Comments on: Intimacy and sponsorship happen through listening; how well do we listen?

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The Hum and the Buzz of a Great Community « Serendipity Smiles — Fri, 06 Nov 2009 19:50:06 +0000

[...] on Wilma’s blog, the hum is buzzing about asking and listening. The conversation is lively and while I’m really good at asking, my listening skills need [...]

By: Wilma

Wilma — Thu, 05 Nov 2009 19:59:37 +0000

Oh Angelia, listening is done with intent and even 4 good ears will not necessarily make someone a good listener. And with your intent to connect and create intimacy with people, you will find a way to ‘hear’ and your listening will get heard as I do hear your loving intent.
Hugs Wilma

By: Angelia Sims

Angelia Sims — Thu, 05 Nov 2009 18:22:37 +0000

Thank you Wilma! I do get very still and sensitive in concentration to all that they are saying. I use my heart more than my ears. I plan to learn sign language. I think it’s a beautiful language and may open up another avenue of sensing, and feeling.

Thank you for a very thought provoking post. I hear you, dear Wilma. You are a beautiful understanding soul. I appreciate that sooo much!
Angelia Sims´s last blog ..Confession Wednesday!

By: Wilma

Wilma — Thu, 05 Nov 2009 05:01:51 +0000

Hi Angelia.
Yes, when hearing is a problem listening can suffer as well.
My daughter seems to talk away from the microphone when she calls so nearly every 5 minutes I have to tell her to speak into the microphone and to stop mumbling.
That is annoying but important if she wants to have me hear what she is saying.

I do know how hard it is not to hear detail, but sometimes it is not all the detail we need to hear but the upsets or the joy that they want to share.

What I have learned from blind George is that he has patience and acceptance. At events he just sits there until somebody comes to him or informs him about what is going on. He cannot go to get his own drinks, he cannot see what is going on, he is in my eyes missing so much but he has come to terms with it.
Oh Angelia, I hear what you are saying and yes I am counting my blessings.
However I am sure that just as George, you will find ways to connect as in the end it is with your heart that that happens.
Hugs to you, Wilma

By: Angelia Sims

Angelia Sims — Wed, 04 Nov 2009 23:06:33 +0000

Hi Wilma!
Beautiful post! I, too, struggle with listening but more so nowadays because I don’t hear so well. My grandfather had hearing loss and I might have listened to music too loud. I have many issues with hearing people on cell phones, my daughter’s speech with braces, and foreign accents.
I use as much as my gut and instinct as I can, frequently I’m just straining to hear rather than observe or if I can’t, I observe rather than hear.
I am sure I miss so much. Listening is a gift, not everyone has it or keeps it. Enjoy it’s wonderfulness!
Angelia Sims´s last blog ..Confession Wednesday!