Comments on: Wilma on Love-in-Action http://www.wilmasblog.com/leverage/2010/02/19/love-in-action/ Doing things Differently Sun, 15 Jan 2012 00:44:46 -0700 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.5 hourly 1 By: Wilma http://www.wilmasblog.com/leverage/2010/02/19/love-in-action/#comment-8258 Wilma Sun, 21 Feb 2010 19:30:37 +0000 http://www.wilmasblog.com/?p=3913#comment-8258 Hi Hilary. Yes, the situation you are in is certainly challenging and I can understand that it can drag you down if you are not aware of what is going on. Negativity and lack of support are hard to cope with, are hard to accept. But as you say that is what you got and you have to do what you can and that is it and so good that you can see the good in that too. Good on you not to worry, there is a flow in life we cannot see and that flow is always meant to support us if our own negativity, hurry and rigidity is not getting in the way. Being flexible and not being fixated is good, always good and hard to do as we are so wired to have it our own way or have things happen in a certain order we are familiar with. Hilary, you are a champ for being who you are and yes it sounds like a cliche and it is hard to believe when you are in the middle of it all. but you are doing great and all is and will be well. Love and big hugs back and no wool :) xox Wilma Hi Hilary.
Yes, the situation you are in is certainly challenging and I can understand that it can drag you down if you are not aware of what is going on.
Negativity and lack of support are hard to cope with, are hard to accept.
But as you say that is what you got and you have to do what you can and that is it and so good that you can see the good in that too.
Good on you not to worry, there is a flow in life we cannot see and that flow is always meant to support us if our own negativity, hurry and rigidity is not getting in the way.
Being flexible and not being fixated is good, always good and hard to do as we are so wired to have it our own way or have things happen in a certain order we are familiar with.
Hilary, you are a champ for being who you are and yes it sounds like a cliche and it is hard to believe when you are in the middle of it all. but you are doing great and all is and will be well.
Love and big hugs back and no wool :) xox Wilma

]]> By: Hilary http://www.wilmasblog.com/leverage/2010/02/19/love-in-action/#comment-8254 Hilary Sun, 21 Feb 2010 11:24:29 +0000 http://www.wilmasblog.com/?p=3913#comment-8254 Hi Wilma – I’ve been having a particularly bad time recently: Mum’s not well and I’m in situation where I can’t move forward – fortunately I don’t feel frightened, just irritated that it all comes at once! However I know I’ll overcome. I’d wanted to rush ahead – fortunately others’ negativity and lack of support has let me sink into the flow and not worry, which I have to say is bliss and I do feel better. It’s doing what we can, that suits us and nurtures us – and for me that’s not wool! Sorry!! John looks great though! Yes – re the outcome I agree with you .. what will be will be – and often we set out after something, but something along the way changes and we end up doing something different – flexibility is so important. Outcomes will materialise – pay it forward .. may be appropriate here. Too many fixations aren’t good. Love the learning!! Hugs to all of you - H .-= Hilary´s last blog ..<a href="http://positiveletters.blogspot.com/2010/02/february-half-way-month.html" rel="nofollow">February – the half-way month ..</a> =-. Hi Wilma – I’ve been having a particularly bad time recently: Mum’s not well and I’m in situation where I can’t move forward – fortunately I don’t feel frightened, just irritated that it all comes at once! However I know I’ll overcome. I’d wanted to rush ahead – fortunately others’ negativity and lack of support has let me sink into the flow and not worry, which I have to say is bliss and I do feel better. It’s doing what we can, that suits us and nurtures us – and for me that’s not wool! Sorry!! John looks great though!

Yes – re the outcome I agree with you .. what will be will be – and often we set out after something, but something along the way changes and we end up doing something different – flexibility is so important. Outcomes will materialise – pay it forward .. may be appropriate here. Too many fixations aren’t good.

Love the learning!! Hugs to all of you – H
Hilary´s last blog ..February – the half-way month .. My ComLuv Profile

]]> By: Wilma http://www.wilmasblog.com/leverage/2010/02/19/love-in-action/#comment-8252 Wilma Sun, 21 Feb 2010 04:22:25 +0000 http://www.wilmasblog.com/?p=3913#comment-8252 Hi Belinda How I love these words you wrote; "I love the term love-in-action as I’ve discovered it as a joyful reality and not just as a concept." Being love-in-action is indeed a great way to live daily life, and I agree it is NOT just a concept. As I keep saying, love is more powerful that we know and a huge energy. When I do things coming from love, they do not take as much energy on the contrary I can get a lot more done. I also think that when we come from love we connect with a greater universal energy. But in the end who cares, it makes my daily life exciting and workable and loving and that is in the end what counts, don't you think? Yes, letting go of attachment and expectations is a great move AND something that we have to learn as we are NOT encouraged to live that way. I did not even understand what it meant at first. Don't you love children for what they teach us, ha . . . making your house a great metaphor for life, nothing is neat and clutter-less in nature either and look how that works. Great to have you contributing to this conversation, xox Wilma Hi Belinda
How I love these words you wrote; “I love the term love-in-action as I’ve discovered it as a joyful reality and not just as a concept.”
Being love-in-action is indeed a great way to live daily life, and I agree it is NOT just a concept.
As I keep saying, love is more powerful that we know and a huge energy.
When I do things coming from love, they do not take as much energy on the contrary I can get a lot more done. I also think that when we come from love we connect with a greater universal energy. But in the end who cares, it makes my daily life exciting and workable and loving and that is in the end what counts, don’t you think?

Yes, letting go of attachment and expectations is a great move AND something that we have to learn as we are NOT encouraged to live that way. I did not even understand what it meant at first.
Don’t you love children for what they teach us, ha . . . making your house a great metaphor for life, nothing is neat and clutter-less in nature either and look how that works.
Great to have you contributing to this conversation, xox Wilma

]]> By: Wilma http://www.wilmasblog.com/leverage/2010/02/19/love-in-action/#comment-8251 Wilma Sun, 21 Feb 2010 02:37:29 +0000 http://www.wilmasblog.com/?p=3913#comment-8251 Hi Nadia. I think I could not have wished for a better outcome, your comment is a lovely comment for Aysel. Yes, many of my frustration have come from NOT accepting a different outcome and NOT seeing and accepting that the one I got was better. What a waste of time in which I felt a failure or in which I was grumpy about the fact that I did not get what I desired. Hindsight is a great teacher if you let it, because you hit the nail on the head here, in hindsight I could see that the other outcome often was just as good or even better or that there was a reason for the change. We are taught that life is linear, when we do A to expect B, so no wonder that we are confused. And yes Nadia, I have to give you high five on this one, easier said than done, to learn a total opposite way. It is like driving on the other side of the road, it takes some getting used to. However it is fun to learn to accept unexpected things and they happen anyway so better NOT get to upset about it. Well, my friend, well said, hugs Wilma Hi Nadia.
I think I could not have wished for a better outcome, your comment is a lovely comment for Aysel.
Yes, many of my frustration have come from NOT accepting a different outcome and NOT seeing and accepting that the one I got was better.
What a waste of time in which I felt a failure or in which I was grumpy about the fact that I did not get what I desired. Hindsight is a great teacher if you let it, because you hit the nail on the head here, in hindsight I could see that the other outcome often was just as good or even better or that there was a reason for the change.
We are taught that life is linear, when we do A to expect B, so no wonder that we are confused.
And yes Nadia, I have to give you high five on this one, easier said than done, to learn a total opposite way. It is like driving on the other side of the road, it takes some getting used to.
However it is fun to learn to accept unexpected things and they happen anyway so better NOT get to upset about it.
Well, my friend, well said, hugs Wilma

]]> By: Wilma http://www.wilmasblog.com/leverage/2010/02/19/love-in-action/#comment-8250 Wilma Sun, 21 Feb 2010 02:25:35 +0000 http://www.wilmasblog.com/?p=3913#comment-8250 Hi Aysel. I would like to reply to what you are saying here; "I don’t think it’s fair to exclude the outcome from “why we do what we do” I am not about excluding to aim for an outcome. We do need to have an intent, however if we only want that particular outcome we might not see an outcome that is related but different or bigger and better or more suitable for us in that moment in time. I am pointing at a way of being about our intention that is rigid and inflexible and that will not allow for surprises and for the most valuable one. I am talking about using every force and every tactic to have YOUR intended outcome prevail while not being able to discern when to give up or when a different course would be more appropriate. I compare it with being a child who only wants a dog for Christmas and is good and keeps telling its parents it wants a dog. So it thinks it can forces to get a dog and when there is no dog but a cat, it will not accept the cat. THAT is an analogy of what I am referring to. Although we need to have intent to get us in action, we also need to be prepared to accept deviation from the plan and to look at how we go about dealing with our intent. And if we are forcing the intended outcome to happen and have no fun, then again we are not serving ourselves, but we become overworked, grumpy and we lose our ability to discern if we are making valuable decisions. And of course it is great to get the outcome and feel proud of yourself. BUT we have to learn to acknowledge that there is more at play here than our own hard work. AND that is not what our ego wants to hear, our ego wants all the credit for ourselves. It is complex Aysel but it is worth to get a handle on this as I do not think there is much evidence that we have cracked how to get an outcome in a way that serves all involved. xox Wilma Hi Aysel.
I would like to reply to what you are saying here; “I don’t think it’s fair to exclude the outcome from “why we do what we do”
I am not about excluding to aim for an outcome. We do need to have an intent, however if we only want that particular outcome we might not see an outcome that is related but different or bigger and better or more suitable for us in that moment in time.
I am pointing at a way of being about our intention that is rigid and inflexible and that will not allow for surprises and for the most valuable one.
I am talking about using every force and every tactic to have YOUR intended outcome prevail while not being able to discern when to give up or when a different course would be more appropriate.
I compare it with being a child who only wants a dog for Christmas and is good and keeps telling its parents it wants a dog. So it thinks it can forces to get a dog and when there is no dog but a cat, it will not accept the cat.
THAT is an analogy of what I am referring to.
Although we need to have intent to get us in action, we also need to be prepared to accept deviation from the plan and to look at how we go about dealing with our intent. And if we are forcing the intended outcome to happen and have no fun, then again we are not serving ourselves, but we become overworked, grumpy and we lose our ability to discern if we are making valuable decisions.
And of course it is great to get the outcome and feel proud of yourself. BUT we have to learn to acknowledge that there is more at play here than our own hard work.
AND that is not what our ego wants to hear, our ego wants all the credit for ourselves.
It is complex Aysel but it is worth to get a handle on this as I do not think there is much evidence that we have cracked how to get an outcome in a way that serves all involved.
xox Wilma

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