Comments on: My wedding, mum’s death and desires. How far I have I come. http://www.wilmasblog.com/leverage/2008/11/18/my-wedding-mums-death-and-desires-how-far-i-have-i-come/ Doing Life Differently Sat, 13 Mar 2010 14:46:08 -0700 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.5 hourly 1 By: Wilma http://www.wilmasblog.com/leverage/2008/11/18/my-wedding-mums-death-and-desires-how-far-i-have-i-come/#comment-4414 Wilma Fri, 21 Nov 2008 04:24:40 +0000 http://www.wilmasblog.com/?p=428#comment-4414 @Laura. I do agree that life experience gives understanding for the ones that want it and that when I was young I had no hope in hell to know what I was doing. But I did know something was not right. I am only so grateful that I am now gathering the understanding of what is going on and how I can grab that lovely capable woman with her desires that has been hiding for quite a few years. Let us grab that woman, Laura and live indeed from our desires. @Laura. I do agree that life experience gives understanding for the ones that want it and that when I was young I had no hope in hell to know what I was doing. But I did know something was not right.
I am only so grateful that I am now gathering the understanding of what is going on and how I can grab that lovely capable woman with her desires that has been hiding for quite a few years.
Let us grab that woman, Laura and live indeed from our desires.

]]> By: Laura http://www.wilmasblog.com/leverage/2008/11/18/my-wedding-mums-death-and-desires-how-far-i-have-i-come/#comment-4413 Laura Fri, 21 Nov 2008 02:55:48 +0000 http://www.wilmasblog.com/?p=428#comment-4413 In your last post I was not clear about intent, but now, after reading this post, I have translated it into understanding what is important and not letting the little things get in the way of that focus. This seems so much easier as we get older, and see ourselves clearer, since we have better experience with ourselves. Do you really think that at the time of your wedding you were able to reach that, be clear about yourself and your own needs? At my wedding, I didn't understand anything people said to me (although I am sure they were not wishing that I get divorced) but that verbal daze surely coincided with my mental one--of perhaps being all desire but not intent--of understanding what I was doing. Perhaps only after a certain age or living through different experiences can we truly have/reach intent. Maybe our younger selves don't allow it. Maybe deep self-realization only comes after mistaking desires for meaning. Oh no, how am I going to go to sleep now thinking about all of this? In your last post I was not clear about intent, but now, after reading this post, I have translated it into understanding what is important and not letting the little things get in the way of that focus. This seems so much easier as we get older, and see ourselves clearer, since we have better experience with ourselves. Do you really think that at the time of your wedding you were able to reach that, be clear about yourself and your own needs? At my wedding, I didn’t understand anything people said to me (although I am sure they were not wishing that I get divorced) but that verbal daze surely coincided with my mental one–of perhaps being all desire but not intent–of understanding what I was doing.

Perhaps only after a certain age or living through different experiences can we truly have/reach intent. Maybe our younger selves don’t allow it. Maybe deep self-realization only comes after mistaking desires for meaning.

Oh no, how am I going to go to sleep now thinking about all of this?

]]> By: Wilma http://www.wilmasblog.com/leverage/2008/11/18/my-wedding-mums-death-and-desires-how-far-i-have-i-come/#comment-4402 Wilma Tue, 18 Nov 2008 21:18:40 +0000 http://www.wilmasblog.com/?p=428#comment-4402 Yeah Ann-Marie, welcome to the club. Life is even more exciting once I stopped superimposing my own drama onto everything. Who would have guessed! Yeah Ann-Marie, welcome to the club.
Life is even more exciting once I stopped superimposing my own drama onto everything.
Who would have guessed!

]]> By: Ann-Marie http://www.wilmasblog.com/leverage/2008/11/18/my-wedding-mums-death-and-desires-how-far-i-have-i-come/#comment-4401 Ann-Marie Tue, 18 Nov 2008 21:08:40 +0000 http://www.wilmasblog.com/?p=428#comment-4401 Thanks for sharing Wilma. I can now see how easily drama can rule the show if I am not clear on my intent. I too have had occasions where there has been no intent, just lots of 'playing it up for the cameras'. Afterwards I'm left disappointed and full of regret and the ironic thing is that I created it. Thanks Wilma for pointing out that intent is the access to a fulfilling, happy life. ;0) Thanks for sharing Wilma. I can now see how easily drama can rule the show if I am not clear on my intent. I too have had occasions where there has been no intent, just lots of ‘playing it up for the cameras’. Afterwards I’m left disappointed and full of regret and the ironic thing is that I created it. Thanks Wilma for pointing out that intent is the access to a fulfilling, happy life. ;0)

]]> By: Wilma http://www.wilmasblog.com/leverage/2008/11/18/my-wedding-mums-death-and-desires-how-far-i-have-i-come/#comment-4399 Wilma Mon, 17 Nov 2008 21:28:54 +0000 http://www.wilmasblog.com/?p=428#comment-4399 Thanks for your encouragement, Andy. And yes, you and your intent to keep learning is obviously paying off. And your intent about learning is not common. However it is so great to see you and Kim going for it. Thanks for your encouragement, Andy.
And yes, you and your intent to keep learning is obviously paying off.
And your intent about learning is not common.
However it is so great to see you and Kim going for it.

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