Comments on: Forget unfair and luck, integrity is what counts.

By: Wilma

Wilma — Fri, 11 Sep 2009 05:07:16 +0000

Hi Chris.
Finding out what you want and then expressing it can be tough as often you are indeed being confronted with the no agreement from other people.
For some time I was even losing knowing WHAT I wanted.
It sure is a learning to get to integrity, knowing what you want and then expressing it.
For me it helped to start with observing what I was doing without making myself wrong, that was freeing and yet very revealing and a great first move. From there it were little gentle baby steps.
Chris thanks for your honest observation, Love Wilma

By: Chris Edgar | Purpose Power Coaching

Chris Edgar | Purpose Power Coaching — Fri, 11 Sep 2009 04:17:40 +0000

Thanks for this. Like you say, doing what you say you’re going to do is certainly one important aspect of being in integrity, but another is expressing what you want and don’t want, and for many of us (myself included) that’s actually the harder one.

By: Wilma

Wilma — Thu, 10 Sep 2009 21:05:09 +0000

Hi Lisa.
For me integrity is a consistent daily doing to keep our daily affairs in order and make life work.
That means paying attention to your own actions, what is so and taking responsibility for the results you are causing when you have not kept things in order.
In that last bit fits for me your comment about your inner compass. It is your inner compass that guides the choice of choosing to do integrity. You are either not choosing responsibility, ownership and accountability for your actions or your compass guides you to choosing it and to stop complaining, blaming and finding excuses.
Integrity itself is not about morality, I in this context refer to it as a doing you chose moment by moment and it helps if you choose wisely. And yes, we women know how to get ourselves in a pickle with our generosity. Setting barriers is a real learning; after having to give all to our babies we then have to leanr to take the throttle back.
Lisa, you too, thank so much for contributing to the understanding, Love Wilma

By: Wilma

Wilma — Thu, 10 Sep 2009 20:53:51 +0000

Haha, Tess, I too hope you get gentle lessons on the last point.
I personally am so grateful that I have found this integrity explanation. It is surely getting me out of the mind muddle this incongruent world has put me in. At least I get a grasp of what is expected of me, what I can do at groundlevel where the rubber hits the road that gets me to live a life that gives me self respect. It has frustrated me for sooo long that I could not find way that explained my role and part in life clearly, practically and sensibly. Integrity does that for me. It is simply keep paying attention to life and getting back into integrity as an ongoing choice, moment by moment. Nothing airy fairy about that and I like that.
I do get your vibration explanation. In the book ‘love without end’ it is explained that love can never be attacked. It is worth reading that book to get the whole explanation but it sure makes sense to me.
We also do not have alarms and all that. Things got stolen but they can always be replaced, what can never be stolen is the harvest of your love.
Tess, I loved what you have to say here, and isn’t life a wonderful journey this way. Love Wilma

By: Lisa (mommymystic)

Lisa (mommymystic) — Thu, 10 Sep 2009 18:05:27 +0000

Wilma, I love this post. I have always thought of integrity like the North Pole and my own inner voice as a compass. When I’ve got the compass pointing in the right direction, I know it, but it’s harder than it sounds, and you can’t really tell from the outside.
I love your two examples, they are oh so relevant. The one with John especially, and so so common for women in particular I think. Thank you