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Interrupted thinking creates half-baked me.
The look of my current blissful uninterrupted life.
Ever opened the oven door and thus interrupted the baking?
Of course you have and so have I with dire consequences.
My interruptions have caused many potentially beautiful creations come to an early death. Before they had a chance to rise, many cakes have fallen flat on their face so to speak.
Okay, so I have ruined some baking, I can live with that.
But what if interruptions are being the death of my heart-centered creations?
What if interruptions are so plentiful in my life that my creative self never has a chance to fully express itself, that its thoughts never have a chance to rise?
Can I be so casual about that, can I live with that?
Hmmm.
Let’s take a day out of the life of an ordinary woman; Me.
Let’s take a day when I was still in full time job with two little daughters.
It is early morning.
The dawn was coming and I was in that wonderful state, not fully woken up yet and extremely relaxed ready to access some beautiful feelings and insights.
The next minute the alarm gave me an almighty fright and had me standing to attention beside my bed in one second flat, thus rudely interrupting that glorious peaceful feeling at the beginning of my day.
Peace and inspiration gone, I trotted to the shower hoping a quiet dousing of water would restore some sense of well being.
However before I emerged from the bedroom I could hear a fight going on. Oh God have mercy, what now?
Great! Daughters were fighting over who had the cereal first.
How on earth can I handle this when I hardly know I exist?
So instead of being able to go for a heart-centered creative solution or taking this opportunity to teach conflict resolution I resorted to what I learned to do well . . . I yelled.
Thus I interrupted their fight with a short cut and interrupted their chance to have their heart-centered selves sort it eventually. My own heart-centered self wasn’t very pleased with all this either.
After a quick shower, with interrupted hot water supply because somebody -again- used the hot water somewhere else in the house, I arrived back in the bedroom to get dressed. I had no idea what I felt like wearing so I just stood there trying to decide when the oldest came in, interrupting my thinking to ask if I could do her hair.
Okay, I just grabbed some clothes which I did not feel like wearing and did her hair.
As I was interrupted to choose clothes I would feel good in, I was the whole day out of sorts wearing the wrong clothes.
The rest of getting ready I did on automatic to finally arrive at work, feeling distracted.
While I peacefully sipped my coffee, trying to get my bearings . . . I got interrupted by colleagues.
Resigned I put a smile on my face and pretended to pay attention.
As I had to interrupt my being present to myself, I was in no mood to be present to somebody else, so I shut down, excused myself and went to work hoping for a few uninterrupted hours to prepare a workshop.
To be exact, I got fifteen minutes peace before someone interrupted by asking if I had a certain resource they needed. NO, I had NOT, grrrr.
Another fifteen minutes went by and I got interrupted with the request to see a client as a double booking had been made.
In those few hours in which my creative self tried to bring some creative thinking to fruition, my ‘baking’ had been interrupted so many times that the results hardly resembled a cake.
As usual I resigned myself to the fact that again my heart-centered self, ME had had no time to show up to have a say.
All I could do was to continue to accept that interruptions are part of life and I never gave their impact, a distracted ME, any thought.
We have been subjected to interruptions every day of our life from a very young age onwards.
We get our play interrupted.
School is all about the tyranny of a time table.
Classes finish when the bell rings; who cares that you were in the middle of some significant learning; the bell prevails.
How creative would we be if we were allowed to think, speak and do things to completion and that interrupting was considered an unspeakable crime, that only occurred in dire emergencies.
How much more might we learn from others, our children, nature, if instead of interrupting, we observed and waited patiently to savor the quality of what showed up?
In WomenLikeMe this is shared about who we are;
As human beings alive on this planet, we have all been gifted the freedom to create and love. This is our God given right.
Who we are is way more than our conscious minds can even begin to dream of.
What’s more, it is mostly invisible to our conscious self as it drowns in distractions.
Constant interruptions don’t allow us to access those creative, extraordinary dimensions of ourselves that are also who we are.
Since I left paid employment and started to work from our home in the country, whole days go by without interruptions.
What a different world I suddenly live in.
I wake up slowly, savoring those half wake moments.
I get to access who I am be-ing, how I feel and how I want my day to go.
During the day I consciously create distraction free focused time.
My heart-centered self finally can produce perfectly baked thoughts by a fully present ME.
I am introducing a new element to these Monday posts.
I and this blog are all about doing things differently.
So as well as distinguishing a feature of daily life that can be done differently, I am going to make some suggestions as to what you can change in your do-ing.
Having distinguished the cost of interruptions this is what I invite you to do this week;
- Simply observe and notice how often you get interrupted or distracted.
- Stop mindlessly interrupting and distracting others, if you have to interrupt someone ask permission first.
- Intentionally act to minimize the interruptions you experience this week.
P.S. If you need any further evidence, check out Leo of Zen Habits excellent post on interruptions and their cost.
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Dearest Wilma,
I kept nodding all through reading this post. I agree with you completely…word for word! We live frequently interrupted lives and do it so automatically ….we dont even realize it..till some really huge incidents shake us.
I felt these interruptions taking over my life when my little one was born. I am sure i lived with these interruptions for many years prior…but when my little one was born…I think the newness of the whole experience coupled with the physical exhaustion just got to me. I found myself being constantly irritated and agitated. It was only one day when my dear hubby told me….”zee…you have got to start listening to yourself…..you dont sound like you anymore!” WOW! That was like a freaking alarm to me!
How could i have let myself get so caught up??? Since, then i have consciously started living a very peaceful life. I reduced my stresses…..started paying attention to details…and most of all started listening to others too! Miraculously..i had developed immense patience. There is an upside to easing on the interruptions…You become more patient with yourself..and with others. You learn more…you understand more.
Such a wonderful topic Wilma!!
Thank you for broaching this topic….
Much Love,
Z~
Hi Zee, you so describe this well;
Yes Z, it is freaking scary when you realize how distracted we have become by all those interruptions and how that makes us NOT being the best we can be.
Consciously starting to create a peaceful life by easing interruptions is key, but we can only do that when we are becoming aware of the distractions and its costs as you did.
You were fortunate to have your hubby point that out. It is a lot harder to observe it yourself unless guided to do so as I am doing now. Or you can hire out your hubby!
Yes great that you can actually share the upsides of an less interrupted life by experiencing
Isn’t that a great way to be and then you can become more attentive to your little one and hubby and then the rest of the world and me.
It is so wonderful to have you hear me and to add value to this distinction with your experience. Zee, it is so important to become the change we want to see and to change what we are do-ing, THAT will eventually make a difference in the world and wouldn’t that be awesome.
So peaceful Z, much love to you and tell your hubby I love him too. You make a wonderful team and we all get to benefit. XOX Wilma
Hi Wilma!
I’m with Zeenat, I was nodding my head throughout the post, too.
Hey, I also wanted to say I really like your new addition of adding some suggestions to the end of the post. I think that’s a great idea!
I like your idea to ask permission to interrupt to ask a question. That has the word “grace” written all over it!
Thank you, Wilma, for all you do and for who you are.
Great Topic!
Hugs,
Lori
Lori (JaneBeNimble)´s last blog ..I Love Your Mind
Hi Lori.
Cool, you like the new addition, I do too as it keeps me focused as well.
You got it in one;
John and I sit opposite each other when at the computer and it has been so easy to just distract each other with our verbalized thoughts. I used to get so grumpy when he would interrupt my flow of writing.
I do not write easily and I had trouble not getting wild at him for making my already strenuous task even more so.
Thus we now are very careful not to blurt things out and when we do have to break the concentration of the other, we ask permission and sometimes he is NOT getting permission. That indeed feels graceful.
You as a writer must know this interruption virus all too well too?
And when you want to have a rest, that must also be wonderful when done complete and whole?
Hugs back, Wilma
PS I loved that Temple video, she thinks focused, detailed and uninterrupted.
Hi Wilma,
You know, sometimes I think I let interruptions in, when I have the ability to control them. I’m thinking specifically about things like phone calls and email. Two things that I let myself become too connected to.
Now, as far as how much I interrupt others…I’ll be on the lookout this week. At work, if it’s not something that seems “critical”, I think I do a pretty good job. Where I think I suffer is at home – and specifically with my kids. It can be so easy, it seems, to just interrupt them, and expect that they need to drop everything and listen to me. And really – would I do that with my wife? With my coworkers? With friends? I hope not. And then…why do I sometimes do this with my kids???
hmmm….
Lots of really good stuff to think about Wilma.
Lance´s last blog ..Sunday Thought For The Day
Hi Lance.
You beauty, you pick on a very important thing; interrupting children.
Children are definitely a work in progress and yet how often do we let them explore freely to come to their own conclusions and keep progressing at their rate?
I often see parents answering for their kids, choosing or influence their choices, protecting them from experiencing nature, telling them to be careful all the time (an interruption) and taking away their chance to work things out.
Then when they grow up and they interrupt us, we fly off the handle.
WHAT can we expect children to think of us.
Lance, I am sure your children will appreciate your respect for their private thoughts when you let them talk or just sit still and respect their experiences and are mindful of not interrupting them.
I expect a post on your site about this as I am sure you will find some interesting things to say after your experience with interrupting your kids less :~)
xox Wilma
Hi Wilma! How ironic, isn’t it? Interuptions – when I couldn’t handle them I had oh so many, constantly. Now that I CAN handle them with the grace and peace and patience afforded a lady of my years, I don’t HAVE them!
But wait -
maybe I do have them, but they don’t bother me? I think my Monkey mind interupts me ALL the time. Well shoot, I may be so mired in interuptions I barely know how to function without them then. Wow, I wonder……………
hugs,
suZen
suzen´s last blog ..A Lesson from Kids on Food Additives!
Ha SuZen, a brilliant twist in the tail of your comment!
Must have been written without interruptions.
It has been interesting to reflect how very seldom I have taken the time to completely work out a thought or to get up from my bed when I felt completely rested. There was always that interrupted thought of hurry up, there are things to do, lazy bugger or you are too slow, speed up your thinking.
Even now I very seldom do my shopping uninterrupted without thoughts of too expensive, too complicated to cook, too this and too that.
It does have a price and to be in the zone when writing, painting or talking, we need to stop these interruptions, even at our age. We are still a very valuable asset, I would not want to miss you for anything in the world, that sting in the tail was gooooood.
Hugs to you, Wilma xox
Hi WIlma – what a great post – yes the telephone .. usually completely unnecessary! I do spend a lot of time thinking – perhaps too much .. but there’s a lot going on & I’m mulling things through for the future.
In the past at work – I’d take myself off and work on my project .. or again mull it over at home – I guess living on my own has some benefits – fewer interruptions.
I’ll take note though .. I’ve tried to be more present in these last three years .. as I’ve gone through Mum and my uncle’s terminal illnesses – I’m learning lessons that I don’t think I’d have learnt in the market place or family place I was in – no children ..
So I consider myself fortunate to be here – I take lessons away and apply them to conversations I have with people .. where the comments are always appreciated. I try to think of others and converse with others about them – not me or my life. That’s a bit off topic ..
I like SuZen’s comment about interrupted thought – when I get to meditate regularly, which I really hope will be soon, as I’ve “interrupted” the process again – interesting me .. it’s me interrupting me …??!! I’m sure I’ll be more present and quiet in myself – letting the creativity come out at other times in a more sorted fashion .. though chaos reigns at the moment with my creativity thoughts – jottings everywhere – Evernote must come to my rescue I think!
I love the cottage and uninterrupted view .. bliss – & courgettes and other fresh veg .. and a cesspit!! Love it ..
Hilary´s last blog ..Alpha, Treacle, Beta, Dogger, Snow – what do they mean to you?
Hi Hilary.
Yes, thinking about the repercussions of interruptions has been interesting.
I realized it when I started to explore my thoughts coming from the current concepts about thoughts and how important they apparently are to live life differently.
And as I want to live a different life, I pay attention to my thought process, hence this post.
My thoughts get interrupted and distracted all the time, so where does that leave the quality of my thinking and thus the quality of my life?
At school we are not taught to think either, we copy and sit exams. That is NOT learning to solve the issues of life, that is becoming well trained robots whose original thoughts are interrupted by schooling, work, television and advertising to name a few.
There is not much original thought left, so how can we become the change we want to see when we cannot think for ourselves?
Your thinking alone over your projects is good, but again how distracted are you when you are thinking? Can you think the whole process through or does your thinking get distracted by money issues, thinking that it will never work, about your mother’s illness etc.
Can your thinking stretch beyond appearances into possibilities you cannot really see right now? Mine can’t and that is lethal for the outcome.
Also when you think, can you go that far to see where you are stuck and where input from others is valuable. Can you think uninterrupted long enough that you find a solution for the help you need.
THAT is what I ultimately mean with uninterrupted thinking, coming to a solution eventually by thinking about desire, solutions and actions.
Our attention span to think through to a solution is not great and that is a result of interruptions from a young age.
How long before we give up on things (interrupt our efforts) because we think they are not going to work. We also interrupt our efforts when something takes too long in our opinion.
All these implications of interruptions are huge and invisible to us.
So in the end it is NOT about telephone interruptions but how dumb we have become because we are not allowed to take our thoughts to fruition. AND I think we have become very dumb, and that is not meant personally Hilary :~)
And yes, oh observant one, in the end we interrupt ourselves, me interrupting me !!!!!!!
Interrupted life flow is something else, that is the divine plan we have to flow with, but that is okay, otherwise we would not have the interesting experiences we have.
But interrupting me is not okay.
Hilary, I love your inquiring behavior, do not trust your own mind. xox Wilma
Wilma,
My life is like yours EXCEPT for my cell phone. I interrupt myself by answering it instead of allowing it to go into voice mail. Especially if it’s one of the girls! That is the key thing I will become aware of this week. I also need more patience when I want some help from the hubs! Hey I’ll save that one for next week!
Tess The Bold Life´s last blog ..Bold Solutions For A New World
Hi Tess.
Yes our greediness to have instant gratification, instant reply has actually huge implications.
Interrupted thinking and creative processes are NOT something to take lightly and yet we do, don’t we?
As I said to Hilary, I suspect that is making us so dumb. Because look at life around us.
SuZen just posted a video about additives in food that make children behave erratic, losing concentration and fidgety for goodness sake!!!!!!
When one takes the time to uninterrupted think about that, when one follow through with uninterrupted action taking . . . then how could these things possibly exist.
We are poisoning our own children with crap food and we allow that even when we know it?????????
We just distract ourselves from this knowing so we do not have to think too deeply and take action.
As you can see Tess, I am absolutely passionate about finding out how come we live such shitty lives in such a shitty world where we tolerate war, and poison as food for ourselves and our children and live a life of survival instead of creation.
Something has to change and that is what I am campaigning for.
It is not just about cellphones, it is about more that that, but yes, you are right cell phones are a beaut example of how we have allowed distraction in our lives.
And yes, interruptions are also about being present and not allowing to be distracted. Only then can we be patient when we do something with others like hubbies.
Why not be bold and do both of them this and next week.
Hugs Wilma
Wilma, WOW.
Just WOW.
Yesterday, I allowed my vibrating phone to interrupt my yoga practice. It was my sister. I answered her text and then turned the sound off. I turned the comments off on my blog posts because in a way, they’re interruptions (not that comments are bad things, they’re just a distraction right now…I’ll see if I’m ready to turn them back on towards the end of the month)…
This morning, my daughter interrupted my morning do-ing with a complaint about my stepson…and that interrupted the rest of my morning…and because she barked at me, I barked at him…and I left the house for work more grumpy than I anticipated.
Thinking about yesterday, though, I set my intention to watch two movies and crochet a blanket. You’ll see a picture of the blanket tomorrow…yes, I finished it…something I barely started on Saturday, I finished around 6PM on Sunday. I had NO interruptions except to switch DVD’s when the first movie ended. Creativity is what happens when I mindfully minimize distractions and interruptions!
xxoo
Peggy
Peggy´s last blog ..Your Moment of Bliss ~ Drawing Heaven
Peggy, I so want to give you a big hug. You heard me and I am grateful.
Yes, the implications of interruptions are huge and although they are currently part of our lives that doesn’t mean we can just ignore the consequences.
However if we stay ignorant and in denial, we can never make changes so the start is to get to see the wholesome ‘what is so’ and then we can take steps from there.
We have to make changes, we are all so incompetent to make life glorious as it is meant to be. And we must stop denying that we cannot do it YET.
I keep hearing what Marianne Williamson had to say about our efforts to make changes. She says we are not trying hard enough, she knows we are not doing enough by a long shot and I so agree with her.
We bullsh*t our way through life, saying “oh yes, I am working on change” and do we? Do we really because change takes a lot of effort and is not easy. It means being attentive and sticking with what you observe and sticking with your practice, undistracted and uninterrupted or dealing as good as you can with the interruptions that are happening.
Practice, wash and rinse, practice, wash and rinse relentlessly, until you get it and it has become a way of living life differently.
You know it, I know it and we are making inroads, but we practice.
Good on you for the intention to finish the blanket and I love to see the photo.
I have noticed that when I set those intentions I still interrupt them by feeling guilty and thinking that I should be doing something else. I fidget and get up to do something else and I am not thoroughly enjoying it.
I am now practicing to choose what I am doing and have my intention fully on what I am doing. And once you get that, you are in the zone.
That simple, ha and you get a beautiful blanket. xox Wilma
Hi Wilma,
After my mother passed away, I ended up being the only female in my family. As a result, I learned how to handle interruptions from the men in my life. They did things very differently so it was interesting to learn how they viewed certain tasks. I learned that if the phone rings, I don’t have to answer it if I am in the middle of doing something. The same is true for the mobile and email.
I personally do not love a set structured day. I like to go with the flow. However, when I am in the midst of doing something that requires my full attention, I just disconnect from the phones and emails and such.
It made a huge difference because it made me in charge of the interruptions as opposed to them being in charge of me. It is vital to have time to just be with ourselves for that is when we can hear ourselves think and connect to something deeper and more profound.
Love and hugs to you!
Nadia – Happy Lotus´s last blog ..The Re-Invention Progress Report
Hi Nadia
This is ultimately the gold of uninterrupted thinking;
However even having time to ourselves is no longer a guarantee that we indeed are capable of hearing ourselves think. We now have distracting Little Voices who interrupt with their opinion.
Often we are not aware of the fact that we are interrupted by ourselves, just as suZen mentioned in her comment.
Yes interrupting our patterns of behavior by seeing men do things differently is good. Just as interruptions in the flow of life are good, they provide experiences we would otherwise not have.
Interruptions that fail to bring our thinking and our actions to full fruition are not good and we need to discern them. We need to become attentive to what we allow and not allow, we need to become aware of need to discern rather than distractedly saying “Oh that is all part of life, it will be alright.”
It is NOT alright and until we take what we observe seriously nothing will change and we will keep on doing dumb things like being slaves of money and work and bad food that is killing us.
We cannot become awake when we are interrupted and distracted, awareness needs full attention and it is time to alert ourselves to how busy and distracted we are.
So all this is to say that I passionately agree with your statement and how little we actually make listening to ourselves happen by suspending interruptions of all kinds :~), hugs Wilma.
Since I believe that we manifest absolutely everything and everyone in our lives – moment-by-moment – I would also say that whenever I’m interrupted, I have manifested such a state on purpose. My conscious mind may not know why, but my sneaky subconscious does!
Likewise, as you so brilliantly pointed out in the latter part of your post, I am also able to manifest few to NO distractions in my day. Also very much by design!
In both cases, I was perfecting at a soul level. Neither situation was better or worse of its own accord. I, however, may not have judged it as such!
Loved reading this; thank you, Wilma!
Megan “JoyGirl!” Bord´s last blog ..SURPRISE! Spread Joy, Have Fun
Hi Megan.
That could well be the case;
Sneaky alright, and I would also say the interruptions have been on purpose created to stop us thinking unique things.
Look at schools, everything is uniform so we ‘think’ alike and not cause problems when we are in the workplace and to teach us to do and ‘think’ as we are told. Imagine we are all Einsteins, we are of course, initially . . . but imagine we would be allowed to keep that ability of thinking. Nobody would work like we currently are supposed to or follow these stupid systems we are subjected to. NOBODY and then how would the hierarchy keep us in order and work in industries that produce stuff that kills us and our world.
I know it is far fetched but not all interruption are of our own doing, although our own doing is that we have allowed them and that we have become immune to them.
I have not watched television for over 10 years now, I cannot believe the distraction watching TV causes and how they influence thinking without people noticing.
There is a lot of distraction in our lives that is invisible, our own Little Voice as Patty noticed is another one.
Oh Megan, you champ, you must notice the difference of creating less distractions and interruptions. Now how are you getting on with the internal interruptions and distractions from your Little Voice?
That is what I am working on big time, because I might have shut the outside interruptions out, they have sneaked in via my Little Voice!
Why oh why would otherwise becoming that change I want to see be so difficult?
xox Wilma
Hi Wilma – Like you, I have the gift of scheduling my own time as I please. And I do recognize what a gift it is. Yet for all that, sometimes I interrupt myself. Like the other day when I said to myself, “Do you really need an hour in the morning to eat breakfast and read?” Thanks goodness I said back to myself, “Yes, I do, so please shut up.” I think that was a classic case of Little Voice. She backed down right away on that one. Hugs to you my friend!
Patty – Why Not Start Now?´s last blog ..Meaning Mondays: The Big Rabbit Edition
Oh Patty, big hug big hug, you have exposed a very sneaky interruption alright.
We need to become aware how invisible certain things are for us, we need to stop denying that we have lipstick on our teeth that we cannot see even if we look in the mirror a million times.
We need each other to courageously expose the stupidity to each other.
I do find that difficult at times because our egos so do not like it. They do not like to expose others and they do not like to be exposed themselves.
And yes, that Little Voice is the most sneaky ego part of all that interrupts big time.
Oh Patty, you are going from strength to strength, you live, you dare to follow your heart, you go and play and you are setting an example. Most of us have forgotten how to live their own lives, they drift in a muddy puddle missing the river and telling themselves they are having a great adventure in that small puddle; yeah right.
You go and show us, Patty, you have great long breakfasts and keep rubbing that in.
Another big hug, XOXO Wilma
Hi Wilma .. I agree we’re not taught to think, or make moveable decisions – I was talking to someone up the Home today .. “why can’t they be like me”???? I’m sure there’s a lyric of that ilk – but I can’t find it. & I’m not interrupting this reply any longer!
Yes – I’m distracted all the time .. by my thoughts – better now that I’m only thinking of one other, and only one house … before it was two others and sometimes the other house, and then the neighbour .
However – I wouldn’t change where I am – I wouldn’t be here. If I hadn’t got distracted – the opportunity for blogging might never have come my way – I’d have not done it I don’t think by myself .. so the fact I started with a group .. helped & was guided to get going (16 months ago).
I know what I want to do and how to do it – I just have to think of a few names .. and a major name – I have ideas .. Positive Letters is not right – it’s fine now and people know it for what it is .. but if I want to get out and brand myself – then I need another suitable name. I need a few – but the others will come easily, once I start .. and I need to bring P L over to Wordpress. So I’ve known what and how since August last year – but that was the start of my uncle’s demise – so it got put on hold – where it still is .. as not much has changed, especially with Mum being ill this year.
So I do consider myself ready to go – yes I have papers in all directions, other things in the background including my mother .. but at least I know my future .. and I’m prepared with lots of alternatives and ideas.
So – yes I get interrupted – but I’m relaxed because I know what I want to do .. and how to do it – I need technical help .. I hope that will materialise and be available as of Wednesday .. other things have to work – but that’s life: I’m in a state of limbo because of my Ma, but also because of the time I spent or took with Derek .. giving him something to live for.
I’m sure my ideas will work – as they’ve been proven to work .. and I can cross-link all the ideas together, so I’m not reinventing the wheel all the time .. it’ll be a learning curve – but quite possible .. I’ve followed it through, so I see no reason for them not to work.
I am lucky I think in being so sure – it makes life easier – I just have to wait for this era to finish and then I can go full steam ahead. If Mum gets better – she will not need me so much .. as she will sleep more & I can use my time more productively for myself, when I’m with her.
I agree we are dumb – and how awful it is to see it .. but I have certainty in my heart and my knowledge .. and all will be well. Equally if a) doesn’t work, I’ll do b) anyway and c) anyway .. and my learning will grow and something will work. I am obviously very lucky in my certainty of my route ahead .. and I know I can do it ..
But each day – we learn something else and see how someone else does things – Nadia for instance, JD is another … today I read Marelisa’s post on Mindfulness (Abundance Blog) .. I hadn’t really known what it was til then .. so I wouldn’t have taken that lack of knowledge with me to Marelisa if you hadn’t have been discussing it.
Gosh – this is long .. sorreeeee – hugs xx
Hilary´s last blog ..Alpha, Treacle, Beta, Dogger, Snow – what do they mean to you?
Hi Hilary
I do get a sense of you having thought thoroughly about your next move.
I consider you to be observant and taking note.
And you are not distracted.
Yes, your life is being interrupted and that is okay but your plans are still fully thought out plans and you are building in the unavoidable changes life creates. That is good and seeing the wholesome ‘what is so’.
You take your time to think and research and you are not distracted so you are able to keep researching and learning. You stick to it and keep going. You are not interrupted by talk of you cannot do that or in recession time go and get a job for example.
Life gets interrupted as I said before as part of the divine plan.That is interruption that is NOT man made and therefore part of the flow of life. We need to accept that and see it for what it is. THAT interruption is different.
What I am talking about here are man made interruptions that will NOT allow us to think about things as thoroughly as we should.
Thanks for fleshing this out, it is good to take this serious. xox Wilma
Hi Wilma .. yes – thanks for those comments. The interruption to my thoughts process is being told I won’t like to work with someone, I won’t like them .. I do find those kind of comments odd – fortunately I don’t let it worry me! I know what I think and that’s important -follow my own dreams.
It is good to work through our thoughts -so many of us don’t and I do hope I can continue to think and work out what’s what .. have a good week – H
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Yes that is interesting Hilary, people have an idea how one should communicate with others and clarity is often seen as threatening as most people are not used to honesty about the wholesome ‘what is so’.
After all most of us are a Mrs Bucket to the extreme. Love Wilma
Oh, gosh, Wilma, I think you spoke for all of us!
This happens to me so often throughout the day, and I’ve no one to blame but myself. When I take the time to begin my day with myself, then the rest of the day flows SO much more easily and I’m more able to stay in concentration. I find, however, that I’m my own worst enemy, interrupting mySELF from one task to another, or delaying too long in one activity which doesn’t allow sufficient time in another. We can and do interrupt ourselves, which is just as problematic. That said, I’ve taken the drastic measure of limiting my computer time. There’s a whole other life out there I’ve been neglecting. And I happen to LIKE that whole other life…
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Great Julie, I like what you share about your observations about interruptions.
Yes, we take so much on board without thinking, being fast and furious and doing more means we feel hurried and have to multi task. THAT is another one that have us interrupt ourselves. I actually like your delaying too long in one activity, why not?
I know that it might have a domino affect for the rest of the day, but does that not mean our schedule is too full to allow for enough time to fully feel complete with one activity before starting another one?
That means you have to interrupt your getting complete because of the time tyranny?
Good on you for realizing your priorities, more tramping?
Love Wilma
Terrific observation, Wilma. I actually DO want to delay more in some activities, and when I overbook my time, put too much on my to-do list, allow myself to be distracted (ever begin cleaning one room only to end up an hour later having done many other things without finishing the first?), well, few activities get the attention they or I deserve. After a good many years of multi-tasking, I’m excited to begin learning to unlearn.
I’m all for devoting MORE time to that which I MUST do well and those other things I WANT to do. Of course, this means there will be growing pains: letting go of the familiar, learning new ways moving through my day… But as long as I remember this one thing, it should be easier: I’m aiming for quality.
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Julie, you are the best, going for quality is the way to go and I so thank you for hearing me. It feels so good that I am not alone. xoxo
I would think…that like everything else, interruptions are just a part of life…It is my belief, that when we struggle with something…feeling like we are being pulled in a certain direction, or away from another, it is a time to stop and step back. This is a time to remove yourself from what you THINK you should be doing and take a good hard look at what is really happening.
I find that life is only a struggle, if we make it one. When I feel overwhelmed, or like life is hitting me over and over with hardballs…If I stop, step back, and refocus, I see a clearer picture.
I hope you find the meaning in all the interruptions…Acknowledgement is the first step…
xoxo for your wonderful comment on my blog!!
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Accepting things we do not have to accept is what I am talking about in this post, Dawn. They actually do NOT have to be part of life.
As I said to Hilary, life will be interrupted by things we cannot do anything about, sure we have to accept those. I am not talking about those or struggle here, I am talking about distinguishing those we can do something about. I think we have for too long accepted the level of overwhelm and distraction that is coming at us.
I think it is time that we learn to think our thoughts in stillness to full completion.
It is time to no longer do things half-baked because we now even distract ourselves as some of the people also have noticed.
THAT is NOT acceptable. THAT is making us dumb, that is making us not having the time to complete anything to a quality level.
I know that I for a long time have accepted things I should NOT have accepted and that is what makes me now so vigilant about what is going on.
I do not want to find the meaning in these interruptions, because there is no meaning; I have to deal with and sort them in a very practical way.
I do NOT have to answer the phone when I am with someone or when I want to concentrate, I can ask the people I visit to turn off their television so we can have an uninterrupted talk. I can listen to my daughter on the phone without getting distracted by doing the dishes at the same time. I can leave people around me in peace, I can ask people around me to leave me in peace.
These things I am talking about; unnecessary distraction that make it impossible to be present and to spend quality time with whom I am being or with what I am doing.
And I agree, acknowledgment of how many unnecessary distractions we have to tolerate to our own detriment is the first step. xox Wilma
Wilma,
First of all: Wow. I absolutely loved this post. Probably one of my favourite posts I’ve read, ever. It simply makes so much sense and at the same time it brought out awareness in me of how much I get distracted or interrupted everyday. I’ve always known I should keep focused and make “me” time, but haven’t quite thought of it this way. It’s a great reminder to SLOW DOWN in the middle of this crazy, busy world that we live in. There are so many truths and realisations in this post, I can’t even come up with a proper response explaining how much I can relate! haha.
Second of all: Is that your HOUSE??
Love,
Kristie
Hi Kristie
YES, that is what happens when you cut out interruptions; indeed this is where John and I live because I could hold focused thoughts long enough to make this happen.
If I would have not been aware of how life interrupts I am absolutely sure I would NOT be living here. I would not have thought it possible for long enough, I would not have had the patience and trust to wait for it to show up as interrupting thoughts about recession and I cannot live rurally would all have made my confidence and trust waiver.
A rushed and interrupted life would NOT have allowed me to see possibilities and the wholesome ‘what is so’. Indeed slowing down and keeping my own thoughts focused on; it IS possible despite all the bad news and scare mongery that tried to interrupt my confidence.
Kristie, I am so absolutely thrilled you got what I am saying, because understanding this opens the gateway to who we really are and to what we really can create.
We have to realize the destruction that constant distractions is causing to our thoughts and how it has us behave in erratic ways.
Love to you too, xox Wilma
Well Wilma, what a lovely house it is
I would LOVE to live somewhere like that one day. I mean for god’s sake I live in the U.S. and unless your out in the middle of nowhere, quiet and solitude is very hard to come by! I’m so happy for you that you were able to get to a place you wanted to be and didn’t let life’s excuses get in the way!
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Wilma,
This post–as well as the comments–is amazing!
I have never thought about “interruptions” but I agree with all that you’ve covered.
I try to live with a mindfully present mindset at all times. I am one of the few who leave my cell phone in the car while I am out and about so that I may give my complete attention to the person or activity I am engaged in. If my children are engrossed in reading or art or any project, I will postpone dinner until they take a natural break. I listen until someone is finished.
I think energy is precious and must be conserved. Interruptions distract from the natural flow and whatever you are creating is then irreparably changed. I can do much better, though, as my job is an interruption I accept in my life and needs to be changed. Lots of “obligations” I continue to honor can also be viewed as interruptions and by lettign them stand I am then interrupting my own creativity. Thank you for sharing as you do!
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Joy, you create and manifest as no other and I think because of the way you can hold your thoughts long enough. The way you describe things shows that you have seen them uninterrupted long enough to have formed a full vision. You can drum for long periods of time, all things that give your heart time to show up.
I firmly belief that and now keep the thought about Jay and you together long enough without interruptions.
I so love what you say here;
YES, and to get that in our thick skull is so important, interruptions are damaging.
Yes, jobs are interruptions and we have to live with that for the moment BUT I so love that you are aware. That is half the win, and yes minimizing unnecessary obligations is a big one too for us women who feel soooo bad when we let those go.
But it is for our survival, it is for the survival of authenticity and a life that is adding value coming from love and respect.
Joy, thank you for listening and resonating so well, BIG SMILE, Wilma