Yes, it is so true what you say, fear is never doing anybody any good of course and I do know now :0, wimpish behavior is never a good look.

You say it so beautifully here;

“yet if we can stay in a place of Love, which usually means listening to and honoring our own hearts, even if we don’t give the other person what they “think” they want, we may STILL be giving them exactly what they need.

I also think that if we listen to our heart, we hear what our heart picks up from the other one and it will indeed know and then tell us what it is that they need exactly.
So, that always works far better and far more intelligently.
Again what you say here shows that the heart is the intelligent one and the heart knows no fear, does it?

Oh Robin, this is so precious, you here and I over there.

Lots of love to you, my loving friend, xox and a bear hug Wilma

And I so relate to many aspects of your honestly precious story. It’s what I love about you. You are SOOOOO open. Something I am learning as I get older is that LOVE is already whole. It is ALREADY what it IS. And it is only up to me to trust in it and its completeness, its unfailingness. And that my saying no to someone, even if I fumble it out of fear, is not going to stop Love, nor is it going to cause me to lose any Love.

I also am seeing a dynamic where I not only don’t “lose” people I love, but they oddly seem to honor me more or respect me more when I calmly state my truth or needs. And I also notice that they tend to grow more as well.

I imagine this must be doubly hard for a parent with their beloved children, especially if things have at one time been a bit rough or even estranged, which can happen in SO many families. It’s certainly not uncommon.

Love is an interesting thing. I was thinking the other day how, any choices we make out of fear of losing someone really don’t help ANYONE involved and I question whether we really give anybody anything if it comes from fear. And yet if we can stay in a place of Love, which usually means listening to and honoring our own hearts, even if we don’t give the other person what they “think” they want, we may STILL be giving them exactly what they need.

I’m not sure any of this makes sense as I only got about 4 hours sleep last night. But I just LOVE the honesty here. Good for you Wilma.

I have found that Love is about letting go and trusting that all will STILL remain in a place of Love EVEN if we listen to our hearts and say “no”, as opposed to doing what we think we should or doing things out of fear. It really is a great leap of faith and trust. I learned that listening to and acting from our hearts changes lives, saves lives. It may not appear so right away, but in doing this we leave ourselves and others with truth, with “what IS”.

You are a one of kind soul and I love you,
Robin
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