Comments on: Giving myself a second ‘chance’ in life.

By: Wilma

Wilma — Fri, 26 Mar 2010 04:12:07 +0000

Oh Tess, yes letting go of the ones we love is not always easy but the only choice we have to stay sane sometimes. AND of course keeping the possibility that they will return and keeping the door open. Thanks Tess and you must have had fun meeting up with the other bloggers. Cool to have seen Jay AND Joy together. xox Wilma

By: Tess The Bold Life

Tess The Bold Life — Thu, 25 Mar 2010 23:52:34 +0000

Wilma,
This is so true…every last word. Sometimes we have to let those we love go and hope they return. Maybe they will and maybe it’s not their path. That’s where I’m at right now.
Tess The Bold Life´s last blog ..My Dad and His Tool Shop

By: Wilma

Wilma — Thu, 25 Mar 2010 20:39:27 +0000

Oh Angelia, I know you are an amazing woman and this comment again shows that you ARE!
Just like Robin’s comment, yours shows too what this really is about.
Let’s stop beating ourselves up, whatever we did we did with who we were and what we knew at that moment in time. What would life be if we were all condemned to life long imprisonment by our past??????
We might as well all give up.
Oh Angelia, you deserve every second of that beautiful life you now live with all those beautiful people around you.
And isn’t it an incredible gift for both your Mom and you, to let the past go and create a new beginning for both of you. Oh Angelia what a wonderful way to live life and it gives me an incredible sense of safety. Whatever I do in my ignorance, there is always another chance, I will NOT have to be shackled to the past.
Thank you my dear friend to give me that reassurance by sharing your own stories. That feeling of safety and peace is priceless, therefore you too are a treasure. Big hug, Wilma

By: Angelia Sims

Angelia Sims — Thu, 25 Mar 2010 14:05:02 +0000

When I first read this by email, I committed myself to being more aware. Little did I know how quickly it would explode. I made a huge mistake two years ago. To me the mistake was made in a greedy pursuit (more $$), I knew I had chose the wrong thing after three months. The economy did allow me to correct my mistake. Rather than beat myself up, I did the best I could. An opportunity arose very recently, and I jumped at it. It was my hearts desire and a way to make things right again. There was a moment when things might go the way I hoped and I would continue to live with my mistake. I wanted to rebel and cry, but instead, I accepted it openly. I gave myself permission to continue to do the best I could and be happy with the decisions I had made, to not be unforgiving to me. The next day, my opportunity came through.

I truly feel it was my acceptance of who I was and the life I was capable of living despite it all that pulled it my way.

In the same way, I suppose I could hold over my moms head the fact that she was an alcoholic while I was growing up. I got cheated out of a “normal” childhood. I could be bitter and hold it over her head. I choose not to do that. And she chooses not be a victim of her past as well. We both grew and learned from it.

It takes guts to rise above. Wilma you are an inspiring woman! And I love, love, love Robin’s comments.
Angelia Sims´s last blog ..Mom in Show

By: Wilma

Wilma — Thu, 25 Mar 2010 03:06:04 +0000

Oh Robin, as always you touch me to the core with how you so beautifully expand on what hanging on to the past does to us.
This is IT;

If I let others whip me the rest of my life, my life is TOTALLY wasted and I am basically saying to the other person, “Yes, I will agree to be the source/reason for all your OWN life’s pain. Yes, I will help you be a victim. Yes, it’s okay that you punish me; I’m not worthy of love and forgiveness. Yes, it okay that you live in victim hood. Yes, I will stay in this place and be sick with you. Yes, I don’t love you enough to make you be accountable for your own life, emotions and choices. I don’t love you enough to care whether you pull yourself together or not, so I will continue to let you blame ME.”

That is what it does and that is what makes it so important to understand what is going on. Oh Robin, you are such a gift, your words are such a gift to me and to everybody else who reads them. Thank you so much for saying so clearly what freedom means, forgiving the past and accepting all of yourself, warts and all.
You sooo get all this, it shines through in your beautiful words and we are blessed to have you sharing your rays of light. Robin, I cannot wait to meet, I see a book tour coming up . I know you are an extremely busy woman right now but still finding time to leave these awesome words that reach right into our hearts.
Big hugs to you, Wilma