Comments on: Does the way you talk destruct or create? http://www.wilmasblog.com/leverage/2010/05/10/does-the-way-you-talk-destruct-or-create/ Doing things Differently Sun, 15 Jan 2012 00:44:46 -0700 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.5 hourly 1 By: Wilma http://www.wilmasblog.com/leverage/2010/05/10/does-the-way-you-talk-destruct-or-create/#comment-9018 Wilma Thu, 20 May 2010 21:52:50 +0000 http://www.wilmasblog.com/?p=4208#comment-9018 Oh Farnoosh, how cool. You know, the ego loves to fight and go for right and wrong. In the end that only creates a battle field instead of a loving conversation to get to an agreement or an understanding of another person's point of view. You still do not always have to agree but you also do not always have to fight about disagreements either. There are peaceful ways and isn't that awesome and a grin from ear to ear says it all doesn't it. Way to go and welcome to these conversations we are having here and it is great that you see the gold in all this shared wisdom, xox Wilma Oh Farnoosh, how cool. You know, the ego loves to fight and go for right and wrong. In the end that only creates a battle field instead of a loving conversation to get to an agreement or an understanding of another person’s point of view. You still do not always have to agree but you also do not always have to fight about disagreements either.
There are peaceful ways and isn’t that awesome and a grin from ear to ear says it all doesn’t it. Way to go and welcome to these conversations we are having here and it is great that you see the gold in all this shared wisdom, xox Wilma

]]> By: Farnoosh http://www.wilmasblog.com/leverage/2010/05/10/does-the-way-you-talk-destruct-or-create/#comment-9017 Farnoosh Thu, 20 May 2010 20:46:53 +0000 http://www.wilmasblog.com/?p=4208#comment-9017 Gosh Wilma, I feel like I have just had the best therapy (no I have never actually been but I sure could have used some a few years ago). I told my hubby as he came home that I learned how to argue and communicate more effectively today from Wilma and that there'll be more benefit of a doubt - and he grinned ear to ear on how nice that would be.....Seriously though, you have a way with words and a new subscriber/fan in me. Thank you!!!! Gosh Wilma, I feel like I have just had the best therapy (no I have never actually been but I sure could have used some a few years ago). I told my hubby as he came home that I learned how to argue and communicate more effectively today from Wilma and that there’ll be more benefit of a doubt – and he grinned ear to ear on how nice that would be…..Seriously though, you have a way with words and a new subscriber/fan in me. Thank you!!!!

]]> By: Wilma http://www.wilmasblog.com/leverage/2010/05/10/does-the-way-you-talk-destruct-or-create/#comment-9016 Wilma Thu, 20 May 2010 20:10:13 +0000 http://www.wilmasblog.com/?p=4208#comment-9016 Dear Farnoosh. Isn't it great to recognize each other in the great and not so great things on our journey to progress into someone we were meant to be. I find it astounding to observe how far we have strayed and how much it takes to return to bliss and peace and love. It is all in the do-ing though and as long as you and I are committed to that, we both are filled with hope. I love how this dialog allows us to encourage each other, alone we cannot do it, alone the status quo will win, but together we certainly can achieve bliss and spread love around us. Thank you too for joining the dialog, it is important to keep these conversations about change going, love Wilma. Dear Farnoosh.
Isn’t it great to recognize each other in the great and not so great things on our journey to progress into someone we were meant to be.
I find it astounding to observe how far we have strayed and how much it takes to return to bliss and peace and love. It is all in the do-ing though and as long as you and I are committed to that, we both are filled with hope. I love how this dialog allows us to encourage each other, alone we cannot do it, alone the status quo will win, but together we certainly can achieve bliss and spread love around us. Thank you too for joining the dialog, it is important to keep these conversations about change going, love Wilma.

]]> By: Farnoosh ~ Prolific Living http://www.wilmasblog.com/leverage/2010/05/10/does-the-way-you-talk-destruct-or-create/#comment-9011 Farnoosh ~ Prolific Living Thu, 20 May 2010 15:27:30 +0000 http://www.wilmasblog.com/?p=4208#comment-9011 Dear Wilma, I am so happy to have discovered your blog AND read this particular post! Are you sure that Little Voice talking to you isn't from my head? :) Sigh...such truth you write here. I learned so much by reading this. Your John is my Andy and that Little Voice has won over more often than not in my 8-years of (still) marriage bliss. Every time, I am left with regrets on how I handled things! Recent years have been much better and I have a blunder here and there (once every few months) so progress is filling me with hope and your post filling me with encouragement, thank you! Dear Wilma,
I am so happy to have discovered your blog AND read this particular post! Are you sure that Little Voice talking to you isn’t from my head? :) Sigh…such truth you write here. I learned so much by reading this. Your John is my Andy and that Little Voice has won over more often than not in my 8-years of (still) marriage bliss. Every time, I am left with regrets on how I handled things! Recent years have been much better and I have a blunder here and there (once every few months) so progress is filling me with hope and your post filling me with encouragement, thank you!

]]> By: Wilma http://www.wilmasblog.com/leverage/2010/05/10/does-the-way-you-talk-destruct-or-create/#comment-8943 Wilma Thu, 13 May 2010 06:00:16 +0000 http://www.wilmasblog.com/?p=4208#comment-8943 TISHA, you wonderful woman, this is awesome;<blockquote>In the exchange with my husband, I literally heard the whine in my voice and felt the irritation rising but I stopped mid-sentence (hard as it was) and 1) apologized for my part in the conflict, then 2) told him that I respected his opinion and would do what I could to support him in coming to an agreeable solution.</blockquote> This is NOT easy to do, I totally agree and I love that you say you had to swallow your pride. Same here, at first it feels like giving in, like why should you be the wise one who avoids conflict, but as you say the benefits are too great to let that ego win and create havoc. <blockquote> I felt really proud of myself and moreover, the look of relief (and surprise) on my husband’s face was priceless…and we communicated wonderfully and peacefully for the rest of the day.</blockquote> You sure have every reason to feel proud and what a glorious outcome. Peace is so much more wonderful for the soul than all that conflict and competing for right or wrong. Tisha, this way we will all reach wonderful anniversaries. Hugs Wilma TISHA, you wonderful woman, this is awesome;
In the exchange with my husband, I literally heard the whine in my voice and felt the irritation rising but I stopped mid-sentence (hard as it was) and 1) apologized for my part in the conflict, then 2) told him that I respected his opinion and would do what I could to support him in coming to an agreeable solution.

This is NOT easy to do, I totally agree and I love that you say you had to swallow your pride. Same here, at first it feels like giving in, like why should you be the wise one who avoids conflict, but as you say the benefits are too great to let that ego win and create havoc.

I felt really proud of myself and moreover, the look of relief (and surprise) on my husband’s face was priceless…and we communicated wonderfully and peacefully for the rest of the day.

You sure have every reason to feel proud and what a glorious outcome. Peace is so much more wonderful for the soul than all that conflict and competing for right or wrong.
Tisha, this way we will all reach wonderful anniversaries. Hugs Wilma

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