Comments on: Only acceptance has you do things differently. http://www.wilmasblog.com/leverage/2010/01/04/only-acceptance-ha-you-do-things-differently/ Being a strong basecamp Fri, 30 Jul 2010 02:43:42 -0600 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.5 hourly 1 By: Danniell http://www.wilmasblog.com/leverage/2010/01/04/only-acceptance-ha-you-do-things-differently/#comment-9875 Danniell Wed, 28 Jul 2010 17:31:23 +0000 http://www.wilmasblog.com/?p=3563#comment-9875 I loved this post! I also suffer from the anger that rises up in me, ready to solve problems but being unsatisfied with their expected imperfection of results. I am a cardinal sign, a Libra, so problem solving and leading is in my nature. To "get things done" and fix things is part of our human condition. I don't think that going into the situation and finding a way to change Mondays is a bad thing, I think toddlers are just more difficult to teach and effect than other humans :) There is that point, though, where all options have been presented and defeated. The point in which nothings works and we feel like we failed because we can't get this toddler to sleep, and the husband is grouchy, and we feel like a victim because no one will obey us!! Haha. Yes, that is where we sit in the comfy chair, grab a crossword and coffee, put the toddler in the room with a movie and toys and offer our husband a coffee and cookie when he gets home. Those are the days of self-love and acceptance, like you said, where we just can't co-create with God the way we want. These days we breathe and bless our tolerance, compassion, and the human-ness of our crazy days. I love you women, and am excited to see more posts! -Danniell I loved this post! I also suffer from the anger that rises up in me, ready to solve problems but being unsatisfied with their expected imperfection of results. I am a cardinal sign, a Libra, so problem solving and leading is in my nature. To “get things done” and fix things is part of our human condition. I don’t think that going into the situation and finding a way to change Mondays is a bad thing, I think toddlers are just more difficult to teach and effect than other humans :) There is that point, though, where all options have been presented and defeated. The point in which nothings works and we feel like we failed because we can’t get this toddler to sleep, and the husband is grouchy, and we feel like a victim because no one will obey us!! Haha. Yes, that is where we sit in the comfy chair, grab a crossword and coffee, put the toddler in the room with a movie and toys and offer our husband a coffee and cookie when he gets home. Those are the days of self-love and acceptance, like you said, where we just can’t co-create with God the way we want. These days we breathe and bless our tolerance, compassion, and the human-ness of our crazy days.

I love you women, and am excited to see more posts!
-Danniell

]]> By: Ann-Marie http://www.wilmasblog.com/leverage/2010/01/04/only-acceptance-ha-you-do-things-differently/#comment-7778 Ann-Marie Wed, 13 Jan 2010 03:14:57 +0000 http://www.wilmasblog.com/?p=3563#comment-7778 Hi there Z~ Your Mum obviously loves you and your daughter very much. To provide you with a way to stop your upset of having a crying child, by accepting is a precious gift. Being able to look within and truly see the what is so and accept it, the person and the situation brings us so much peace. You captured it in these words <em>'we mums have to just let them be'</em>. And as my wee girl turns two this week it certainly is an ongoing occurance. Love to you Ann-Marie Hi there Z~
Your Mum obviously loves you and your daughter very much. To provide you with a way to stop your upset of having a crying child, by accepting is a precious gift.

Being able to look within and truly see the what is so and accept it, the person and the situation brings us so much peace. You captured it in these words ‘we mums have to just let them be’. And as my wee girl turns two this week it certainly is an ongoing occurance.
Love to you
Ann-Marie

]]> By: Ann-Marie http://www.wilmasblog.com/leverage/2010/01/04/only-acceptance-ha-you-do-things-differently/#comment-7777 Ann-Marie Wed, 13 Jan 2010 03:01:49 +0000 http://www.wilmasblog.com/?p=3563#comment-7777 Hi Megan Seeing Molly as the rain, something that I have no control over gave me such freedom around this 'sleeping' situation. I've found my favourite music on my IPOD comes in really handy, gives me peace and quiet! However ear plugs sound great. How did you know that my girl has such a glorious set of lungs;0) And they'll come in handy with adults also!!! Hugs to you Hi Megan
Seeing Molly as the rain, something that I have no control over gave me such freedom around this ’sleeping’ situation.
I’ve found my favourite music on my IPOD comes in really handy, gives me peace and quiet! However ear plugs sound great. How did you know that my girl has such a glorious set of lungs;0) And they’ll come in handy with adults also!!!
Hugs to you

]]> By: Ann-Marie http://www.wilmasblog.com/leverage/2010/01/04/only-acceptance-ha-you-do-things-differently/#comment-7776 Ann-Marie Wed, 13 Jan 2010 02:54:07 +0000 http://www.wilmasblog.com/?p=3563#comment-7776 Hi there Joy, By stripping things back to see the what was so we did arrive at very different place that was 'far different from the original thought'. It was a way out of the madness! Thank Goodness.I had fallen deep into the trap of being responsible for Molly's thoughts and actions, my auto pilot reaction of being a parent! Our children teach us so much and I love that you see yours give you practice for interacting with co-workers, which builds on friendships, etc…. That rocks! Hugs to you Hi there Joy,
By stripping things back to see the what was so we did arrive at very different place that was ‘far different from the original thought’. It was a way out of the madness! Thank Goodness.I had fallen deep into the trap of being responsible for Molly’s thoughts and actions, my auto pilot reaction of being a parent!
Our children teach us so much and I love that you see yours give you practice for interacting with co-workers, which builds on friendships, etc…. That rocks!
Hugs to you

]]> By: Wilma http://www.wilmasblog.com/leverage/2010/01/04/only-acceptance-ha-you-do-things-differently/#comment-7710 Wilma Fri, 08 Jan 2010 03:08:55 +0000 http://www.wilmasblog.com/?p=3563#comment-7710 Oh Lisa, I had forgotten you had twins. I so understand that giving up their naps must have been a hard one to allow you to access the 'what is so' about what was going on for all of you. Hmmm, I can see that that must have taken some doing to go beyond what you felt on the immediate surface, like oh my how am I going to adjust to that? Isn't it amazing though when you can? And I so realize how everyone can benefit from taking the time to figure out 'what is so', but that too requires time and the head spacet o do it in and that must be rare in your busy household as well. I have to admire you for finding time for that and you ability to contribute to Jan's 28 days meditation challenge as well. With that ability you will have a fabulous 2010 no doubt, Love Wilma Oh Lisa, I had forgotten you had twins.
I so understand that giving up their naps must have been a hard one to allow you to access the ‘what is so’ about what was going on for all of you.
Hmmm, I can see that that must have taken some doing to go beyond what you felt on the immediate surface, like oh my how am I going to adjust to that?
Isn’t it amazing though when you can? And I so realize how everyone can benefit from taking the time to figure out ‘what is so’, but that too requires time and the head spacet o do it in and that must be rare in your busy household as well.
I have to admire you for finding time for that and you ability to contribute to Jan’s 28 days meditation challenge as well.
With that ability you will have a fabulous 2010 no doubt, Love Wilma

]]>