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We are looking for our new home the WomenLikeMe way.
A whole field full of mushrooms
The awesome mushrooms
In January 2008 I declared that I aspired to eat flowers after I was blown away by Machaelle Small-Wright’s Perelandra garden books and Vladimir Megre’s Ringing Cedar Series which described their amazing take on nature.
I had ignored the awesomeness of the earth for far too long, it was time to collaborate closely with nature and its Source.
I wanted my own Garden of Eden, it was time to enter ‘Heaven on Earth’.
John was only too willing to sponsor me on my quest for our own Garden of Eden. I was serious and he knew it!
Our quest is not an ordinary ‘we go and buy any piece of land that is for sale’ quest.
Our quest is a co-creative process practicing collaboration, trust and being love-in-action.
That is the only way to get our extra-ordinary organic Garden of Eden.
To do it this way means applying the ‘do-ing things differently’ that I share in my blog posts and on the WomenLikeMe program.
I need to pay attention and collaborate, I have to know what I aspire and declare it, I have to be in-integrity and be love-in -action, I have to have intent.
So far I have been blown away by doing it this WomenLikeMe way. The twists and turns have been incredible and magical and I am so grateful for the encouraging results as you can well imagine. Phew!
As soon as we decided to live in nature we tried to sell our city house and when it didn’t as the market collapsed I sarcastically thought ‘thanks!‘
Despite ‘that glitch’ we went looking anyway; it showed we were still serious and that we were trusting a solution was available.
One of the WomenLikeMe ways is to create solutions and being in action rather than staying stuck in problems.
And lo and behold a few months later this amazing rental place turned up in a district I really liked.
In turn we rented our own house out and all that was left to do was to thank the Universe for this incredible win/win, this time without the sarcasm.
One of the WomenLikeMe ways is to love and look after your ‘Structures’ and as our house was great as the result of that love-in-action we had no problem renting it to great tenants for a good price.
Knowing to look for the wholesome ‘what is so’ made me see now what I didn’t realize then; renting offered us a wonderful opportunity to get to know this district and its community before buying.
In the end all was well and stage two, exploring the neighborhood, could begin.
A major win was knowing blind George, the local icon who lovingly and effectively introduced us into the community. He is a gem to collaborate with. John helps George with his new computer and as George’s place is busy with a coming and going of people we get to know people and hear what is going on in the neighborhood.
Collaboration involves creating a win for everybody.
The local hardware and garden center is John’s regular stop after his visit to George, to get his garden shopping done AND to get his advice; many a garden disaster has been discussed and solutions been found in that store.
By now the shopkeeper and John are great mates AND we got to know his huge extended family which lives in this area. Through him we have access to all kind of trades and resources. They own trailers, wood splitters and bulldozers to name a few; I am sure we will borrow and rent the lot in due course 
.
While John talks with George and the shopkeepers, I support his efforts with preparing numerous dinners so we can befriend the local farmers and get to know the lay of their land over a lovely meal.
We listen to how they treat their land, we hear their private opinions and we get to feel their energy.
In turn we visit them and get to see with our own eyes what is on offer and how the surrounds feel.
We definitely get a chance to see where win/win opportunities are a possibility.
We haven’t found our Garden of Eden yet and I am learning to let it all unfold while thoroughly enjoying the amazing adventures we are having along the way, many of which I share on this blog. I wrote about my adventures with George, you will have seen the post with the photo of the Alpacas whose wool I have scored, I have shown you the veggie garden, the fruit. I am sure you are able to form an idea of what we are creating here.
The photo of this post was made just last Sunday. We visited thanks to George, an out-of-this-world property owned by Pat, an out-of-this-world artist and story teller. We came home absolutely enchanted and with a huge amount of field mushrooms to boot.
Life continues to amaze me and I am blown away what living life differently the WomenLikeMe way has unearthed.
So far I could have but didn’t;
- Be problem focused instead of solution focused. I could have given up when things went wrong and stopped being in action. Does this sound familiar or not? I shudder to think about what you and I could have been missing out on.
- Nag John that all is going to custard and stop collaborating with his initiatives and refuse to trust all is well. Do you detect a tendency like this, nagging and refusing to trust?
Life is good, we are co-creating with Source.
I am learning that this is not luck but what is possible from collaboration and paying attention to become a strong basecamp. My mouth still falls open at times but I am more and more convinced that this is the way we are supposed to live. Bring it on! and can you see why I want everybody to live like this?
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Oh Wilma,
I love the emotions you are expressing in this post…you give me such hope for when I am in love:)
-You are looking for your own Garden of Eden…how absolutely beautiful on so many levels…you both have such lovely open hearts, you will find your Garden of Eden and it will be every bit as beauty filled and magical as you desire it to be…I am so excited to watch as this manifests for you!!! What it teaches *me* though is that the right partner is there for me, the right place is there for me–dream big and allow my heart to remain open as I do in every other area…no room for barriers here!
-You are using exactly what you teach, exactly what you believe in and share with us, to manifest your dreams in a magical way! Oh Wilma..Thank you! Thank you for being ultra aware, allowing your heart to remain open, dreaming big, collaborating, being so generous and receiving generosity back, for allowing this process to unfold…
My heart just leaps reading this!…My question of the day to God/the Universe is: where is the love?…and your post is part of the Answer I have been receiving throughout the day: the Love is right here, within, in Faith, in all that I know…
Thank you Wilma–blessings to you and John as you continue along on this process!
Joy´s last blog ..Fearless Fun Friday: Celebrate!
Dear Joy, from the bottom of my heart, thank you for paying attention and yes;
Correct, there are no barriers at all to your dreams, only our thoughts.
You will, Joy, you will see love when it is there, you are preparing.
The hardest part is the waiting though, however when I read your posts, I see sweet anticipation, sweet contemplation instead of an ego-based impatience.
Oh Joy, there have been times when I sooo wanted to travel into the future to see if all would be alright, I was so unsure of how it all would unfold when it looked as if nothing was unfolding right. I keep hearing that the Universe is one great resource, itching to co-create with us, therefore let’s co-create that love for you. I am dreaming and anticipating with you, let’s not dishonor the Universe’s ability to team up with us.
You just keep being beautiful and lovable, XOX Wilma
Hi Wilma! By jove, I think she’s got it!!! YAY! YES I know how/why you want everyone to figure this out, indeed! So often we don’t HAVE problems, we CREATE them – with our fears, insecurities, egos or baggage attached nonsense.
Ya know, Wilma, I have friends who call me just for a good dose of optimism. And there are times when I’ve been told my joy/laughter/optimism grates on their nerves! Yet they swear I’m addicting – go figure! Hells bells, I went thru decades of drama – oh how exhausting and wasteful of energy that was! I swore it all off and made the choice of joyous living – the beauty of it is there is no going back! You’ll see! Congrats on the new chapter of being Wilma!
hugs
suZen
Gheez, I so agree, we make our problems, we make our own misery and yet, they do sneak in from time to time, nasty little weasels.
Therefore I understand your friends, ‘Context is King’ and when you are having great conversations of joy and possibility, why wouldn’t they want to hang around you, they are paying attention there, obviously.
I agree;
No going back once you got a taste of how good living can be without the nagging and the drama and all that other ego nonsense.
A big cheer for us and huge hugs back, xox Wilma
Wilma,
Gardening is about trusting and nuturing. It’s no surprise how you and John have blossomed in your community and your outreach. What you share and demonstrate is true living. Finding those rare species like George and sharing your seeds for others to harvest and reap the rewards. Precious.
Thank you for the joy.
Xoxo
Angelia´s last blog ..Belles of the Bride
Dearest Angelia, gardening is aligning with the thoughts of God as nature is following universal laws and ego hasn’t infiltrated there yet.
Those books I mentioned are just extraordinary in their pointing out how those laws work and what is possible when we pay attention to them and collaborate instead of interfere and dominate.
You are very welcome and I love sharing this joy and these discoveries with you, much love Wilma
I love this light and uplifting tone from you, Wilma! Creating a Garden of Eden in your very own Heaven on Earth, what a stunning visual.
This is so very possible if we only stop demonizing those parts of our nature that are less-than-good. Because, really, we all have less-than-good residing within us and to torment ourselves by thinking/hoping that we can one day be fully-functioning without fault is useless and, if I may be bold, delusional.
As long as we acknowledge our ability to choose, those qualities we have that are better-than-evil will prevail for the most part. I believe this.
Hi Belinda. My vision is definitely pulling me forward and encouraging me to keep paying attention to how much I am on track to have this vision come to fruition.
There is certainly so much more possible than we think.
I am consistently amazed at how my thinking is limited when I am confronted with alternatives I had never thought of.
I have no idea how fully functional we can be, but I do know that day by day, minute by minute I can check my thinking and see if there is a more useful alternative to the thoughts I am having right now.
And often there is when I take the time to honestly scrutinize my own thoughts or when I listen without judgment to other people.
The issue for me has been to realize how little I know, how limited my thinking is and how much there is to explore. I am not seeking the truth, I am seeking what I deem to be useful for each moment in time. I keep challenging my thinking and indeed with that I too am sharpening my ability to choose what is best for me at any given moment and that only can get better. xox Wilma
Oh shit, if only I weren’t mired down in Misty9’s and Gainers I might be able to grasp hold of all of your oh so important knowledge. It would so help me calm down and take it easy on myself, like you try to teach me.
I will have to go back, way back, and start reading again. I truly think you and SuZen have come into my life for a reason and I know I must study you two and all of your wisdom.
Maybe I should follow suit and try to rent my personal Nirvana out??? No, that’s not the answer…
Anyway, I’m sorry it took so long but you are now on my blogroll cuz I luv ya like that!
Oh Jillian, it all comes with experience and wash and rinse and try again, that wisdom of SuZen and I.
Much love, Wilma
The main thing is observing and paying attention and that is what you are doing. The biggest observation I made was that what I think is NOT always the best way to think about things. THAT has been my savior in being able to find solutions instead of staying stuck and being focused on the problem or ignoring it all together. It is in daring to say that I don’t know, it is in listening without judgment that a possible totally different solution comes into vision. That is what you did with your boy, you listened and observed and even if it feels crap it is good to realize that all is not well and it is good to realize that you don’t know ‘yet’.
For a long time I had no idea either, I smelled a rat but that was all, I had no idea how to go forward, was scared, was afraid I might make the wrong decision, in short totally paralyzed by my own mind.
Once I acknowledged that that was so, I felt kind of relieved and got the freedom to let solutions come to me.
Therefore Jillian, observe, do not ignore what is so but also do not let that get you down too much. You are working on it, for one thing you are here
Dearest Beautiful Wilma,
This brought tears to my eyes. You are looking for a reflection of yourself, as is John, as are you both. And when you “meet” yourself on the land you will know it as if you had ALWAYS known it. You will embrace it, and IT will embrace you, sweet Wilma.
Many indigenous people believed that we each have a place upon which we stand and we FEEL ourselves there in the Earth. I have had this experience more than once. You are seeking a piece of your soul. This is a re-membering of self. That is WHY it is so important a process. It is not JUST a mere matter of looking through realestate magazines and looking at houses and land lots and saying I want that piece. NO, because you and John are looking for your “Earth-soul-mate”. You are looking for the place where Earth speaks to you and says, “Yes! Oh dear Wilma, you have finally come. I have been waiting an eternity for you, just you. Oh my child, you have finally come home.”
Dear precious Wilma, never doubt that Earth will speak to you in this way. There is a place out there awaiting your return. I KNOW this. I know it. I cry as I write this because I have experienced this before and I am still held by these places, held in their loving arms. We (these places and I) still speak to each other, heart beat to heart beat over great distance, they sustain me during this time in the city. They ARE ME, dear Wilma.
That is HOW important this journey of yours is. That is HOW real it is. All you need do is listen and the land will speak to you.
I am with you and dear John on this journey, this re-membering of soul, this soul’s journey home. I love you always, Robin
Robin Easton´s last blog ..Naked in Eden – Book Trailer
Dear Robin. As always you take the post to a different level and I totally feel this is what we are doing;
Oh Robin, there is so much more to this life of ours, to this earthly existence than we currently see and experience. We are so closed off and it is such a beautiful journey to open ourselves up to be able to fully embrace God’s creation, nature’s intelligence and our ability to collaborate and co-create with everything, including humans, nature and the universe. Maryse wonders in her comment about how the world would look like, I think we will all be in agreement that finally the splendor of the earth AND the splendor in us will reveal itself. We haven’t seen anything yet.
You showed what is possible in New York despite the appearances, what is possible when one can let go of one’s ego-armor, I too am finding this out as we quest for our Garden of Eden.
My dearest companion, it feels so good to have you walk beside me on our way home, you and I know where we are going and it is such an enormous pleasure to share the road with you.
Biggest hug as always, xox Wilma
Paying attention.
Listening.
Slowing down.
Letting things unfold just as they should.
Looking at my current circumstances not so much head on but from above – a different level from which to create a win/win solution.
May take me awhile and that’s ok. There’s no rush.
Love,
Peggy
Peggy´s last blog ..The Remarried Couple’s Checkup on The Stepmom’s Toolbox Radio Show 6/15/2010
Dear Peggy.
Beautifully said, yes that is required to get an Einstein view from above so you can pro-actively ‘create’ solutions rather than reactively do the same old same old.
I am still astounded to see how much more is possible when we do what you said here;
We need to let go of the tigers we have by the tails, we have to step off the treadmill. Sounds like cliche and yet there is no way to do things differently until we let go of our busyness first, until we untangle ourselves from the web we have woven and yes that may take a while. However a movie in slow motion, a life in slow motion is far easier to pay attention to than a movie in fast forward mode.
There is a saying; there is no rush on the creative plane, everything unfolds in its own good time and in its own good order.
Hmm, patience and trust again.
Much love to you my friend, xox Wilma
Isn’t it just amazing? The Universe will supports each and every one of us in our endeavors if we let it. I often wonder what the planet would be like if we all lived from that place of co-creation. It’s taken me a while to get there. Being temporarily limited physically has pushed me into that place of letting go of control while trusting that all is unfolding as it should.
Do you know what was the hardest first step? Figuring out what I really wanted. The ‘intent’ you talk about here. Once that’s in place, when applying all the principles you so clearly state in your post, life becomes one big exciting ride!
Thank you for being such an inspiring example. You show us that we can all have our ‘Garden of Eden”.
Maryse
Maryse´s last blog ..BARE HANDS IN THE SAND
Dear Maryse, you sure have gone beyond the level of staying stuck in your physical limitations and I find that extremely admirable. It is one thing to talk about it but another to actually do it. I so value what you observed here;
THAT is exactly IT. Follow your bliss, follow your dream, “yeah that is fine but how do I find bliss, my dream in the first place” was always my agonized reply to these words.
When I was busy surviving, busy with pretending life was so cool, I had no chance to find out what I really wanted. Life took over and had me do what everybody else wanted.
I so agree, I am so grateful that I now know what I want and I found it by slowing down and becoming honest. Sometimes we are forced to become honest by the hand life deals us, sometimes we find out before disaster wakes us up.
Either way as I said being aware unearths so much more treasures than pretending I hear nothing, I see nothing and blaming life.
You too are amazingly inspiring, I love your contributions, love Wilma
Hi Wilma .. it does seem as though you’ve found your area .. and thus one part of the journey is decided .. your source and love will bring all to fruition .. as life unfolds with us.
It does sound as though you’re in the right place .. in the right frame of mind – so love and thoughts .. while you guzzle those wonderful looking mushrooms! What a wonderful community to be a part of ..
Thinking of you both – Hilary
Hilary´s last blog ..Ever Thought of a Map as an Encyclopedia?
Dear Hilary, I love you picking up on this;
Being in a certain frame of mind is important. Our thoughts can really screw things up and often we are not even aware of our thoughts or how they are taking us away from our dream.
I could have been nagging and expressing my doubt how all would unfold, because I honestly have no idea and with that stop the positive energy to carry the whole project forward. The same in your situation, you could absolutely hide and think there is no way out or you can do as you do, truck on, be in action knowing that all will be well and keep your doubts to yourself as much as you can and seek out a context that supports you rather than hinders you. So I am pleased you are here and at least get that support :~)
The mushrooms were indeed very tasty, made lots of soup.
Much love to you, I do admire you too how you get on step by step. xox Wilma
Hi Wilma
Trusting Source, is an amazing process. It seems like the “right” thing to do, and yet so many of us have trouble doing it. At the end of the day, do we really believe that all will work out?
I think our actions and thought preoccupations tell us otherwise.
But there is that space – that place, where we can get to and just let go and trust. And then lo and behold things start to flow, and move at indeed a jaw-dropping pace
The secret to all this – we simply have to be aligned, and listen to all those fine tuned messages that nature/our environment/Source gives us.
I share your love for living the natural way, living in nature and in beautiful, close-nit communities. These are gifts I am learning and receiving on a daily basis living in our new home environment. And it is all so good
P.S. Looking forward to learning the mushrooms of our area and doing some picking on trails in the forests that surround us too!
Evita Ochel´s last blog ..7 Things I Wish I Had Known Earlier In My Life
Oh dear Evita, I so have struggled with this;
Do we really believe? It requires an enormous courage to jump into life living this way let me tell you. But there is no way I can do it half heartedly, you are either pregnant or you aren’t.
I consider my life now to be a laboratory of doing life in a totally different way, according to a whole new belief system and this blog is the report. Oh Evita, there are so many new ways of living to experience. Nature has an intelligence we can tap into, but as with every new language or new culture we need to take the time to observe, emerge and adjust ourselves to become part of that culture. I am doing just that, I am observing and discovering the laws of nature, the flow of life, the enormous potential of Source. I am entering a whole new world which is just stunning and moving beyond belief.
I am so thrilled you are sharing this same move into another way of living, so exciting and so encouraging.
My sister-in-law is going to send me a book about edible flowers, how cool is that?
While Columbus might have discovered America, I too feel that I am discovering a whole new world that has been there waiting all along. A world that is so much more congruent, so much more authentic, so much more abundant and generous, allowing so much more freedom, so much more love.
Love Wilma
Hi Wilma — heh, yes, I had plenty of “all is going to custard” experiences in the last few days — I ran my first full-day workshop on Saturday, and a few times I was worrying that everyone might get up and walk out and decide it was all ridiculous, that my co-leader would cancel on me at the last minute, and so on — but I ran it and I’m still kind of in shock from what an amazing experience it was! I think that if I’d had the custard expression in my mind at all times, of course, I would have been laughing too hard to worry about anything.
Gheez Chris, and we think all those script writers in Hollywood have the only licence to create drama. I do agree, we too know how to think up awful scenarios all by ourselves.
Congrats on your first workshop, may many more awesome ones follow. It still beats me though why we always go to the ‘it will all turn to custard’ scenario. Why weren’t you full of yourself thinking you were the bee’s knees and those people were mighty lucky to do a workshop with you. At least that is what I would be thinking about your workshops.
It shows we still need level headed others around us to keep us from having these disturbing thoughts. Next time I will write a raving review even before you have done the workshop, just to remind you how good you are. Deal?
Yes, laughing about yourself is a good strategy but not always doable, my ego does get in the way of that sometimes.
xox Wilma
Kia ora Wilma,
It amazes me sometimes how I “found” the Ruahine without really knowing how. So I have no doubts that you and John, whom are far more in tune than me not even knowing I was looking, will have that place revealed to you when are absolutely ready. It will speak to you, no it will SING to you. Just keep Listening as you are. Kia kaha.
Aroha,
Robb
Robb´s last blog ..Hokinga mai – Homecoming
Kia ora dear Robb, I love your trust in us, both in you and in John and me.
You know, we must have planted a seed in our heart you and me, sometime ago and that seed brought us to New Zealand. It is quite lovely to live in expectation with that knowing that it will sing. I will keep listening, kia kaha.
Aroha, Wilma
Wilma, that is awesome! I am so glad you are on the lookout for your dream land for your beautiful garden. It sounds like a dream indeed. I’m so glad you’ve put yourself in a position to where you can go after what you really want and not take “no” for an answer.
Have fun with all your exploring and experiences~that area sounds like it would be a great place to live. I also can’t wait to see the pictures when you do find your place as the land there just amazes me.
Keep livin’ it up,
Kristie
Oh Kristie, it is indeed awesome to be living this way and co-create with nature. It is funny that you say this;
I too am extremely glad but it took some doing to get myself in this position. There was a time when I would have said; “No wait, I work another 5 years so we can pay off the mortgage. No wait another 5 years with moving so we have enough money to retire. No wait another 5 years and oops I am dead.”
We are actually all in a position to live the life we want, but often we wait for the right conditions instead of taking the jump and DO IT, LIVE instead of waiting.
I certainly will keep livin’ it up and I hope I can take you with me. Hugs Wilma
Wilma, from my treadmill of chaos and custard with kids and career and husband and house, your life seems so far away from the possibilities of mine. I know that it is in your thoughts and your intentions that manifests your life and if I was to actually take the time to stop…To observe. To pay attention. To listen. To trust the Universe. To ask myself what I want, things might be different. I would also have to have a huge amount of courage, like you do… I can at least take baby steps in this process, and see how things shift. Anyway, I admire you greatly, you are an amazing inspiration to us all for a better way of life. Your posts are such a gift!
Lisa Bagshaw´s last blog ..Cinderella- a Fractured Fairy Tale
Dear Lisa, I fully appreciate how busy life can be when full on with children and all the rest you mentioned. It takes time to untangle and restructure life so you are no longer swept up by its current. I do agree baby steps are a great start, you are spot on, it would be unwise to think otherwise.
It is great to look at just one area in your life to begin with and that is what we at WomenLikeMe do. We support a careful transition, we support women to find out what baby steps to start with and from there as you say, it will ripple eventually through all areas.
It is like your blog post about the fractured fairy tale, fracturing life as we know it takes time but giving it a thought is already a wonderful thing.
My transformation has not happened overnight either. It is huge and it took me such a long time to get it, see myself in a different light and then knowing what to change the fairy tale into. Like you at some point I had no idea either what if was that I wanted in my life, I too was so busy I totally had no sense of that at all.
It is finally after years that I am holding a vision and now I am describing my process. I trust it will all help to reach a tipping point. I appreciate your kind words and I appreciate your listening and your time will come too. xox Wilma