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Wilma on If only the WomenLikeMe way was this easy.
On the road to an unknown future.
This Monday’s post; ‘We are looking for our new home the WomenLikeMe way’ was a little different from usual. I took the opportunity to report on how John and I are getting on with living our daily life differently.
It seems like a straight forward exercise, reporting; I’ve written lots of reports on people’s lives in my former work as a Careers Consultant.
But I notice that it is not easy at all to report what is going on for me behind the scenes, about the bumps and hurdles I experience along the way, especially as I have not yet safely reached the harbor yet and I have certainly not reached all the wisdom of hindsight yet either. I am still in the middle of the storm so to speak, oscillating between feeling confident and being totally freaked out. I did notice while writing the post that fortunately my confidence is becoming stronger by the day.
However it is still so delightful to have your comments support me in this as you too are honestly addressing your ‘behind the scene’ dilemmas and hurdles.
Joy opened up the inquiry with;
My question of the day to God/the Universe is: where is the love?…
Exactly Joy, you talk a lot about love and yet you are honest enough to share that you still have this question popping up, a question many of us ask often.
And you too oscillate between doubt and the confidence of knowing as you then go on to say;
the Love is right here, within, in Faith, in all that I know…
We have the words alright regarding love, but the hurdle is; are we allowing ourselves to experience this on a daily basis? We obviously are still sabotaging ourselves to fully and always experience the knowing we have.
SuZen shared this hurdle;
…we don’t HAVE problems, we CREATE them – with our fears, insecurities, egos or baggage attached nonsense.
Spot on SuZen, it takes rigor and honest observations to see how I am the obstacle in doing it the WomenLikeMe way and how I am creating the problems. Annoying as it is for both of us; it is good to see I am not alone in this. I hear myself sigh with relief.
Maryse too could see that there is a significant dilemma to address first;
the hardest first step? Figuring out what I really wanted. The ‘intent’ you talk about here.
Oh Maryse, I so agree with you; for so long I could not figure out what I really wanted. Something had to give way first. In two weeks I’m publishing a post on ‘honesty’. I now realize I didn’t have any chance of figuring out what I wanted till I got honest with myself and my life.
Evita brought up the dilemma of ‘trust’, we all know to trust but as she says, do we really believe that all will work out?
Trusting Source, is an amazing process. It seems like the “right” thing to do, and yet so many of us have trouble doing it. At the end of the day, do we really believe that all will work out?
Well at times I am really hard pressed to belief that WomenLikeMe and getting our piece of land will work out and yet we know the answer to this too, as Evita reminded us;
But there is that space – that place, where we can get to and just let go and trust. And then lo and behold things start to flow, and move at indeed a jaw-dropping pace
The secret to all this – we simply have to be aligned, and listen to all those fine tuned messages that nature/our environment/Source gives us.
And just as with love, are we experiencing alignment and listening on a daily basis? I am getting there but I still have to pay attention because I am still so wired to force, to feel solely responsible to make things happen and to have all these old blah blah blah conversations in my head.
You can see how I appreciate your input for the ‘behind the scenes’ details of my ‘report’. Living my life the WomenLikeMe way has not been that easy. I’ve had to resolve the dilemmas, jump the hurdles, get honest and own up. I’ve had to find out what I want, stop creating problems, learn to trust that all is well and experience love in my daily life; all these huge new learnings took a lot of patience and courage to apply and implement.
Jillian can see the opportunity;
It would so help me calm down and take it easy on myself,
I agree Jillian, I am slowly but surely seeing the huge advantages of becoming congruent in applying these new ways into my life. There is no comparison with how I used to live, my efforts are paying of.
What I do know is that I could never have done this on my own, the power of status quo is huge, the scaremongery that is going on is sometimes too overwhelming, the invisible pull towards the old ways so strong at times.
Only with support it is possible to live life in a different way that is so much more authentic, it is that knowing that is giving me the confidence and the courage to keep inviting you to join me on WomenLikeMe. It is so easy :~) .
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Hi Wilma, enjoyed this post. It is easy to feel frustrated with where you are at and the oscillating feelings that occur along our journeys towards the perfect “destination” that we seek. In my experience we never actually get to that perfect destination and then sit back and enjoy life until we pass, because as we grow we change and so the “destination” or “perfect life” is constantly changing and evolving along with ourselves. I myself am always working towards a desired destination, but instead of getting hung up on whether I will one day reach it or getting frustrated that I am not there yet, I like to enjoy, love and fully experience the journey along the way, because really we are always on a journey until we die, so why not love it? I’ve also found that loving the journey of life, and all that it throws at us (good and challenging) has also lead to me being a happy person that is making the most of life and being more of my authentic self.
Hey Kim, you are wise beyond your years and you know that I love the way you and Andy live your lives. No waiting till the perfect moment presents itself for you two and I love what you are saying here;
Life would actually be boring when it was as straight as a railway track wouldn’t it?
I do see you live like this;
You are creating your own wonderful experiences and your life is indeed great and you are indeed amazing. I heard you recently moved too. Love to you and Andrew, Wilma.
Hi Wilma
It is fantastic to hear that your confidence is growing!!!!
As for the wonderful discussion you always bring out of each reader – I LOVE SuZen’s answer! Funny, and so, so true!
And it was such a pleasure too, to read Joy’s personal post on “where is the love?” – it is so powerful for each of us to really think about that one a lot, as all too often we cut it off based of the various conditions in life. But we are love, and living out our true nature is what I believe aligns us the most to our paths of life that flow smoothly forward.
Evita Ochel´s last blog ..Unity’s Path Readings for June
Oh Evita, it has been such a change to live this way, it has been a far bigger jump than migrating from Holland to New Zealand and that was a big jump too.
I totally agree about Joy’s post and that we are love. Everything springs forth from love and yet to do everything in daily life from love, go to work and be love, do the shopping and the cleaning lovingly, deal with a dangerous driver in traffic from our heart-center, deal with disappointments and set backs and other difficulties. Oh it is such a different way of being, it is natural and yet sometimes it does feel unnatural when I rather give someone a big wallop for being so nasty, stupid or unpleasant. Old habits die hard.
But I agree Evita, there is such a wonderful image emerging, love and nature are such beautiful things. Much love, Wilma
Hi Wilma,
Before this computer session, I was walking down the dock, letting nature enliven my senses..a neat way to unwind and release..”give it all” to nature/God/the Universe. Unfolding at it’s best.
Of course, it is ‘easy” to be aligned, authentic, embrace each moment as it is when I am by myself in nature…the true journey is applying those truths as I am “living” out in the world.
Your point about support, encouragement, wisdom from our group is right on for me as well..I learn so much from this community, and feel so safe pondering and thinking aloud…what an amazing network, one I am most grateful for each day!
Joy´s last blog ..Wednesday Wisdom: Reflections to my Inner Child
Dear Joy, I love to hear you say this, I am so with you on this;
Exactly, where do we stand when things do not go to plan. I personally need support to keep all the alignment together after having been ‘out in the world’, let me tell you. However I am getting faster and faster to being back into alignment but even so. I think you are doing mighty great though and yes I too love this amazing network.
Much love, Wilma
Hi Wilma! You know what is so cool ? Your blogs that are telling the stories of Wilma are such beautiful examples of change, the evolution of ourselves, how we learn, grow and learn to trust ourselves – you speak for so many! It’s all those bumps in the road that let us know that to a certain point, control is an illusion.
Have an awesome journey, my friend!:)
hugs
suZen
Dearest SuZen, it is so good to hear we are not alone in all this, isn’t it? I love coming to this ‘well’ and having all of us share how it is for each and every one of us. It does help.
There is so much to learn and so much to practice and yes let’s make it an awesome journey with all our friends.
I trust your painting is going well?
Much love and hugs, xox Wilma.
Hi Wilma .. wish John was here! You’re obviously going on a wondrous journey – somewhat daunting .. have fun and take the positives .. you’ve a van to sleep in?!
Love and thoughts .. Hilary
Hilary´s last blog ..Ever Thought of a Map as an Encyclopedia?
Well Hilary, you can always use John as a virtual assistant at the moment, and since I let him you are spot on, he is a real asset that is for sure. So often we are NOT using all the resources around us, not even the people who are close to us.
Oh we love that van, it is such a great workhorse for moving fire wood, tree trunks to make raised garden beds AND when we were scouting the country side we did sleep in it. John knows how to use every resource he has to the full, the van and me included.
And yes I will focus on the joy and the amazing miracles that unfold and I will assume that you are willing to do the same. Let’s support each other in this, shall we?
Much love to you, my travel companion, xox Wilma
Hi WIlma .. many thanks – hi John – VA?!
Hope you’re settled for a few days .. or weeks .. and yes .. we’ll be on the journey together .. life is just flowing for me – nothing definite, other than that decided – I decided I know things are happening & I just have to keep going til then .. and relax.
So looking forward to Wimbledon .. with lots of paper rattling in between! & some serious sorting afer that .. nearly mid-summer’s day .. and light at 4.00 am
Have a great weekend .. hugs and thoughts to you both .. Hilary
Hilary´s last blog ..Ever Thought of a Map as an Encyclopedia?
Hilary that is great and not easy to do and yet very cool;
We can all relax and go with the flow when it goes our way, just like Tess said but boy can we also do it when the bigger plan is different from ours. I really congratulate you. Today is finally a sunny day and lovely and warm in the sun. That is what like about NZ winters, when the sun is out it is a warm sun. I do hope you get some fun weather too. xox Wilma
Wilma: Isn’t it interesting how we feel when we realize that we are in the middle of the road? We realize that our journey has begun and even that we are on the right path, but that we just have some more road to travel down. For me, what has been the most helpful is realizing that I am the one that decided I was in the middle of the road, and I have that same ability to decide that I am making progress and am farther down the road than I was when I first began. It really is all about creating your reality and chipping away at those limiting beliefs that can be so subtle you don’t even realize they are there. For me, one of those limiting beliefs really was that I was just in the middle of the road and there was so much more I had to do and learn before I would really be where I needed to be. Once I started really chipping away at that limiting belief and realized that I was actually at an exact place where things could flourish, but I just had to realize that … everything changed. It really is all about getting out of your own way enough so that you can create the reality you desire. Thank you for sharing all of these great insights and your story.
Sibyl – alternaview´s last blog ..How to Really Experience the Current Moment
Dear Sibyl. These are words after my own heart;
Our beliefs are subtle all right because they are the water we swim in, invisible but there alright.
I agree, we do not have to go anywhere, we are right there, we have arrived already as as per your words;
Changing beliefs takes rigor, it takes observing and being honest, it takes regularly taking stock, it takes being still enough to have the time and energy to focus on the wholesome ‘what is so’. We cannot change and get an alternaview unless we become less busy. Much love, Wilma
Thanks for that reply Wilma. I really appreciate it and also appreciated what you said about changing beliefs takes consistent dedication and rigor. We really do have to work at getting rid of some of the limiting beliefs we have had for far too long.
Sibyl – alternaview´s last blog ..How to Really Experience the Current Moment
Dear Sibyl, you are welcome, together we will eventually change to ore useful beliefs.
Dearest Wilma,
I really didn’t think WomenLikeMe was something I needed because I thought I had already arrived, but I was willing to kick the tires and look under the hood. I cannot begin to tell you how grateful I am for WomenLikeMe and for you and John. Just as you are standing in the unknown territory with your move, I, too, am standing in unknown territory with a number of transitions this summer – and they’re all happening in the next 90 days! I teeter back and forth, between “being confident and completely freaked out.” Even though it’s taken me nearly six months, I finally got a small piece of what WomenLikeMe teaches – that I don’t have to do the next 90 days the way I would have in my past. I’m trusting Richard more and more, and I’m dealing with my creepy little ego that would rather have me feeling like an irresponsible colossal failure.
Love,
Peggy
Peggy´s last blog ..Over-Booked, Over-Scheduled, and Over-Committed
Oh dear Peggy, it takes a lot to uncover the reverse logic of our ego-based thoughts.
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Our whole world is currently based on the most illogical thoughts one can think of; compete, do things on your own, you are totally responsible for everything, you know best, nobody is trustworthy (forgetting that that includes you), only hard work and being busy gets you where you want to go etc etc.
So no wonder that those ego based thoughts lead us to become colossal failures, the very thing it says it protects us from. Yeah right.
But to uncover these ego tricks we need focus and honest close-up observations that we cannot do when we are being kept busy by guess who … the ego of course. It serves the ego to keep us from thinking, it smells a rat alright when we take time out so we can think. So when at WomenLikeMe we are working at uncovering the ego, it fights back as hard as it can while John and I keep being a stand for your heart-centered self to come forth. We know it will eventually, it happened to me and I know what focus it takes. I keep saying, do not underestimate the cunningness of the ego-based thoughts, they are extremely tricky. I am so thrilled that you are getting what the program is about, welcome
Oh Peggy, trusting Richard, YES! Once you play heart-centered team in an aligned relationship so much more becomes possible than when you play ‘alone’ side by side in a parallel relationship.
Oh Peggy, go, life is too beautiful to waste on mediocre attempts that are not focused on quality but quantity. Einstein here you come. Biggest hug, Wilma
Wilma,
I love the way you write and add all people in your writing as well. To Joy “I am the love” To Suzen…I often say my life goes along so well that I get crazy from feeling good and go about and “create some problems” maybe to fit in with the world. LOL and Evita…”do I really believe things will work out and trust that?”…Yes if it will work out MY way! LOL Love to you Wilma!
Tess The Bold Life´s last blog ..Sailing Through Life’s Unexpected Currents
Hahaha Tess, thanks for your contribution, humorous and yet so true!
You would look pretty weird when everything went fine, wouldn’t you, there were times when we would have burnt you at the stake for that.
Thank God we no longer do that and actually take note of people like you, love back at ya, xox Wilma
Hi Wilma — thanks for telling us about the “back-end” portion of what’s presented here. The irony, that I think you understand well, is that your service to us comes in large part from the existence of that “back-end” and your willingness to do investigative reporting on it. I know some people have asked me why I talk about my own neuroses sometimes on the blog, and my response is that talking about those subjects is one way that I do service.
Chris, another brilliant observation. In A Course of Miracles it says look for teachers who have experienced what they are talking about and yes that is the only place to come from. Also watch what the teacher does in real life and when I read that it made a lot of sense to me.
We can all waffle, we all utter words, but it is in the doing and in the experiencing of it where the gold lies. It is NOT that easy to implement all we know from the books, if it was we would all live a lot more sensible and you and I would write totally different posts I am sure, we would write about music, sailing and gardening and beach-combing.
BTW, you can come and do the garbage collection on the program any time you want.