Comments on: How I got to honesty.

By: Hilary

Hilary — Mon, 05 Jul 2010 05:19:17 +0000

Hi WIlma .. thanks for replying so comprehensively .. honesty is being honest to oneself .. and therefore truthful when talking to others ..

Sorry about the wet and windy weekend .. fantastic Wimbledon fortnight .. very unusual .. but lovely just to be able to walk out of the door without worrying about rain.

Enjoy the week .. Hilary
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By: Wilma

Wilma — Sun, 04 Jul 2010 22:38:14 +0000

You are very welcome Farnoosh. There is a lot of misconception that has creped in about how we humans should or shouldn’t behave with the development of ego based thoughts as the biggest culprit. The more we become aware of it unserving effects the more we eventually can alter our conceptions into ones that serve human relationships a lot better. xox Wilma

By: Wilma

Wilma — Sun, 04 Jul 2010 22:34:04 +0000

Hilary, you are spot on, most people are NOT being honest. They just spout an opinion based on very limited information and lack of paying attention. A lot of people have been subjected to this kind of so called honesty and no wonder we are shy about it.
People seem to assume they are right and they know .. and presumably understand the subject they are suggesting/telling us to change, or do differently .. they don’t have the temerity to ask us why and how we got to the spot we’re in
As you so astutely observed this is NOT honesty at all. It is good to realize the difference as there is still so much confusion about honesty on this dishonest fake world. When we also do not pay attention to honesty we never get a chance to know each other in depth and be a real contribution. It is so sad to see the downside of our inability to be honest, we miss out on so much because we never get really close.
However Hilary, things are a changing. Hugs Wilma
PS the weekend was very windy and wet, we got stopped looking at pieces of land.

By: Farnoosh

Farnoosh — Sat, 03 Jul 2010 13:32:15 +0000

Thank you Wilma for pointing out something no one had before – that being honest does not mean the ego becoming righteous and telling them all. I have done that before only to hurt them and ironically, it has not followed with action: “I am moving to California”, “I am moving to Paris”, “I am going to Sydney for a year”…..! I can’t tell you how much value this adds, even though the doing is going to be the hard part but I will be hearing your words before I speak again, I promise you! It won’t be easy though but I will commit because I really do not want to hurt them in the process! Gosh you are so very very good. Thank you so much Wilma!

By: Hilary

Hilary — Sat, 03 Jul 2010 06:27:45 +0000

Hi Wilma .. thanks … I’m reading the comments .. and after an email ‘discussion’ I had with someone yesterday .. these thoughts came into my head .. re Joy & her ‘friend’ .. isn’t it interesting how people seem to think they know what we should be doing … there seems to be no acknowledgement that actually we might be doing what we want to do and we know our own minds – and that perhaps a better approach would be to find out our thoughts and the whys for going for the 5% .. my email .. thing is people not thinking .. before they reply or apply … not thinking about the whole.

People seem to assume they are right and they know .. and presumably understand the subject they are suggesting/telling us to change, or do differently .. they don’t have the temerity to ask us why and how we got to the spot we’re in ..

Interesting .. – thanks Wilma .. hope all is going well for you both this weekend .. hugs and love Hilary
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