful expressions of Love and who cares IF you actually spend time in Paris. THAT is actually NOT what the dream is about. The dream is showing how you stand in life and that you see beyond daily grind.
Maybe this dream might come to fruition when you are 60 and what a mature dream that will have become, you will taste it’s richness in all its glory!!! When you arrive in Paris it will be the perfect time. Timing is not for us to decide contrary to what society tells us. In the meantime you have had that awesome anticipation of a dream that is pulling you forward. Dreams have no time frame or linear ways of manifesting. Sometimes they look like they will never come true but you know what, dreams always produce if you are ready to receive the unexpected. Dreams are flexible, never make them wrong or their outcomes wrong as society wants us to do. Society wants predictability so travel agencies can plan. Dreams are surprises.
You dream, dearest Jenn, dreams keep us alive, warm inside and loving. Dreams are NOT success trophies.
Much love to you, you are precious, xox Wilma
Wilma,
I loved your post on Robin’s site and the photo is gorgeous. Can I come over for dinner tonight? Thanks for being you!
Tess The Bold Life´s last blog ..Why Is Life Good
You can come over any time because the garden even produces in our winter. Bless New Zealand’s weather and you too. Because you have been an inspiration for me too, your boldness and your sharing have often encouraged me. May the tipping point come soon, what a ball we all will have. xox Wilma
Beautiful Wilma!…just BEAUTIFUL!!!! You and Robin are phenomenal!
Dearest Nards, your generosity is awesome and appreciated very much. Lots of love, Wilma
Dear Wilma,
I LOVED your post on Robin’s site! And this…oh, so good!
For Jenn who is wondering if she shouldn’t desire too much – why place limits on yourself? Right now, I’m standing in the middle of this huge unknown landscape. I have no idea how things will turn out, I just know that I love being and doing what I truly desire. I’m excited, a little nervous, but I don’t feel that inner discontent that tells me I’m not on the right trail or that I’m holding back from fear or that self-doubt that creeps in. I’m off and running towards my desire, with full open arms, and an open heart.
Only now am I fully embracing and understanding and doing something about this very cliched quote “find a job you love and you’ll never work a day in your life.”
xo
Peggy
Peggy´s last blog ..Don’t Take “IT” Personally It’s Not About Me It’s Not About You
Dear Peggy, you know, people who are following their dreams and desire are so beautiful to be around and you ooozes beauty and enthusiasm and life vitality. You are a sight to see;
That is what we all love about children don’t we? Their total embracing what they are doing with total abandon, oh we all want to have that feeling back and YOU have it back.
Oh Peggy, of course you are excited and no longer caring about outcome, success or failure; it is all about what happened along the way. When you have this feeling you have it all. And Jenn, I am with Peggy, this feeling is what counts and dreams give you it.
Oh I am soooo thrilled for you, this is indeed how we are supposed to ‘work’, there should not be any other way than this total happy abandon ( that scares most adults off)
Failure doesn’t exist in this equation, only unexpected turns and if we could really have faith that those unexpected turns are part of it all and are all good, than we really LIVE.
BTW as I said Peggy is an awesome ‘Teacher’ and if you live in her neighborhood, she and a buddy teacher are holding an awesome one day retreat worth your desire and attendance. Here are the details.
Peggy, you rock following your dreams. Keep inspiring us, xox Wilma
Wilma, I get really annoyed when I see so many “How to” books and blogs that tell you how to reach your goals (to be rich, to be famous, get married faster, etc. ) without ever questioning why you have those goals in the first place. Are they really your goals? Or they are a product of the society that measures success by the template “more”+”better”equals “happy” (nowadays “faster” is added into the mix too) . More money, better house, more friends, better job title faster … People spend years chasing the goal that was never theirs and once achieved they don’t really know what to do with the outcome. I think there’s nothing wrong about having goals, they give direction and motivation to our lives. The fallacy occurs when we become certain that the “why” question can be asked when the goal is achieved: I will get there and then we’ll see … As a result we have a crowd that follows the same fit-all “dream” template to discover later on that apparently there was more than one train leaving the station. What a disappointment it must be to discover that you got on the wrong train after going such a long way, what a hassle to go back and start over.
Aysel´s last blog ..Unattached – Free
Dear Aysel, again very astute observations and this one is so well expressed;
Spot on, goals are meant to be only stations on the way of an ever growing widening life journey that is guided by our own unique desires, ( that is if we allow time to find our own authentic ones in the first place!).
Oh my, I can see that you sure see through the nonsense that is currently happening in society and I agree with your undertone of anger, annoyance, bewilderment and sadness, how stupid have we gotten?
Yes, most people buy into this and I am afraid my so called intelligent daughter is too and dare I say I did too at one time, OUCH. I know that I am part to ‘blame’, I had to forgive myself for that and now I have to let it all unfold. My consolation is that at least I am waking up and obviously so have you. For me that is very encouraging, the more people are waking up, the more my daughter and other young people get a chance to hear it from somebody else especially when the tipping point is reached. So I am dreaming, for all our sakes that we end this fallacy indeed.
Much love to you, dear Aysel, seeing ‘beyond’ is not always easy, but there are more of us and growing. Take loving care of yourself, xox Wilma
H Wilma – gosh – what an amazing post .. and I need to be back to read it properly and to read the comments – this week .. isn’t so good! But you’re right .. I am looking after my mother as her daughter, as I think I should do and as I believe we should expect of our children .. she deserves all I can give her – at what is a very difficult time. She’s back in hospital and I hope will be out today or tomorrow – not the best timing for me, but again I must be strong.
I have learnt so much in the past three years and yes I am scared witless .. but I will get through and I will succeed as I am thinking of my future too. This week is the end of one era, an interim questionable period, and then I hope some form of settling for a while, so I can actually move on, while being with my mother.
Peggy, Joy and Robin all have amazing love to offer .. and I’m so honoured to be amongst you all and to learn from you and all commenters – everyone has so much to offer – such open hearts ..
I haven’t got to Robin’s blog yet – .. but I’ll catch up shortly .. with love and hugs and many thanks for your support .. Love the cabbage!!! Hilary
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Dearest Hilary.
Although you say you ’should’ look after your mother, how many people would really go to the great length you are?????? They know they should but don’t and then pile guilt after guilt onto themselves. You desire to look after your mother and you do it with love as you go to great length to BE with your Ma and connect. Who you are Be-ing when you come from ’should’ and who you are Be-ing when you come from desire are two different Be-ings, and we all recognize and feel the difference.
And what you say is a consequence of desire;
Yes that is what desires do, put us in interim questionable periods when we go into the unknown. And yes, only in the unknown can we learn because as I said to Peggy, we do not ‘learn’ what we know, do we????? Real learning is an adventure, getting to experience that ‘what we do not know’ to finally get to know. Most people are NOT getting this, they will NOT learn from experience as that is too scary. So they suck only the learning ‘dummy’ and never get to taste the real thing.
You are a champ and you are living a different life and although in a shaky period, you will live a wonderful life. YOU WILL. Much love for this week, with what you have to do and your mother in hospital. YOU are strong and know you have a lot of mental support. Hugs Wilma
Hi Wilma – This is so wise about the difference between desires and goals. Wanting is such a tricky thing. We kid ourselves about what we want, when our heartfelt desires are there all along, waiting to be excavated. And I love that photo of you and your garden – it’s stunning! xoxo
Patty – Why Not Start Now?´s last blog ..Meaning Mondays- Stuff and Meaning
Hi Patty; yes we are so confused about a lot of things and of course desire and wanting is getting the better of us too.
I agree;
Now, how come we have to excavate the very thing that should be the vocal point in our life????
When you come to really observe the ‘what is so’ in our lives, you keep asking what on earth are we doing????????
Unadulterated nature is source and is indeed stunning, worth paying attention to and learn from. Hugs my friend, enjoy your time in nature, Wilma
Hi Wilma,
I can really relate to this post. Currently I work as an academic advisor at the local college and though it does make me feel good and I am lucky to have the best co-workers ever, it was never really a desire of mine. However, I know what I do desire and I know that this job position will help to get me there. In the meantime, I make the best out of it and am working on getting out of debt.
Hooray for going after what you truly want!
Love,
Kristie
Dear Kristie.
Desires are interesting beasts and do not conform just to the ‘laws’ of cause and effect. Desires activate other laws, such as the law of attraction.
Therefore a job is never a desire as the framework of work is NOT set up to let us freely desire.
However a job at the moment is for most of us still a necessity and NOT to be made wrong.
As long as we are focused on adding value, value to our customers, internal or external, value to our colleagues AND value to ourselves by Be-ing love-in-action, we can keep our dignity and who we are. THAT is choosing and not imprisonment. We still do the same job but who we are Be-ing is making all the difference. THAT is what we need to watch for and what we are focusing on in the WomenLikeMe program.
So the job is a goal on the way of a wider expansive life journey. I like what you say here;
The danger is though that there is always a reason to earn more money, to just work another year in this convenient playground and that is where we can get stuck. The Great Unknown awaits you.
Dear Kristie, keep your eyes open and you will have a desire filled life. Much love, Wilma
Hi Wilma! Boy that fine line between desires/goals can sometimes be as wide as the Amazon river! What an insightful post here showing the difference – and wow there sure is one! It takes a lot of wisdom to see that – thank you so much for sharing yours! I’ll get myself to Robins asap – connections at the lake aren’t the greatest – or longest! And I have a house full of guests this week – much as I adore that it does keep me away from all my blog friends!
Much love and many hugs
suzen
suzen´s last blog ..Oregano – Its Not Just on Pizzas!
Hey SuZen, ain’t that so, as wide as the Amazon river alright. I never liked goals as they felt so restricted and often not flexible, but on the road serving as a station they make more sense to me. But desires are delicious and do inspire me so much more.
, I would be over like a shot too if I lived on your side of the world. I hope you have done all the painting and had some quiet time to relax before all the busyness.
Oh dear, a house full of guests, well I can imagine that you attract people
I would love to see you at Robin’s. But take care of yourself and many hugs in return. xox Wilma
Dear Wilma,
I just had to stop by your blog after reading your post at Robin’s. I appreciate the warm response you wrote to my comment over there.
Now that I’ve read She has no desires only goals, I’m right in the midst of a serendipitous moment. I happen to be reading Mike Dooley’s beautiful book, Infinite Possibilities. Till earlier today I’d never taken a second glance at my views on goal-setting. It always seemed a positive endeavor to me. He has other ideas, and here I find you echoing his wisdom.
I sometimes think I live in a dream-world (lol) because I’m always seeing the next fantasy outcome. Truth be told, I’ve been blessed with a life of many dreams come true. I quickly add to that: not by society’s yardstick!
What you wrote to Jenn about her dreams was profound. Dreams can invoke guilt, and I love the focus on desire you talk about.
It’s the feelings of desire that stir up the energy of manifestation.
Maybe to dream is human, to desire, divine!
Love, Lisa
Dearest Lisa Marie, I have to express my thanks again to you, now for claiming what I am expressing here. Yes we have to be wary of ‘goals’ and embrace desires, trusting that the ‘cursed how’ as Mike Dooley keep stressing is taking care of.
Goals could be us controlling the ‘cursed how’ AND that is indeed something to watch out for.
How absolutely delicious that you can say this;
Desires are inspired by the divine in us, I completely agree, and as the divine is so hidden in us, so are our desires. How often have we not been made ridiculous for desiring something or being made feel guilty as if desires are greedy. What misunderstandings and how those cost us!
The world is blessed with women like you, Lisa Marie, as just like Robin you lead the way by living and expressing yourself so clearly;
Much love and gratitude for your inspiring comment, xox Wilma
This is an interesting dichotomy. We are raised to have goals – to succeed in this or that profession – to do what it appears your daughter is doing quite well. That is the model that society preaches – it is the way we feel excepted – it is the “what do you want to do when you grow up” and then the pressure that we assign to our kids as they try to live up to societies expectations which we sometimes adapt as our own. There is a desire, in the US, to “fit in” and for everyone to fit the mold.
Desires are, as you suggest, different. How often do we ask young people what they desire? How often do we care what they desire? I know many parents who are setting their kids up for successful college careers in successful professions as that is what the model suggests. I have come to realize that there is a chance my daughter will not go to college because her “desire” is to dance. Her dad once told me that dancing wasn’t a viable career. I don’t remember what I said, but my belief is “so what?” The child loves to dance – her passion is dancing. Had anyone believed in his passion and desire to cook from the get go, I have no doubt that he would have thought twice before pursuing his high stress law career – he might have followed his desire to cook professionally.
Desires are risks that come from within and ask us to jump and to trust… and that is scary to do on our own, even scarier if others depend on us… or if no one is there to support us when we jump(emotionally) It is hard to look past the potential “failure” and embrace the unknowns and trust.
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OH TE, there is so much in your comment to address but this is what we will never know and yet there is an answer in this question of yours based on the fact that the path away from his desire is not THAT good looking, is it?;
It is absolutely fear that has us follow what we think is a predictable path to success and yet we so need to have a closer look at what success stands for; money, status and stress, or love, enough and freedom.
Dearest TE, it is scary on one’s own and I would not recommend it in this climate. There is support though, we offer it at WomenLikeMe where our support have women access support that they did not know was right there where they needed it.
As we have not been taught to look for support, how to use and handle it, we often think it is not there, BUT there always is when you have jumped. However you never find that out until you have jumped and that is where it gets tricky indeed.
Oh dear TE, you keep paying attention to the desires of your precious daughter, and there is support, more than you will ever know.
Much love, Wilma