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In this week’s post Context is King Wilma explained how choosing the context we live in leads to possibilities and being the change we want to see.
She did warn however that we must choose our context very carefully and surround ourselves with talk of abundance, freedom and possibilities and avoid idle talk of lack, duty and what is NOT possible.
We all related to this and shared how we’ve had a context at one point or another in our lives that did not serve us.
Peggy made this comment; “I had this scarcity mentality…and it made me feel and act small and petty. …I have been fortunate to meet and surround myself with people who think in terms of abundance and gratitude rather than lack and scarcity. I can tell you that my life has changed for the better just by changing the context in which I have the conversation.”
Jodi’s observation was that “I had a scarcity, fear-based mindset, too…beliefs I inherited from childhood and finally questioned later on. What a refreshing joy to be out of that!”
And Nadia shared her journey “I realized that my mind was rooted in lack and I just needed to see abundance. It was like hell at first. Thankfully, my husband was patient and cheered me on. I am so grateful that I did listen to him because it changed my life around.”
I applaud you ladies for seeing what was going on for you and for finding a way out of it, as tough as it may have been.
Awareness is the first step to changing our context; changing our thoughts and words from impossible to possible.
It has completed floored me to realize that I have lived most of my life completely oblivious to my context and now I see the consequences of that on myself AND others. I see the consequences of not having me and my word be one. It did disturb me, however I am AWAKE now and that’s what matters.
Chris remarked on who he was being in certain situations; “I noticed a tendency to glorify the suffering I go through in doing a project, and when I remember that I’m actually trying to improve my life and others lives, rather than be a really good martyr, there’s a sudden increase in my energy level”.
Patty, Jan and Robb had some sobering thoughts to add.
Patty said; “The thing is, we all get dragged back, with both our internal and external conversations.”
Jan’s realization was that; “Some of these old ways of operating ARE really hard to disconnect from. We are so habituated, aren’t we, on so many levels–just hardwired, in some areas.”
And Robb powerfully and so honestly shared the impact of what conversations can do to our life; how they can make it miserable; “When I got married . . .I immediately became my father. . . . How ironic is that? I mistook responsibility for becoming part of the system I had rejected. It nearly destroyed me and my relationships with my wife and my son”
What profound insights here; to notice how we are so completely hard wired by our past and our old beliefs. It is only then that we can comprehend how enormous the task of rewiring ourselves is. We also got to see how easy it is to destroy a wonderful existing relationship by not being mindful of what we are saying. Words are so powerful and when used carelessly they can damage our lives big time.
As I’ve said before we are now conscious and initiating ways to have our conversations be different and have a change in our context occur.
Daphne’s take on this was; “When we recognize the negative things in our surroundings, we should take action to improve those things. Or, we should decide that those things are not important enough to fix, and then stop bringing them up.”
Angelia shared her approach as; “I try to invoke an “everything’s a blessing” mentality to my life. No matter what comes my way, it’s a blessing, good or bad.”
This thinking will certainly bring about change. However for me, when the rubber hits the road and things are looking ‘bad’, I can freak out at times; my Little Voice takes over and adds fuel to the fire and I can see NO way out. Possibility is nowhere to be found and all I am left with is problems, problems and more problems; I am totally stopped.
Angelia, like Wilma and I and many others too I suspect have times when fear sets in. I would love to hear how you get on with keeping your conversation for possibilities alive when fear sets in.
I am grateful to you all for this conversation, seeing where we have come from and where we are going to. I’m really getting how our words impact us and create our world. There’s been some huge realizations. I am noticing and I am uneasy with myself. This gives me tremendous hope and for that I thank you all.
It was Robin that really touched my heart this week. She shares here what is available to us ALL when we change our conversations to ones of possibility and creation…
Today I question EVERYTHING. “Where have I fallen asleep at the wheel? Where am I flying on auto-pilot? Where am I putting a lid on my thinking? What have I accepted as truth?” And I rip away the lids and burst free over and over and over. I remove lids on age, lids on death, lids on money, lids on “why I can’t do such and such”, lids on how much time I have, lids on what I am told by the media is happening in the world, as opposed to what REALLY might be happening in the world, lids on almost everything I think and do. I strive to live WITHOUT any set context. I know this may sound bizarre to live without context, but maaaaan, the freedom I feel and the possibilities that fall into my lap and the miracles that happen and the power that rushes through my being is unlimited.
I think the biggest intent in my life is to seek out “lids” and lift them so as to see the infinite sky beyond. It doesn’t mean I always have the answer; it only means that I am open to infinite possibilities, open to all of LIFE! I am learning that in trusting and exploring the possibilities, the answers present themselves…and even if they don’t…I am FREE! But so far I’ve never been left stranded. Life LOVES us and wants to full-fill our wildest passionate dreams. It’s what Life IS. It’s what Life DOES.
This is the level of conversation we are talking about, the level that each one of us can play at every day; moment by moment, thought by thought.
Can you imagine what could be created when the whole world has conversations like Robins?
We are never alone in this journey, we are here together working it out and moving into new contexts that are different, contexts that support us in our life purpose, contexts that work for us as we go about our day; connecting with the people we love and carrying out our tasks and routines.
It is in the daily do-ing, in the daily living and the daily appreciative conversation that we begin to co-create with God and this is where change happens. Zeenat said it so beautifully “Our change is in our hands”
I request that you keep having conversations that allow YOU to dream and create a life you were meant to create; a joyful and abundant one. Be vigilant and interrupt those conversations that don’t serve.
And in this context, what is it that YOU wish to create these holidays for you and your loved ones?
What possibility do you see that perhaps was not there before?
Let your community sponsor you to bring it into existence and have each day of this festive season be an extraordinary experience for you.
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Oh Ann-Marie; I so relate to this;
Words are powerful and yet I just let everything come out of my mouth as if it doesn’t matter. I was talking too much and not enough listening to what I was saying.
This conversation about context has once again made me accutely aware of how I have to watch my language and how I have to watch other people’s language as well.
As I mentioned before I am far more careful with my money than with my words AND yet it is my words that are far more capable of ‘buying’ me a good life than money ever will.
Hmmmm, when I let that sink in, I know I still have a lot of observing to do AND I need others to help me observe as most language that comes out of my mouth is still invisible to me.
So help me observe buddy and that takes courage too.
I observed this week something that I dared not say to you, you were using fearful words around your daughter and I did not dare to tell you as I too am still fearful around my own children and I felt I had no right to mention your fear. Luckily John did.
OH, we are not out of the woods yet.
Love to all of us for at least going for a different conversation and being the best we can in any given moment. XOX.
Wilma, I feel I am on conversation alert, I am noticing all the different types that are around me and it is an eye opener. They’ve probably always been that way too. And the conversations I am having, the words I am using to create my world are still very much invisible to me. So Wilma I too need extra pairs of ears to listen to what I say, to tell me how it is and call me on my conversations. }
Yes this week I got to see clearly just how fearful my conversations were around my daughter, Molly. Only for John pointing it out I would have carried on in this stifling conversation that was slowly choking the life out of any possibility whatsoever. Even though what John said hit me hard I am so grateful for it.
So buddy I will observe you and I request that you observe me too and tell me what you see. No we are not out of the woods yet; there are many things for me to tackle so that I have a context that works on a daily basis.
These conversations here are powerful ones, they keep me grounded and focused and I consider it to be a most precious gift.
Love to you
Hi Ann-Marie – I truly appreciate how you lay bare those realizations you’ve had. And there’s so much power to the feelings you express: feeling floored, feeling uneasy, feeling awake. And this: “It is only then that we can comprehend how enormous the task of rewiring ourselves is.” I believe the hardwiring you speak of is much bigger than our past experiences and beliefs. It’s an archetypal story, living deep in our unconscious. I don’t know about anyone else, but that actually inspires rather than sobers me, because when I can locate this story outside of myself and understand its universality, I can much more easily transform it. And that’s what allows me to dance with the fear and keep the possibility conversations alive at the same time. And I’ve learned from many wise ones that trying to rid myself of fear will probably backfire.
About the holidays: I was feeling at loose ends about them this year, but my husband and I started having possibility conversations about doing them differently. Over a quiet dinner out, we each shared what we wanted: intimacy, warmth, joy, simplicity, fellowship. So now we have a plan. Christmas Eve will be just for us, hiking, talking, baking, playing scrabble. Christmas Day will be spent with others we care about, but in a non-traditional way – going to a movie and out to dinner after. Now my energy for the holidays has returned, and I can already imagine how wonderful these days will be.
Patty – Why Not Start Now?´s last blog ..Before the New Year
Hi Patty
I love the way you take a subject and process it so that it is inspirational rather than sobering for you. That certainly is creating something different.
When you said that your thinking ‘allows you to dance with the fear and keep the possibility conversations alive at the same time’, you nailed it there. That is what I am going for. Whatever we are hardwired with, it can be changed over time and with consciousness. It is a daily focus and a daily do-Ing – small steps. I’m seeing that so clearly now.
Thanks for sharing what you’re creating over the holidays.
Isn’t it amazing what conversations of possibility can bring into existence for us?
Imagine if we had these conversations with everyone in our lives?
Sounds like there are wonderful days ahead of you. You and your husband have focused in on who you are being during these holidays – intimacy, warmth, joy, simplicity, fellowship and that is beautiful. I am glad that your energy has returned and I wish you an extraordinary time.
Hugs to you
Dear Patty, This sounds so much like what my husband and I did. We went to the front of the plane, turned off the Christmas autopilot (from years of Christmas social conditioning) and decided to fly the plane ourselves…together. We don’t Christmas in the traditional way. I told all my friends and family I was going to stop the whole shopping and present exchange thing that was just pushing me over the edge and asked them not to send presents but to take that money do something for themselves that you never get to do.
Now my husband and I hike, share a simple meal, talk, play scrabble (lol) and take time to REALLY “be” with each other and communicate. Now it truly is a time of great peace and communion with that which matters to both of us. Surprisingly a few of our friends have started to do the same, saying that seeing us do it gave them permission to do it.
Thank you for sharing this. Much love, Robin
Robin Easton´s last blog ..When You Know You’re Alive
Hello Wilma,
I wanted to introduce you to another spiritual women who is searching for inner peace and calmness http://www.huffingtonpost.com/priscilla-warner/i-want-the-brain-of-a-mon_b_384512.html.
Thanks for all of your comments!!!
Jillian´s last blog ..Mixed Marriage: Differently the Same
Hello Jillian
I read Priscilla’s post. Interesting stuff!
Thanks Jillian. I will go and have a look and isn’s it wonderful to notice like minded thoughts popping up all over.
It will all add to the tipping point and that is so inspiring.
Hi Wilma and Ann-Marie!
You are both doing a wonderful thing – it is like taking an awareness pill to participate in the discussions you both present! And so necessary! So often in life we hear all the voices around us to the point they have drowned out our OWN. It happens without any realization seemingly until something (or someone) comes along and wakes us up!
I wish one and all the most joyous and peaceful of holidays! And I thank you both for being the gifts to me that you both indeed are!
Hugs
suZen
suzen´s last blog ..Letter to Santa – or – Venting is Therapy!
Hi suZen
It is a noisy world we live in; conversations which have no possibility sure contribute to it. To stop, catch a breath, observe and hear what is going on internally for us takes some doing alright. And to establish a context that is not ‘noisy’ takes concerted effort. WomenLikeMe and the collective comments on this blog has woken me up. I am AWAKE.
To think what can be achieved with our conversations in this conscious state is so exciting.
Wishing you a joyful and peaceful holidays too.
Hugs back to you x
Thanks for participating SuZen, it all contributes and it all gives us a chance to become at least aware of what is going on and what is disturbing us.
There is indeed a lot of noise that is taking us away from whom we really can be, oh boy I am so easily knocked of the peaceful perch.
I do agree that this togetherness is pricelsee and it is great to have all these wonderful people joining us.
You too have a great holiday and I trust your son is up to date with all the news :0,
love Wilma
You know…some days I just love coming back and reading the comments! Which leads me to re-read the post…and be inspired all over again!
I’m still chewing on Robin’s concept of not having a context at all but being open to all the infinite possibilities. In my head that’s like walking around without skin
but is this not the very concept of Wu Wei that Benjamin Hoff describes as “The Uncarved Block?” What would things look like if suddenly every human shed their context for no context? Or is there context within the infinite?
Crap…now there I go thinking again
Peggy at Serendipity Smiles´s last blog ..Stones of Courage are Like Treasures From the Deep
Peggy, I am thrilled to hear that you re-read the posts and comments and that you are still chewing over Robin’s concept. This is a continuous conversation but before we delve further into it and find the answers to our questions we first must allow these new explanations to sink in. I applaud you for your questions and for sticking with this… it does seem strange at first – ‘like walking around without skin’ but it is so worth it – infinite possibilities. And for me if every human shed their context for no context, being love in action would be our daily state, we would prosper beyond recognition and create at the most astonishing level. Now that’s the stuff miracles are made of.
Peggy you keep on thinking and keep going with your questions.
They are a huge part of the process that will have your life work for you. And the WomenLikeMe program will provide you with more explanations, explanations that will set your heart alight and have you step closer to the life you desire.
Oh Peggy I so look forward to seeking out the answers to our questions together throughout the program. It will rock.
Love Ann-Marie
Wow! I am just ASTOUNDED by the energy here. I am SO SO excited. I love Peggy’s questions and questing heart. Good for you girl. I find it so inspiring.
I also love what you (ANN-MARIE) wrote when you said:
“…and create at the most astonishing level.”
When I read that it was like you had reached in and seen me. You hit on a truth that is SO fundamental and MAGNIFICENT that I thought, “It’s EVERYTHING. Without context we BECOME Creation in motion. We become Creation itself. We CANNOT contain ourselves. We are Life creating over and over in finite form, without shame, without pretense, almost without thought, because we have NO CHOICE but to create. And we don’t hold back because we no longer wait for ourselves or the situation to become perfect or devoid of supposed mistakes and human failings. We just dive wildly into the great surging river of Life and are swept away on a life-giving current sooooo much larger than ourselves that we cannot do anything but REVEL in it. Become it.
This may sound corny but it’s a bit like having an orgasm. Once started we cannot stop it. We become Life in Motion, Intelligence in Motion. We allow ourselves to let go and become the river, become Life. Become what we really and truly ALL are.
I know this is a wild outburst straight from my heart, which you and Wilma bring out in me, so please forgive if it’s not clear. LOL!! I just become ecstatic here. There is an energy that knows no boundaries, no judgment, and only Love. Thank you Ann-Marie and Wilma and all the lovely souls here for being in my life. Much love, Robin
Robin Easton´s last blog ..When You Know You’re Alive
Oh Robin, you can be an expression LIFE here and it is so beautiful to see you respond with ALL who you are.
I absolutely love this;
THAT is what we are here for, not to just go wild water rafting and have a few exciting moments on our holidays, but we are meant to have exciting moments every minute of every day.
God did not create us for the mundane, he created us for just what you wrote here, Robin and he must be ecstatic that somebody understands.
Peggy, this could be me; “Crap…now there I go thinking again .”
Oh, it took me such a long time to really understand what this meant; no context.
I just could not imagine how that would actually feel and how I could do it.
It was not until I got this ‘context is a conversation’ concept that it dawned on me.
The infinite is also a really hard concept to get one’s head around, however as Ann-Marie says, it is worth to stick with it because an uncarved block has a lot of potential.
I second what Ann-Marie says about our questioning together, it will be quite something. Wilma xox
Imagination is a key to removing scarcity. It’s a shame we don’t treat it like food.
David ´s last blog ..Imagine
Hello David
Imagination generates endless possibilites. When possibilty is present and in full flow, scarcity has no place. To dream and to freely and deliberately create can result in daily miracles.
I read your comments to Robin today on her facebook. Thanks for contributing here.
Feel free to join this continuous conversation if it serves you in your life’s purpose.
I look forward to reading more of your touching poetry. Hugs to you
Hi WIlma and Anne-Marie .. if something comes my way, which recently it has rather more often than not, I’m not sure how – but I just get on with it and look for the positive out of the occasion .. be it a disaster or a mishap. I do with my mother – though we don’t evaluate things very often we accept this is life .. I don’t bring negative in … I just say well Mum at least we can talk to each other, and we can communicate – that’s more than some terminally ill people (or ill people can do) – she agrees with me. My uncle could never understand how I didn’t get in a stew – well I did, but I rationalised it & then got on with where we were at. I give/gave them what they would appreciate – their needs are/were consumate at this time, however inconvenient it is for me. I just take the fact that in between I have time to think (occasionally!), make a new life for myself in the years ahead. Timing seems right – you’re all here … blogging is here, opportunities abound on the net .. my time will come.
Hope you’re having a drier festive season than we are here – at least it’s warm and not cold snow – another reason to count my blessings -
Hilary Melton-Butcher
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Hilary´s last blog ..Wassail .. and “The Twelve Days of Christmas”
Hi Hilary.
You are certainly in a position in which your conversations are very important otherwhise you could get in a stew as your uncle once said;
I think your conversations about rationalizing your circumstances are spot on and keeping you able to cope with it, I am sure.
And the conversations that your other family members are having, are definitely not always as contributing.
It is great to still have conversations with your mother and she is blessed to have you listen and cater for her needs and counting your blessings so you can have this amazing time with her.
Yes, the weather here is amazingly good at the moment, however there is always another side to this, we need rain for the veggies and the paddocks and our water tanks are low.
Dear Wilma and Ann-Marie, I thank you both from my deepest heart for all you give so freely. There are no words that could describe the extent of depth of what you give here. All I can say is that you are changing my life, you are a reflection that infuses me like the wild does. You are the real deal. I love you both for it. More than I can express. Robin
Robin Easton´s last blog ..When You Know You’re Alive
Robin, the appreciation is absolutely mutual and our connection is a great gift. You let our words soar to a height which brings us all closer to our divine destiny. For that, I thank you my dearest friend.
Dear Robin
We all hear each other so clearly – our hearts and purposes are aligned and you reflect it back so beautifully. You inspire us greatly. Much love to you xxx