Comments on: Allow yourself to be lovable and shine.

By: april14344

april14344 — Wed, 12 Oct 2011 05:16:19 +0000

what a great story, so inspiring! i love how you put it in words. would love to be hearing more from you.
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By: Farnoosh

Farnoosh — Mon, 19 Jul 2010 02:40:35 +0000

Dear Wilma, thank you for your thorough comment – I meant to come back here earlier to read it – since I forgo to properly subscribe, so it was indeed timely to see you back on my blog. I am so happy you think I am on the right path – I am happy period so that must be a sign in itself ! Thank you for being such a gem!
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By: Hilary

Hilary — Sat, 17 Jul 2010 05:54:20 +0000

Hi WIlma .. thanks very much for the support – it does make a difference .. in this one-sided family I seem to have – however as you say I have to take each day one day at a time, focus on the necessities and get the best out of life to get through .. the light is at the end of the tunnel .. the moving one; Mum’s tunnel will come when she’s ready.

Yesterday .. she asked if anything special had happened .. a little tricky with a one word conversation .. and a white board, and no hearing .. but she was aware and with it – quite amazing! Go well have a good weekend .. I’m into packing! Happy times .. much love and a few huge hugs .. Hilary
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By: Wilma

Wilma — Sat, 17 Jul 2010 00:52:07 +0000

Dear HIlary;

but I prepare for the future and know that family will be involved and there’s an administrative matter with Mum’s flat that needs attention .. and the only one who will think about it (is) is me .. the others won’t consider it. Everything in my mother’s direction, from their point of view, is a pain .

Yes, we still have to co-ordinate action with siblings we are not intimate with and who have no idea how things can be done collaboratively.
I understand your frustration because things could be so different, so much more loving and easier and yet people will NOT go for that, they will go for making life hard for everyone around them as well. As you already so wisely say, do not fight what is so, just accept it if you can, get upset as little as possible and be in-integrity around their being out-of-integrity and get on with things. It is awesome that you are have chosen to take so much care of your Ma and dealing with the consequences in such a forward looking way. You are NOT complaining, but paying attention what is so and learning how to deal with uncaring family members with grace and integrity. THAT is doing things differently, that is love-in-action and creating a new world beyond the ego. Hilary once more I salute you for being such a stand for doing what you belief in despite your circumstances. Huge hugs Wilma

By: Hilary

Hilary — Fri, 16 Jul 2010 06:20:54 +0000

Hi Wilma – thanks for that .. and it’s a really useful to have it set out for me .. as I can back and reread it, to remind myself. I have up and down days .. usually up – but I prepare for the future and know that family will be involved and there’s an administrative matter with Mum’s flat that needs attention .. and the only one who will think about it (is) is me .. the others won’t consider it. Everything in my mother’s direction, from their pint of view, is a pain .. still as you say ‘so be it’ .. life will get easier & I just need to get through the next few weeks. Thanks for your really helpful and considered answer .. I’ll get to your next post shortly! Love and hugs – Hilary
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