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Wilma on Love-in-Action
Here is the Alpaca jersey /jumper /sweater /pullover
I appreciated all your lovely support from the comments to this week’s post; Love is the real Father Christmas.
The big realization for me was that I find it easy to be love-in-action when I’m not attached to the outcome, when it is something like working with natural fibers which I innocently love and delight in.
I agree with Megan and Nadia:
We can manifest more easily when we are coming from love and being relaxed.
However have you too noticed you stop being love-in-action when you are not relaxed?
Have you noticed too that when you desperately want things to happen, when you deem it to be an important area of your life; for me they are areas such as money, relationships, and business, being relaxed and love go out of the window and so do the miracles?
Or am I and Megan the only ones?
Megan shared that:
When I’m conflicted, though, and can’t get out of my head, everything is a struggle. Manifesting goodness feels like work.
If I truly love something like my spinning, I can not be dominated by it. But I am dominated by cyberspace and my blog, I am dominated by making our business a success. I am attached to the outcome and fearful of it not working out. As soon as I’m fearful, I’m feeling dominated and I disconnect from synchronicity and the miraculous. Everything becomes hard work and force and I totally lose any sense of ‘when enough is enough’.
For me love is letting go of my Little Voice’s stories about how it never will work out and that I have no idea what to believe.
Love is allowing; allowing things to reveal themselves in the moment. I think this is what Robb is referring to when he writes:
…it was not till I trusted myself to feel love in Nature that I could begin to trust my instincts out here.
Nature is the perfect place to let go of our stories that overshadow love and give ourselves over to feelings of wonder and innocent perception.
I am learning like you that when I listen to my fearful Little Voice that overshadows my love, I make dumb decisions, like deciding to work harder in order to get a result or that driving uninvited onto private property is wrong and I have to get out of there as fast as I can as I am such a fool.
I know like you that when I approach things, people and tasks in my life coming from love, I am able to see the wholesome ‘what is so’ and work with the flow in a very productive and constructive and miraculous way.
My next assignment is to be love-in-action in the areas in which I am seriously attached to the outcome.
Those are the areas that need me to be the change I want to see.
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It’s always such a joy when I see quotes from commentators featured in your posts. Thank you for doing that – whether it’s me or someone else – I think it’s a really great & connective thing you and Ann Marie do.
As for letting go and allowing outcomes to be what they will, I wonder: what’s the worst thing that could happen if we let go of … ? (insert thing we’re afraid to let go of here)
I just read a quote related to this, and it said, “Learning to let go begins with understanding why you’ve been hanging on.” Body & Soul Magazine, May 2008
What is it we’re so afraid of that prevents us from releasing ourselves from the outcome? Why can’t we trust that in this life, everything is divinely intended and therefore perfect, and as a result, everything that happens is GOOD?!!
Those little voices are fear mongers, indeed, but our hearts know better. Our hearts know that when we release from “X,” a much better “Y” enters our life.
Love, joy, and relaxed living to you!
Megan “JoyGirl!” Bord´s last blog ..Underwear in the Jungle!
Hi Megan,
It is really interesting to ask myself what am I so afraid of and I have no trouble coming up with scenarios, Hollywood would have me like a shot as a play write.
I think that because I have resisted to place myself in the position of what I am so afraid of, I never have experienced that I am provided for and that always all is well. So it is a catch twenty two, really.
Now it is time to put myself out there and really experience how good it is to do what my heart desires and then also experience how resourced we are.
Then of course I will get more and ore confident and more and more able to live according to my indigenous self.
And you know what Megan, THAT will be so beautiful and I am very privileged to have women like you and Ann-Marie and all the others here, to journey with.
It does make a difference!
Thus my friend, a huge hug to you, xox Wilma
Hi Wilma,
First – the sweater is lovely. I have no clue how to knit, but I do crochet. And I find myself lost in the creativity of yarn over, pull through two loops, yarn over, pull through two loops…or skip next stitch, double crochet in next two, triple crochet in skipped stitch…the designs and patterns my hands, yarn and hook create.
I used to freak out when I gave a scarf or blanket as a gift, because I was so concerned with how the recipient would react. Would they find the mistakes? The skipped sticthes, the dropped loop, the miscounted edge?
In the year 2000, I made eight baby blankets for co-workers’ wives who were having babies (must have been in the water). In 2007, when most of us gathered for our friend Brad’s funeral, three women walked up to me to tell me they still had the baby blankets I made for their children.
That was my sign to create with love and not worry about skipped stitches or other mistakes.
And how I can see this in a crocheted blanket I need to begin to learn how to translate this to other areas of my life. This is the very essence of loving the journey without being attached to the outcome.
Thank you for this.
xo
Peggy
Oh Peggy, I have goose pimples, because THAT is IT.
The love and intention we put in things IS being felt and isn’t that actually THE miracle?
Oh you perfectionist, you were probably the only one who would ever be able to detect that mistakes anyway. It is your abundant generosity, your giving heart that is being detected, blow the mistakes, they will always be overshadowed by the love.
And that is the power of love and I need to get it in my thick head that that always applies to everything, EVERYTHING I do, work, hobby, family, blogging, everything.
And knowing that will be the beginning of a new story we live by and oh boy, I find that so much more attractive than the story about work hard and scarcity.
Yes, world peace and abundance for all, roll on please.
Peggy, lots of love to you especially now, hugs Wilma
Ah yes, attachment to outcome, I can certainly relate to that. As I shared with you in my email, I have struggled also with striking this balance in cyberspace, of letting go of stats and subscriber numbers, and just trying to purely give and create whatever it is that I have to offer, without trying to ‘figure it all out’ or force it. It is an ongoing lesson. Re: my own challenges, someone once said to me ‘we teach what we need to learn’ and I think this is so true. Often we are so good at teaching others the lessons we are also working on for ourselves. You have been doing that here, clearly, and will continue to do so. ‘No-obligation’ blogging rules.
Lisa (mommymystic)´s last blog ..Reading Omens, and My Moment With the Condors
Oh Lisa, I so appreciate to hear we all are busy figuring this enough is enough issue out. We had it coming though, with the abundance of what is available we have to learn moderation and this blogging is just bringing it to a head.
We have to learn moderation and we have to learn that indeed we cannot force things, how hard we work.
Yes, learning about what you are teaching is quite true, I certainly am.
And there is such congruency in this, as I learn together in context with all of us, we are all expanding ourselves AND that is so precious.
Learning cannot be done alone, as we are all connected we all tap into each others wisdom because ultimately what I going for is that I want my wisdom back, wisdom to discern what is the most valuable thing to do and wisdom to act from that discernment.
So at least we are learning, hey Lisa and in this context we are learning about how to live without obligations because obligation cuts out free will.
Hugs to you, Wilma
ohhhh thank you for writing this… I hadn’t really considered in those terms what “attachment” really means, but I think you nailed it right on the head. attachment – fear – disconnection from synchronicity & love…. So inspiring! Thank you
Hi Elize, cool that you bring up that we have given certain words a certain meaning that limits all the word can stand for.
I am now very careful to make sure I do not do injustice to the meaning of words.
Yes attachment did take me some time to understand as well and also I had trouble to really get how limiting it is to attache oneself to a certain outcome.
Being free from attachment is letting life surprise you and there is a lot to be gained from that as I am discovering. I would never have ended up in this rural place if I would not have been able to let go of a preconceived outcome.
It is indeed a great way to live and I love that you too are seeing the possibility of this way. xox Wilma
As much as I want to do everything in my life with love and sincerity, sometimes I feel like I am running out of fuel. Maybe I am not strong enough, maybe normal human weakness overpower my enthusiasm on bad days: I feel lack of enthusiasm and my sense of motivation remains dormant. It certainly helps when you are surrounded by like-minded people who will drag you out of the state of passiveness and breathe in some energy, help you get back on your feet. If not… The outcome is a wonderful source of inspiration to me, it keeps me going just as I was about to give up, helps me stay motivated when I feel like being lazy. I see my achievements and my insecurities gradually vanish. I don’t think it’s fair to exclude the outcome from “why we do what we do”, I agree that it shouldn’t be the only focus or we will end up performing robotic actions. But I also know that seeing my success recharges me in a great way.
Aysel´s last blog ..Don’t Panic
Hi Aysel.
I would like to reply to what you are saying here; “I don’t think it’s fair to exclude the outcome from “why we do what we do”
I am not about excluding to aim for an outcome. We do need to have an intent, however if we only want that particular outcome we might not see an outcome that is related but different or bigger and better or more suitable for us in that moment in time.
I am pointing at a way of being about our intention that is rigid and inflexible and that will not allow for surprises and for the most valuable one.
I am talking about using every force and every tactic to have YOUR intended outcome prevail while not being able to discern when to give up or when a different course would be more appropriate.
I compare it with being a child who only wants a dog for Christmas and is good and keeps telling its parents it wants a dog. So it thinks it can forces to get a dog and when there is no dog but a cat, it will not accept the cat.
THAT is an analogy of what I am referring to.
Although we need to have intent to get us in action, we also need to be prepared to accept deviation from the plan and to look at how we go about dealing with our intent. And if we are forcing the intended outcome to happen and have no fun, then again we are not serving ourselves, but we become overworked, grumpy and we lose our ability to discern if we are making valuable decisions.
And of course it is great to get the outcome and feel proud of yourself. BUT we have to learn to acknowledge that there is more at play here than our own hard work.
AND that is not what our ego wants to hear, our ego wants all the credit for ourselves.
It is complex Aysel but it is worth to get a handle on this as I do not think there is much evidence that we have cracked how to get an outcome in a way that serves all involved.
xox Wilma
Hi Wilma,
The funny thing about outcomes is that we forget that the outcome we want so desperately may not be good for us. Often the journey is what counts more and the outcome will be whatever it is meant to be. Either way, things always do work out for the best. The problem is that what is best may not be aligned with what we want and therein lies the frustration that people feel when things do not work out as they wish.
Sometimes we just have to give our all to the moment and let go of the outcome. Nature does not torture itself….grass and flowers bloom when they are suppose to bloom. No one forces them. The same is true for us. Just do your best to the moment at hand. Give it your best and do it with love…the rest will take care of itself.
At least, that is my philosophy at this state of my life. Getting attached to an outcome is one of the ways the ego wants to take control….it injects fear into a situation where there is no need to be scared.
Easier said than done, I know, but that is what makes life fun.
Nadia – Happy Lotus´s last blog ..“Here Comes the Sun” – The Re-Invention Begins
Hi Nadia.
I think I could not have wished for a better outcome, your comment is a lovely comment for Aysel.
Yes, many of my frustration have come from NOT accepting a different outcome and NOT seeing and accepting that the one I got was better.
What a waste of time in which I felt a failure or in which I was grumpy about the fact that I did not get what I desired. Hindsight is a great teacher if you let it, because you hit the nail on the head here, in hindsight I could see that the other outcome often was just as good or even better or that there was a reason for the change.
We are taught that life is linear, when we do A to expect B, so no wonder that we are confused.
And yes Nadia, I have to give you high five on this one, easier said than done, to learn a total opposite way. It is like driving on the other side of the road, it takes some getting used to.
However it is fun to learn to accept unexpected things and they happen anyway so better NOT get to upset about it.
Well, my friend, well said, hugs Wilma
Dear Wilma, first, thank you for stopping by my blog. I’m glad to finally have a moment to thank you and to comment on this wonderful post. I love the term love-in-action as I’ve discovered it as a joyful reality and not just as a concept. Mind you, I’m far from being love-in-action at all times, but knowing that I am capable of it allows me to be it more and more and to choose love as a starting point as often as I can.
And yes, I, too, struggle with attachment and expectations. After all, I’m a dreamer and still an idealist after all these years. But I’m learning to let go a little more, a little sooner. Having a child has helped immensely. I used to have a neat house with no clutter and then the little one came along and now has more stuff than I do and they’re everywhere. This reminds me that life really isn’t so neat and clutter-less and often, the fact that it isn’t so neat and clutter-less is what adds the magic that I adore.
Hi Belinda
How I love these words you wrote; “I love the term love-in-action as I’ve discovered it as a joyful reality and not just as a concept.”
Being love-in-action is indeed a great way to live daily life, and I agree it is NOT just a concept.
As I keep saying, love is more powerful that we know and a huge energy.
When I do things coming from love, they do not take as much energy on the contrary I can get a lot more done. I also think that when we come from love we connect with a greater universal energy. But in the end who cares, it makes my daily life exciting and workable and loving and that is in the end what counts, don’t you think?
Yes, letting go of attachment and expectations is a great move AND something that we have to learn as we are NOT encouraged to live that way. I did not even understand what it meant at first.
Don’t you love children for what they teach us, ha . . . making your house a great metaphor for life, nothing is neat and clutter-less in nature either and look how that works.
Great to have you contributing to this conversation, xox Wilma
Hi Wilma – I’ve been having a particularly bad time recently: Mum’s not well and I’m in situation where I can’t move forward – fortunately I don’t feel frightened, just irritated that it all comes at once! However I know I’ll overcome. I’d wanted to rush ahead – fortunately others’ negativity and lack of support has let me sink into the flow and not worry, which I have to say is bliss and I do feel better. It’s doing what we can, that suits us and nurtures us – and for me that’s not wool! Sorry!! John looks great though!
Yes – re the outcome I agree with you .. what will be will be – and often we set out after something, but something along the way changes and we end up doing something different – flexibility is so important. Outcomes will materialise – pay it forward .. may be appropriate here. Too many fixations aren’t good.
Love the learning!! Hugs to all of you – H
Hilary´s last blog ..February – the half-way month ..
Hi Hilary.
xox Wilma
Yes, the situation you are in is certainly challenging and I can understand that it can drag you down if you are not aware of what is going on.
Negativity and lack of support are hard to cope with, are hard to accept.
But as you say that is what you got and you have to do what you can and that is it and so good that you can see the good in that too.
Good on you not to worry, there is a flow in life we cannot see and that flow is always meant to support us if our own negativity, hurry and rigidity is not getting in the way.
Being flexible and not being fixated is good, always good and hard to do as we are so wired to have it our own way or have things happen in a certain order we are familiar with.
Hilary, you are a champ for being who you are and yes it sounds like a cliche and it is hard to believe when you are in the middle of it all. but you are doing great and all is and will be well.
Love and big hugs back and no wool