Comments on: Ann-Marie on Do we Learn from our Experiences?

By: Wilma

Wilma — Tue, 02 Feb 2010 22:07:05 +0000

Hi Hilary, I too find it so useful to hear other thoughts, as that allows me to challenge my own.
For a long time I was stuck with my own thoughts that did not serve to live a life that suited me, but I actually did not know what else to think.
However now all these amazing emerging thoughts challenge my old thoughts which of course are my beliefs and then of course I had the next problem, which new thoughts to believe.
THAT made me stuck for a while too.
However that is being solved as well, it they feel good then I try them on.
And yes, that relates to what SuZen says too.
Oh Hilary I am so excited as I feel this makes your and my life so much bearable and so much more loving and worthwhile living, even when you have to deal with so much in your life.
As for family, we are often so imprisoned by their story, there is hardly any escape other than accepting that they live their story and you to look outside for love and encouragement. It sounds silly as your ego might want that acknowledgment to come from them because they reap the benefit and they ARE your closest community, but once you can let that go, they become a lot easier to deal with as the attachment to how they should be is no longer there. John is doing the same with his family and it works a treat, while before that . . . there was a lot of upset.
Hilary, know that most of us here do admire your generosity and see you for who you are, xox Wilma

By: Hilary

Hilary — Mon, 01 Feb 2010 10:36:20 +0000

Hi Ann-Marie .. that Little Voice – it is so interesting to be here … because without this particularly special blog world that I have been fortunate enough to come across – none of us would be analysing these thoughts, or seeing how others behave just like us and then how they’ve learnt to adjust to the challenges.

As you say you’re experiencing new things from your own personal challenges – and we can all reap rewards from these new experiences as we go through our daily lives. I certainly have learnt from the experience of my mother in a hospital for three years and my uncle being ill and subsequently dying late last year .. and these have taught me a great deal. Out of adversity there’s always good things .. new friends, new thoughts, new ideas etc

My uncle was amazed that I was able to work things through in my head and knew what was going on – but the thing I find so difficult is dealing with the family .. I’m moving forward and was listening to my Little Voice yesterday – I will keep on growing as a person, I am sure of that.

SuZen’s words make so much sense .. and I must remember that –

when I pull away from the joy of the moment .. the alarm is starting to ring ..

Thinking of you and hope all goes well – good to be here – Hilary
Hilary´s last blog ..The Wigmaker, “Cottonpolis” and the first factory

By: Wilma

Wilma — Sun, 31 Jan 2010 20:21:01 +0000

Hi Megan, isn’t it powerful to do this;

I was able to step away from the situation as a third-person observer and say, “Ohhhh, I see what you were trying to do. And no, we’re not going there tonight.

I so love it when that happens as I so no longer want to be reactive and then afterwards have that feeling of regret and guilt while thinking why on earth did I do what I did.
Life becomes so much more light and pleasant without that burden of past behaviors I don’t like.

I also so resonate with what you say here Megan;

Ego is very powerful, or perhaps it’s that my ability to always live and act from a heart-centered place isn’t well developed enough yet.

For a long time I kind of smelled something wasn’t right, but I couldn’t find where the smell was coming from.
And I also did not know how else to live my life, I could not find ways that sat well with me until now.
So yes, I do agree with you that it is a matter of learning and trying these new behaviors out. AND that takes courage, time, effort and support like Robin said.
Support to make sense of what we are learning and to give it a workable explanation.
Joy also lives life differently and processes the learning to make sense of it.
Oh Megan, I am so excited about it all as I feel that this is the way to the new earth and I too love how we learn together, love Wilma xox

By: Megan "JoyGirl!" Bord

Megan "JoyGirl!" Bord — Sun, 31 Jan 2010 14:14:59 +0000

There is so much good food for thought here; thank you, Ann Marie and Wilma!

Last night I had a moment of recognizing my ego at work. Actually, I recognized it ten minutes after it happened, but because of that all-important awareness, I didn’t follow through with what ego was trying to get me to do. I was able to step away from the situation as a third-person observer and say, “Ohhhh, I see what you were trying to do. And no, we’re not going there tonight.”

As you said, awareness is important, but what then? Ego is very powerful, or perhaps it’s that my ability to always live and act from a heart-centered place isn’t well developed enough yet. Sometimes even with awareness, I let ego win. Other times, though, I am able to do as Wilma did and model new behaviors.

What a beautiful journey we’re all on, though, and even better that we can share what we’ve learned with each other.
Thank you both for that!
Megan “JoyGirl!” Bord´s last blog ..Love, the Eternal Law

By: Ann-Marie

Ann-Marie — Sun, 31 Jan 2010 06:31:55 +0000

Robin … Yes yes yes! Context is so vitally important to our learning and the experiences we create. I so appreciate that you see how valuable the learning experience was that Wilma set up for herself. And yes it tells us so much more about the champion Wilma is in her life.
We’ve said it before ‘Context is King’. And you Robin have set up a context that is pure beauty, pure magic. xxx