Comments on: Wilma’s friends on Captaining our own Life

By: Wilma

Wilma — Sun, 18 Jul 2010 21:15:49 +0000

Dear Hilary. Yes, what the decent thing is in your eyes might not be so in your brother’s eyes. Most of the time people do not pay attention to how they could contribute and add value, so your brother probably didn’t even notice how he could contribute and as always was his capable sister not doing fine?
Oh Hilary, you take care, thanks for asking about our search which is interesting as we get to visit places we would not have otherwise but no results yet.
Much love, xox Wilma

By: Hilary

Hilary — Sun, 18 Jul 2010 05:35:44 +0000

Thanks Wilma .. I’m coping just – and the move is now next week thank goodness .. after a visit to the hospital with Mum yesterday – my brother was down to visit my mother and I thought he’d take over and do the decent thing and go with her .. no such luck – so I spent the afternoon with her at the hospital. She was fine – I was there .. and is secure in that knowledge. She’s back at the Home .. the feeding tube came out – but all is well now.

Today is now a day of packing etc .. clearing .. and being the captain of our ship .. thanks so much for your replies here – they’re all supportive and encouraging .. just what I need now .. Hope all is well with you and your search etc .. with hugs and love Hilary
Hilary´s last blog ..A Century of Aces Afghanistan to Zimbabwe

By: Wilma

Wilma — Sun, 18 Jul 2010 04:43:16 +0000

Dear Hilary, in the end we are all alone and yet we aren’t as we are all connected. There are married people who feel more alone than Robinson Crusoe felt, I am sure.
Good for you to be so capable in taking action when it is needed, even so that is not a given but a great skill to have. Yes, we are still prone to storms as Robb also mentioned as in this time people at large are still creating havoc in which we all get caught up in.
And yes, you are the only one who can sort it out and you doing a marvelous job.
Absolutely, we need to learn to ask as we want to collaborate and a captain also needs to be able to ask the crew to take care of things when they come up.
In this day and age where we are constantly urged to save money, to make sure we can look after ourselves, we have forgotten the skill to ask, the skill to share and asking sure has gotten a bad press.
All these things are intertwined and will change once we are changing our current disastrous outlook on how we people should behave to one another and nature.
Keeping standards is another important thing, that is linked with being in-integrity and although standards can change, keeping them is the key.
Much love to you and the hugest best wishes with your move. xox Wilma

By: Wilma

Wilma — Sun, 18 Jul 2010 04:32:32 +0000

Kia Ora Robb. Isn’t it beautiful to see a competent captain at work and good on you to notice that and follow her lead. Being one’s own captain doesn’t indeed mean that you cannot collaborate, however you know when to take the wheel and when to let go of command. How wonderful is that be together in calmer waters and be aligned on your course. Because once you know where you are heading you can get alignment with others who are sailing with you; otherwise it is drifting as you so astutely say and you end up wherever you end up. Ah yes storms, however they will become lesser of a problem once you get to see them coming once you can read the ‘weather report’ as TE also indicated. Kia kaha dear Robb, Aroha, xox Wilma

By: Hilary

Hilary — Sat, 17 Jul 2010 06:23:11 +0000

Hi Wilma .. what a lovely post and eye-opening comments .. so simple, when we know that we need to captain, we need to take ourselves forward and do the best for our family or ourselves, if alone.

I get driven nutty by people who can’t do things for themselves .. but then I suspect I drive people nutty because I’m so independent! Still I get to drive my own ship – erratically in the storms at the moment, but I’m the only one who can sort it out.

I do think we need to ask for help sometimes and we don’t do that enough .. perhaps the next generation will … we’re talking and you’ve a lot of younger readers .. as there are on the net, who such wonderful grounded ways of looking at things .. this openness is spreading. I admire so many ..

Thanks Wilma .. captaining our own life is important and keeping those standards, so the plimsoll line remains where it should be .. with some hugs Hilary
Hilary´s last blog ..A Century of Aces Afghanistan to Zimbabwe