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Learning from experience to do things differently.
Learning to do things differently alright on my 17 days ocean trip on this vessel.
I was in my late forties when it hit me how boring and dead end my future looked.
We had a nice freehold house, enough money to do what we liked with, I had a great job as a career consultant and yet it suddenly hit me that there was nothing left to explore, that there was nothing left to discover!
I had that horrible feeling of boredom, of having seen and heard it all and I probably had, within the confines of the life I was leading.
My job as a career consultant contributed to my awakening as well.
I so often saw that predictable career paths and work solutions were not as crash hot as they were first made out to be.
I heard a lot of work and career related stories and I noticed that people who chose a different way, people who carved out their own path were far more interesting and joyful to talk to than the ones that had gone down the what we would call ‘normal’ route.
The ones who had successful careers according to the definition of society were often pedantic, dumb, self absorbed, arrogant, not observing what was going on around them and absolutely scared of everything new.
Being made redundant for them was death, they often could not see their way out and they were hard to deal with.
The people who had a checkered career path were often full of possibilities and amazingly resourceful.
I always noticed that big difference, always, with no exceptions.
THAT made me curious, that got me thinking.
I also saw around me that following a predictable path hardly ever made people vibrant, exciting and adventurous.
Then I met David Lewis, a medical doctor who at 48 years of age quit his practice, uprooted his family and went on wonderful sailing adventures around the world which lasted well into his eighties. He was doing the second half of his life totally different and what a blast it was.
All these things pushed to the foreground this question that had somehow always sat in the back of my mind “Is there another way to do life?”.
After an accumulation of cues; my stuck marriage, what I discovered in my work as a career consultant, my non-aligned and haphazard parenting, seeing the ineffective results of education, I decided that there must be.
I also realized that I would never find it if I was to continue the way I was.
I knew that I had to enter a different world, that I had to interrupt the old patterns and the status quo if I wanted to LIVE.
That realization left me wide open, because if what I knew had not served me, then what DID I know about life?
I realized not much AND again that has also been my saving grace.
I had lost faith in most things that I had learned but I had no idea what to replace it with.
I no longer wanted to do things in the way that I knew because they obviously did not produce particularly interesting results.
Thus I started my life with John from a place of ‘I don’t know’ and I started a business from ’I don’t know’.
I had to try things out without having a clue as to whether they would work AND I had to accept that I had no clue.
Although I wanted to interrupt the status quo, I must admit that in the beginning that didn’t feel particularly good.
My ego did not like having the status of a successful married woman who knew what she was on about change into this curious, questioning, divorced woman who obviously did not know much at all.
However despite the feelings of insecurity and inadequacy, I felt more alive than I had done for a long time. I finally felt curious again instead of resigned and cynical, I slowly saw possibilities that I would have never imagined. I felt like I did when I was a child.
And with trying things out, with going into experiences from an innocent perception, with being present to the experience, I am becoming one of them; those vibrant, curious, resourceful people I so loved.
I am continuing to learn from new experiences, I am questioning more than ever, I am prepared to do things differently.
What I gained I call freedom, what I got access to is the indigenous ME.
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Wilma,
What a transformation you created in your life. When I read about your former life and see how you live now there is NO comparison. You are certainly succeeding in doing life differently.
I love that you said here ;
By leaving your life of quiet desperation where you didn’t feature, you created the possibilities you had as a child such as to live in nature, you followed your heart.
And that takes guts . . . that is taking responsibility for YOUR life and not letting the ego run the show.
You are indeed brilliant my friend, you are true to your heart-centered self and you have returned to your indigenous power. You are shining brightly and as Marianne Williamson said; “And as we let our light shine we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same.”
Thank you for being that light Wilma and for being a beacon of possibility in my life.
Much love Ann-Marie xxx
Oh Ann-Marie, you and I are discovering that there is learning and that there is learning. One is safe behind a desk with your mind only and is in the end not really learning as there is no experience attached to it and will not lead to any changes. The other one is learning from life and in context AND will cause change.
For a long time I did the safe behind the desk thing and I did not even know I actually didn’t learn much.
However I do know the difference now and I also know that the ego loves the safe version and will fight tooth and nail NOT to go to the other one where it gets challenged all the time.
You have to do things to find out, you have to experience things to learn AND that is kind of a dichotomy as I have to fight the urge to; know the experience before I want to have it. That is like telling me how spinach tastes and if I will like it before I eat it, and if you cannot tell me then I won’t even try it, duh. But that is what I did for most of my life and that did not get me very far. Now I eat the spinach to find out how it tastes and to see if I like it. Big difference, big difference on so many fronts.
So it’s not so much brilliance as common sense finally, I’d say.
Hi Wilma,
Good for you for not only being aware of how you felt but for also doing something about it.
Often people wish for another way of living but they just do not know how. Or they may see how but the fear gets in the way.
It is fascinating to me how so many people think it is natural to be so unhappy or miserable. Many look at those who are happy as if they are freaks or people who should be condemned.
Life is about love and joy. We are supposed to love it and to love who we are. May more people learn from your example!
Keep on shining bright!
Nadia – Happy Lotus´s last blog ..My New Career: How God Has a Sense of Humor
Oh Nadia
I think it is both, not knowing how and being afraid of the untried.
And I have to admit that it is nerve wrecking to do something entirely new without feeling you know all that you need to know.
It is like going into the jungle and not seeing more than a few feet in front of you.
Not knowing what might turn up is so scary and we are not used to living like that.
However nothing tried is nothing gained, and I am learning that what I have gained might be great albeit something I did not expect.
I am getting some experience and that allows me to look back in hindsight and that helps.
And I think you are on the dot, loving your experiences is the key and the way to go.
You would think how easy is that and yet I have unlearned that.
So, yes cheers to loving life and the experience of life and to your new adventure as well. xox Wilma
That’s pretty powerful stuff, Wilma! Reading this tonight allowed me to see a few things I need to take note of. Mainly that it’s okay not to have all the answers in a new job. I just started a new venture, and am letting myself get overwhelmed by the “I don’t know” factor, as opposed to recognizing what freedom I have right now to learn a completely new set of “how’s.”
Seems I’m frequently looking at “I don’t know” as a negative, when perhaps I’d be better served to embrace the possibilities that not knowing represents.
Thank you for reminding me of this. I needed it!
Love & joy to you!
Megan “JoyGirl!” Bord´s last blog ..Love, the Eternal Law
Oh Megan, I am delighted for you. A new adventure with lots of ‘I don’t knows’ can be such a great experience if you let it.
You champ, oh Megan, I so want it to be an adventure for you.
AND at the same time your ego can turn it into something nasty as well and oh my friend, keep that ego out of the way.
The ‘I don’t know’ could be a normal state of be-ing for us, we could embrace that as the ultimate of living, because does that not mean we are doing something entirely new and how great is that?
‘I do not know’ expands us, that makes us access more and more of life IF we are in a loving context, in a conversation in which that gets encouraged and supported.
AND that allows us to find answers and solutions and help in a way that serves us and the new project/adventure we are working on.
Oh Megan, if you can keep up the wondrous ‘I don’t know’, if you allow and accept it as a token of advancement, you LIVE.
Megan, please go for it and please know that we are all here. Know that we understand, know we cheer you on, know we care, and keep sharing please.
Nadia is in the same camp, I and Ann-Marie too, Robin, SuZen and Joy will also recognize your journey to name a few, so we are all in this together.
The biggest hug ever, YOU CHAMP, XOX Wilma
You fill my heart with more and more radiance every time you speak, Wilma; I am so very grateful. XoXo
Megan “JoyGirl!” Bord´s last blog ..Love, the Eternal Law
Hi Wilma! Hats off to you for making a change – or changeS! I’ve often said there is nothing like a really good case of Divine Discontent to shake things up. You listened and took a leap of faith – and what’s really super is surely we can’t always KNOW stuff – sometimes I don’t know what I want but I can figure it out by eliminating things I know I do NOT want. (Guessing this is technically referred to as going about things ass-backwards?) I used to dread that Divine Discontent – now I have learned to welcome it – it’s just my souls way of telling me I’m in a rut and I need to shake it up a bit! It’s always an adventure. What I do not know could fill an ocean or two – but what I DO know keeps me aloat – cruisin’ with Suzen! ha!
Hugs
suZen
suzen´s last blog ..Baseball vs. Football
Oh SuZen, you glorious woman.
Me too, I so would have loved to shout ‘leave me alone, go away’ when that Divine Discontent started tugging at my shirt, but as you say it is a beautiful guide (in hindsight).
All that talking about following your bliss or passion would get me as well, WHAT passion please?
And that is sad, not knowing what on earth you desire.
I tried out so many things, it took me ages to finally find what I love.
Thinking about this stuff and then living it and spinning and knitting and nature and growing fruit and canning and now there is sooooo much I love.
Shame we cannot live backwards and get younger with all this wisdom, ass backwards is not such a silly thing.
I come cruising any time with you, SuZen. You DO have enough to keep afloat a boatful of women and you are already doing that with your blog and your comments, HA!
Hugs back sailor, xox Wilma
Oh my dear Wilma, are you reading my mind? I do so love serendipity. The blog post I’m working on right now is called “The Power of I Don’t Know.” Or something close to that. I think far too much emphasis is placed on knowing, and far too many people are judged for not knowing. The thing is, knowing can close down possibility, while not knowing opens us up to experimentation, as you so beautifully relate in your story. And really, isn’t life sort of one big experiment? I like to think of it that way. Your post is inspiring, and I will link back to you when I publish mine.
Patty – Why Not Start Now?´s last blog ..Meaning Mondays: The Singing Blog Edition
Oh Patty, how cool, well again proof that great minds work alike, isn’t it?
Oh is it not ironic that what I thought was my greatest wealth, so called knowledge became my greatest obstacle to really live.
It has been so hard to tread on a path outside what I knew, just because I was trained to stay within the confines of what I knew. Talk about being imprisoned!
The irony is of course that we only learn from doing things we do not know, what else is learning?
The learning I did before was just copying, learning only really happens from my own experiences in my own context.
I also noticed that that is when I get to experience what it means to really know, to tap into that innate knowing that then connects with the greater intelligence which the mind will never be able to access.
That knowing that goes to the core of your being, you are BE-ing the knowing.
Oh Patty, it can be scary to go into the unknown, experimenting with life still can scare me witless; setting up this business does scare me a lot and yet it is also exhilarating.
AND I have to do the experimenting alone, yet I AM not alone and that is a dichotomy I am coming to terms with as well.
Patty, I do love how we are discovering together, see we do it alone but we ARE NOT ALONE. So thanks for BE-ing with me and with all of us, xox Wilma
PS your singing is lovely. Good on you, what a talented woman you are :~)
Hi Wilma .. I can totally see where you’re coming from – I should never have married the man I did – but such is life, it happened and was short lived without too many repercussions .. as I was the sane, sensible one of us, at least I got away.
I can see and admit now I wish for my mother she’d been able to do the same – my father did ‘move on’ to a point with another lady, whom I like a great deal. It would be interesting to see what my two parents would have done with their lives .. they both had so much to offer. My father’s ended early, while my mother (who continued to believe my father loved her – not a good place to be, I never thought) through these conversations we’ve had obviously could have done more – though there aren’t many people of 50+ who, first trained and ran an assisted living complex – doing the cooking, gardening and caring as necessary, would then have bought a hotel, converted it into a Care Home and run it for 20 years! – but with that hankering for my father for ever there …
So well done for moving on and having the gut courage to get out and do it – and what a fantastic time you’re having – we are too .. and I love the phrase indigenous me .. what’s happened to Holland??!! It must have been a hiatus time – but we’re happy you’re here with us .. Hilary
Hilary´s last blog ..The Wigmaker, “Cottonpolis” and the first factory
Oh Hilary, isn’t it interesting how most of us have been down the same path in relationships.
And yes we can think of most people like this; It would be interesting to see what my two parents would have done with their lives .. they both had so much to offer.
We all have so much to offer and how many of us become their greatness.
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How many of us live without regrets?
Oh your mother was amazing and I can see how more glorious times she could have had when she could have let go of that hankering. Oh the waste of such talent.
And by observing Hilary, you get a sense of the traps, I do now too.
Oh Hilary, lets avoid those, lets avoid them as much as we can.
It is funny to change countries, I have no idea what happened but Holland no longer figures and as you say you would never have visited a Dutch blog
Lots of love to you and your Ma, xox Wilma
I don’t know what I don’t know until I learn it…
I remember all too well being stuck. Stuck in a marriage where I felt more alone and lonely. In a career that I wasn’t sure if I was making a difference. Living a life where I created an artificial status quo. My marriage ended long before my ex walked out. Perhaps it was the only way he knew how to set us both free.
Having to fight my way through breast cancer gave me a lot of time to think things through and determine a new path. A very wise 18 year old once told me, “no decision is ever permanent.” How I raised a smart young woman like that, I’ll never know, but her advice has served me well.
I undid a lot of old learning. I re-discovered me and what and who was important to me. I firmly believe that once I got straight on WHO I wanted to spend the rest of my life with, the Universe help manifest Richard. I just had no idea it would be HIM. Seriously, how often does your first love come looking for you?
And with Richard solidly in my life, the other things I wanted to change and do differently. I had already found my yoga when he appeared and a year after we got married, I started my teaching path. Richard also knows and supports me in finishing my own rebirth as I make a new career writing, teaching, speaking. That’s what I do best. That’s how I want to make a difference.
I look backwards to teach me how to do things differently. I look backwards but I’m living forwards.
Love to you and AnnMarie!
Peggy at Serendipity Smiles´s last blog ..Your Moment of Bliss
Peggy, the power of this phrase is only just emerging for me ; I don’t know what I don’t know and that is a lot and I have to accept that the I don’t know is invisible to me.
That means a LOT of unknown things, a LOT. So how can I go through life being sure of myself, of what I think or what I belief?
So getting a sense of that is making me far more flexible, relaxed and open to learning and with every knowing I gain of course my decisions change. How wise of your daughter because how can a decision be permanent if there is so much unknown at the time you make them.
Oh getting to know yourself beyond the manufactured identity is such a journey of letting go of the old and embracing the I don’t know.
But once rediscovering who you are, you become honest and transparent and of course other people can see you and then lump you or like you.
Of course that way you have helped the Universe to deliver Richard to you.
Oh Peggy, people who know themselves are bound to have a great time together.
Ann- Marie is right in the thick of discovering herself and it is a great and yet a very intense journey and not for the faint-hearted, but it is so worth it.
AND of course Richard knows it is worth supporting and sponsoring you as you obviously are very clear about what you desire and what you want to do.
You are also congruent and in-integrity and so he feels also very secure to back you.
Oh Peggy, when you BE the difference you can MAKE a difference.
Go you go and you deserve every great moment you are having, you made it happen.
Big hug, Wilma xox
Wilma — My favorite line in this post is
All too often we stay in our prescribed lives and forget to maintain that native part of ourselves. You should be proud of yourself for finding it again and then helping it to grow :~)
I can identify with a lot of what you said in this post. It fits my life too, with the exception of careers — I had an amazing assortment of careers, but one thing stayed consistent for me and that was writing. At the point that I began to allow my writing its wings, my life also began to change and I, too, started to see the “indigenous ME.” I like her a lot better than the other me :~)
Thanks for this post!!!
Sara´s last blog ..Picture Story: Photo Playing
Hi Sara,
I am proud and extremely blessed to have been able to find it. As you say so many don’t and in Hilary’s comment you can see the sadness of two talented people not living to their promise.
Thus you too can say that you are proud and blessed to finally have found your indigenous me.
It is incredible how we can bury all our inner greatness underneath that artificial societal stuff, it is tragic really and Eckhart Tolle is right to say it is insane.
I look at beautiful fully expressed joyous children and then at the drained shut down adults beside them; the difference is painful to watch.
Oh Sara, I am sure all our indigenous ME’s are more likable, just as children are more likable than stuck-up adults.
Love Wilma
Dearest Wilma, What a story, what a life. You DID it. You went against the “Great Tide of Normalcy”. You bucked the waves of peer pressure, social conditioning, and you ROCKED THE BOAT, my beautiful friend. Good for you. It saved your life, your spirit and soul. That decision way back then is what gives us Wilma today. I get goose bumps just knowing this, and I thank you from my deepest heart for having the courage to do what you did. Because today you can be here with me and so many others and understand us. You were born of Greatness, Wilma…and you have become that.
Having the courage to do things differently is a choice that can take guts. The “break” can at first feel like a ripping away, a tearing that can feel painful, frightening, unknown, and unreal because it’s something we have never known. However, once we “break away” the resulting freedom we experience is so sweetly familiar that we wonder why we never did it sooner. But that’s irrelevant; it’s all in the right time. What’s important is that we DID IT.
Although I did not have a high powered career like yours and all the rest. When I went into the Australian rainforest, I walked away from society, family, friends and EVERYTHING I had ever known, thought, done, been….all gone. That alone was enough to initially leave me feeling like I might be insane. But with time and the burning of all my bridges, I could only move forward into the Great Unknown. I woke one day and KNEW through and through that I was FREE for the first time in my life. I was who I was BORN to be. From there I looked back on the infrastructure of what I “thought” was Life and saw it only as a hollow shell of nothingness. It was only an illusion. It had NEVER existed.
I don’t know if you ever read this post of mine titled: “The Tower of Quiet Desperation” It is a dream I had in the rainforest. I know you will not only understand me, but I think you will relate. http://nakedineden.com/nakedinedenblog/the-tower-of-quiet-desperation/
Again, I thank you from my heart for leaping into the Unknown. A choice you made way back then is now changing lives. It is allowing our souls to connect in this time. I believe we are all connected. I am part of you and you are part of me, Wilma, and I needed you to make that leap, just as you may have needed me to make that leap. We all strengthen each other when we follow our hearts. On some level all the hearts — the world over — feel the shift toward freedom every time a soul leaps in blind faith. I love you my friend. Robin
Robin Easton´s last blog ..The Power of Our Beliefs
Oh dearest Robin, I read your dream post, oh what a sadness and what a sadness that we can live that desperately by our own do-ing.
THAT always has frightened me, that we can live in despair, futilely looking for a way out when it is right there in front of us.
AND it takes a leap into the unknown and that always works out.
God did NOT set us up to fail, there is never a bad place in creation, it is us who are creating desperate feelings of imprisonment, stuckness and joylessness.
Oh Robin, as we are connected our freedom, our joyful living, our appreciation of this divine creation will delight the whole universe and closer to home the people we are in front of us.
I do agree that this drives us to speak up and that is why I am so absolutely delighted that you do that so well. We need images of freedom, even when we do not fully comprehend it, our indigenous self will respond and will get encouraged to speak up as well. Feebly at first, but the more the image is spoken the more outspoken it will become.
This is beautiful;
Yes, if we do not care to find the wholesome ‘what is so’, we see walls and stairs with no way out.
Oh Robin, your visions so delight me, they so lift up my heart, and yes I firmly belief we do need each other to make that leap and that makes this communal blogging world so absolutely beautiful and dare I say it; necessary,
I am grateful, very very grateful for everybody and you who honors Life , my beautiful image maker, lots of love, Wilma
Hi Wilma,
Your change radiates through each photo you have of yourself, John and New Zealand. They just glow, “HAPPY!”
I think for me the first bug “I’m fed up” gave us the courage to move off the family farm. We were given two acres and that was enough for the bank to loan us the money. One day I realized we would never grow into our own family if we didn’t leave.
It took courage to put the for sale sign up and move to the city to find our own way and our own identity.
Once the decision is made the rest is easy because “there is not going back after you know better.” I would encourage everyone to do the thing they know they have to do to live a life of freedom.
Tess The Bold Life´s last blog ..Born To Run
Hi Tess
Life has changed for sure now I am letting go more and more of my preconceived knowing how things should be.
What a freedom that gives as it unlocks so many more opportunities. Whereas my preconceived knowing would dismiss them as not appropriate, not possible, not for me etc.
Oh you were so good to dare to see the wholesome ‘what is so’ of your life on the farm.
It must have been hard to go against the ‘knowing of others’ who probably would have a myriad of reasons why you shouldn’t leave.
THAT makes you indeed bold Tess, your willingness to taste life outside the box, outside the confines of our so called ‘knowing’ which unlocks the goldmine of experiencing Life.
This is also the only way to understand the value of doing things differently guided by the heart-centered self and how to access the indigenous ME.
Oh Tess, you champ, you glorious trailblazer, it must have been very hard (for the ego) to let you go with that decision but see where it has led you.
No wonder you sold 60 books, the people would have recognized you had something to say.
Tess, as always thanks, xox Wilma
Hi Wilma,
What a realization you came to. I like how you noticed the patterns in the people you were counseling and how that got you to question your own life.
As I was reading this it reminded me of how self employment is that way. Sometimes we don’t know from day to day what will happen next, nor where the next pay check will come from, but the not knowing is what keeps us fired up to continue to do what we love. It’s the not knowing that also keeps us on our toes, always coming up with creative ideas we would have never thought of if things were predictable.
Barbara Swafford´s last blog ..Unveiling The Results Of My Facelift
Hi Barbara, I am totally in agreement with you. Being self employed is propelling me into the unknown big time. It means I can be really creative and accountable for what I do and how I be each minute of each day.
That is actually very exciting to have that freedom especially when entering this new world of cyberspace.
Nobody knows and we are all learning and finding our feet. WHAT an opportunity!
It sure keeps me on my toes.
The main thing for me is to fully embrace this new way of BE-ing and not let the ego or fear make me play small and stay limited. THAT is my challenge at the moment.
Love Wilma
I’m new to your site but recognize so many of the names on your comments’ list that I feel right at home. I think being able to take a new start at any point of life is a gift that requires courage and tenacity. The role of victim is easier. You can keep blaming your parents, employers, or bad luck for your misery. But if you’re willing to take that step towards self responsibility the whole picture changes and true happiness becomes not only possible, but a reality. Lovely to meet you on your blog!
All the best!
Maryse
Hi Maryse, isn’t it fun to visit a blog and feel welcomed amongst friends.
I know that initially I too thought that the role of vicitm was easier than to make a break and become responsible for my own life.
I remember being hungry for knowledge, to find out how come I felt this disengaged with whom I really was. And then once I had the words, once I had an explanation then I needed the courage to live life according to what I knew and that indeed required courage and stepping out and dealing with the consequences without the blame and excuses.
I do wholeheartedly agree with you, once you no longer are allowing yourself to be a victim, life becomes exciting and joyful.
It seems you know what you are talking about and THAT is exciting too, finding others who understand through experience.
Lovely to meet you too, xox Wilma
Wilma, you are an inspiration. I fear far too many people ignore those voices and urges when they rise up inside them, out of fear or numbness. And others never even hear them. It is inspiring to read of someone, a woman especially, who both heard and followed them, and now is writing in very concrete terms about how she and others are and can forge a new path on so many different fronts – relationships, parenting, career, spirituality and more. So thank you for that! As you know, I do feel there is a larger awakening occurring, and it is expressed differently through different people, but stories and work like yours are part of it…
On a more obscure note, as you know my own work relates to the chakras, and I was just reading a book by chakra expert Cyndi Dale in which she maps out the growth of different chakras to different phases of our lives…the period between 42-49 is often a period of discontent with old structures and modes of being, and if people listen at this time, they can totally recreate themselves, women especially…I am 42, so this was of course of great interest to me, as was your discontent in your late forties…
Oh Lisa, chakras are part of us and a great way to remind us we are not just blood and bone. Any explanation that allows for an useful workable understanding is gold in my books, so thanks so much for sharing and that is why I love your blog too.
It makes sense to restructure your life at certain periods. Every period has their specific experiences, as a teen you have different experiences and have different tastes and preoccupations then when you are 30, married, working and a mother.
It makes so much sense to have to seriously regroup after each period and move on from certain structures and people who no longer serve you.
Each period is a death and an arising, but as we are soooo obsessed with continuity and safety and comfort, we do everything to NOT recreate ourselves after each period.
Ann-Marie is definitely recreating herself and it is not always that pleasant, like childbirth but oh so rewarding in the end.
Lisa, as you can see I so love your comment and what you said here, I am excited to connect at this level. Lots of love, Wilma
I love this “The people who had a checkered career path were often full of possibilities and amazingly resourceful. ”
I truly grasped this at a young age. I came from a very small town had to make it in the big city. My life and career would have been totally different if I hadn’t been resourceful.
Wilma,
You have come such a long ways. You are a great example of how to “do” life.
I’m glad you took the path that brought you here.
Hi Angelia
Experience is actually the only way to learn and stepping out like you did must sure have taught you a thing or two.
Education can be such a curse, because it teaches us false security and that there is only one road to Rome for the initiated only.
Life is for all of us, all the roads and destinations are there for all of us and although our circumstances, upbringing and education can put us on a certain railway track, at some point we can leave it and find our own way AND that is so much more fun.
And I am glad I am here too, to meet you as well.
xox Wilma.
Hi Wilma and Ann-Marie .. a lot has gone on this week .. which for me is really interesting – actually probably a lot of change has just happened overnight – revelations in my mind – as I guess my mind is open and I’m not afraid. It’s a journey and one I’ll share in due course.
I must journal about it before I forget – though that’s not my nature .. but probably the journey should be written down, especially the revelations I’m having.
Now for me there’s such a tie in with Liara, and you both .. – amazing how the world works .. gosh I’m lucky to be here .. great news!
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Hilary, Hilary, the excitement oozes through this, you amazing woman, you are open and that is the only way to be to have things happen.
Please journal so this doesn’t get forgotten.
Your generosity is paying off, you being so lovingly in life cannot but bear fruit. Not because tit for tat but it is the law of the divine creation, it cannot be any other way as this is in the spirit the world is created in. If only we understand that law in its fulness.
But I feel we are getting there and that will bring the change we all want to see, a world where love is the foundation for law and justice.
Oh Hilary, blessings on your journey and thank you so much for being who you are and sharing, love Wilma
After reading your article I feel like the wind has filled my sails. I happen to be a person to whom secure means boring, almost dead. I don’t want to know what the future holds, because as long as I live with curiosity, I feel alive, I feel like everything is possible. When my life comes to a point of stagnation, I remind myself that there are so many interesting things that are due to happen to me, so many interesting people that I will meet. I don’t want to have my life all planned out, to go on robotic cycles of what’s considered “normalcy”. I don’t want to feel like there is only one path, a limited number of things I can do. Life is full of endless possibilities and I am very inclined to test my limits.
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Hi Aysel, yes life is too good to go for security if that means ignoring the endless possibilites that life offers.
I do agree that when you let life happen, things you have never dreamed of will appear, people who would have escaped your radar are coming in your sight and oh that is indeed exciting.
How you live your life sounds good to me and all of us can live that way to let life unfold miraculous things. What I also have discovered is that our imagination is so limited, we hardly ever see what is possible if we play it safe.
Good on you and great to see you here. xox Wilma