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I need to keep going! If I stop I lose.
Oh, how I love having arrived in my Garden of Eden.
When I declared at the beginning of the year that I wanted to eat flowers and move from the city to a rural property with a bigger garden and a wonderful house, I had every intent to make that happen.
I was determined and very sure that that was what I wanted.
Even if it looked touch and go for a while when we didn’t sell our house; sure enough we did arrive at this current wonderful property, which we are now renting for one year.
It was one of the first times in my life that I so intentionally worked with intent and since then I have started to pay it more attention.
After once again reading the Carlos Castaneda books, I got to see even more that intent is the most important driver behind getting your desires happening.
In these series of books Carlos describes his time as an apprentice with a traditional ‘Man of Knowledge’, a Yaqui Indian, who is a hard task master and constantly points out that Carlos is hopelessly ineffective and very sloppy in his behaviors and actions.
He constantly hammers Carlos about unbending intent and powerful actions and he shows Carlos that actions without intent are wasteful and very seldom effective or very productive.
Intent, let alone unbending intent is not an easily understood concept, at least not by me and I got painfully aware of my lack of skills with intent this weekend.
To my shock horror I realized that I, like poor Carlos am hopeless at intent, I am in fact shocking at it and hence my actions are not always as effective or productive as they could be.
I also got a fright at seeing how lacking intent could mean I might NOT get what I desire.
It could mean that although I am having a good time now, this might NOT continue.
Thus I feel very pleased to have found out about lacking intent, kind of in the nick of time.
After living here for one year I do want to continue living like this somewhere else and build my own home.
John has been pointing intent out to me, but I didn’t fully understand what he was on about.
I am doing things aren’t I?
I am enjoying this property and saying this is how I want to continue with my life.
But with the book and John’s hinting, I kind of get what lacking intent means AND what the consequences can be.
I’ll show you what I discovered.
When we arrived on this rural property, you can imagine that I was very proud of myself to have manifested such a feat.
The fact that we don’t own it and only have guardianship for one year didn’t and doesn’t matter.
At least we get to play in nature.
So while we fully enjoy living here, we will have to move on.
Life is not stopping here and my manifesting and desiring are not done yet.
Not until I die actually, but to keep it closer to home not until we got our own well insulated, well designed house, and the garden and the boat shed and so on and so on.
So it does matter that since I have arrived in this Garden of Eden I’ve stopped intentionally acting to further my future desires.
Nowhere is there evidence in my actions that I intend to act upon my desire to go the next step and have the next place show up.
I just sit here.
I haven’t acted to build connections with the locals to find out about the neighborhood, nor have I thought about other things that could benefit our search for land.
You can imagine why uncovering all this was a bit of a shock and to be honest quite annoying.
Here I was, nice and snug, complacent with my achievements and then realizing that without intent the next phase in manifesting my desires is not going to happen.
I haven’t arrived yet.
I am still on the journey.
So the challenge for me is how to develop unbending intent and once again have my actions anchored in my desires.
The challenge is to keep working on the next steps.
The challenge is to stay aware of my desires, keep my focus with my unbending intent and start making it happen and stop wasting any more time.
The next question is of course; “How do I act with that unbending intent and make my actions more productive?”
This is what I’ve gleaned;
- It is important to keep my eyes on the ball and on my desires.
I need to keep my desires alive, because they will become the driver to get me to do things. - So when I answer ‘yes’ to my desire of a well designed and warm home on a rural property in this area, it gets me in action.
- Then I need to regularly check if my daily actions are going towards that desire.
- If I see that my actions are not, then I need to ask myself what am I doing?
That is intent.
- I will prepare more when I do something.
- I think before I act.
- I also will see more opportunities when they present themselves.
The unbending part of the intent is still a bit of a challenge for me.
I am NOT as unbending as I want to be.
I still have moments where I start to waiver, where I wonder how it will work this time and I still doubt that there is another piece like this on earth.
For me the unbending comes with belief and trust that each small step will get me there and that there is another place waiting for us.
I need to really believe that when my desire drives my intent I will know what to do and my actions will somehow be guided.
I realized big time that drifting won’t get me towards another Garden of Eden.
So, every day is a new day and since I caught myself being extremely unintentional, I am intent on practicing unbending intent.
It is all in the noticing, the desire, the focus AND the practice.
I will now firmly keep my focus on my desire, I will question my actions and check if unbending intent is present by asking, “Where am I going with this?”.
Having the unbending intent to have that unbending intent and act effectively actually feels great.
Is anybody going to join me in the unbending intent intent???
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How appropriate Wilma. Your timing couldnt have been better. Thank you for that. Not only have I benefited from your comments but I have someone who could get some massive clarity from it. I will be sharing.
i have been running my happiness club now for 5 months…first there were 10 people..then 6…then 4….then 70!!!..ha….yes that is funny….lol….
here is one members feedback after he left the session with intention…..sent you the photos by email…dont think can includet hem here…
yes Wilma i identify totally with you ….and have also seen sometimes what i get is even better than first intended….many smiles of joy…
Pat
the letter…..
Hello Pat!!!!
Hey thanks very much for last Fri night session. Really enjoyed it…
Well I went to the Pat Mesiti 3 day event and it great. Learnt a few tricks, and met some stunning people. (Old and new friends).
Now, as a result of your session I set out with intent!!! It was incredible what happened…. New people were magnetised to me throughout the 3 days… Fantastic people who were beneficial to both parties ongoing. As soon as one went, kaboom along came another to say hello.
Now it gets even better…
I went to Ellerslie races on Tues for the Melbourne Cup with intent and met so many people it is beyond belief!!!! All girls which is a bonus of course… I had a camera and just asked stunning dressed ladies if I could take their photo. Every one of them said YES, and I got so many phone numbers, email addresses and kisses my head was spinning….
It was one of THE BEST days in my lifetime Pat!!! The ladies were like iron filings to a magnet!!!! But the best part of it all was so many kissed me for giving them a genuine compliment on how stunning they looked!!! My night ended as I walked one girl out to her car and I said to her she looked gorgeous. She said “Do I? I don’t feel it…” I then said “You truly look a million dollars in that dress”. Then she said “You know I feel a million bucks now that have said that” and she gave me a lovely kiss….
Thanks so much for your encouragement and sharing your go with intent idea!!!!
Joy… Steve Thorpe
@Boyd. That is high praise indeed and fantastic that you intend to send it on.
Thanks Boyd, just what I intended
OH Pat, lovely comment. I know your unbending intention about joy and have followed your journey and how interesting to see where intent takes us.
May you have many more unbending intent moments.
Love Wilma
Hi Wilma. … Huum without intent NOTHING happens in my life. I too reach a destination or achieve a goal and then sit back, pat myself on the back and that’s that. I now realise that it’s a stepping stone to living a really fantastic life. I can have as much desire as I like however it won’t do me an ounce of good without intent driving things forward. Brilliant. Thanks for giving me the clarity, appreciate it.
@ Ann-Marie. Fellow back patter, that is a lovely metaphor, *life is full of stepping stones from one destination to another*.
Very poetic and that for a stats person
Don’t be too hard on yourself, Wilma.
Remember that it really is ok to sit back, relax and enjoy what you so intently manifested so far … that is something I think you are VERY good at! I see lots of people always planning for the next thing, but you embrace what’s in the here and now and relish it! I know you know all of that, but I’m just being a loving friend and reminding you. 
Go sun those buns! Love, Lisa
@ Lisa. You are indeed a friend and thanks for stressing (no pun intended of course
) that it is important to enjoy the moment.
I will and guess what, the sun is shining here too.
No cobbling the lunch today I reckon.
Hey, that was timely, friend!
Great to be alerted to that ‘unbending” intent Wilma.
Recently changes in our business team made me question if my intentions for the business were actually intentions that are viable, achievable and practical. Time for reflection was called for and with the language and understanding I have gained from Life Leverage I managed an extremely difficult transition with relative ease….and my intentions in tact. I have now been rewarded with possibilities that our team will be strengthened beyond my expectations coming into fruition and my intentions have been validated! Thank you for your encouragement and words of wisdom and I will enjoy sharing as my unbending intentions manifest.
Hi Wilma – thank goodness your place is chilly – it reminds you of what more you want at the same time as it inspires you with what you’ve done. You’re right – there’s a knack to being happy and grateful in NOW, and desiring the next thing, simultaneously. Bit like riding a bike, I suppose. Now, where are my training wheels… Love, Kath
@Nicola. Congrats on your *unbending* intent and the great results you and *it* achieved.
Funny, for me *unbending* used to have such a unpleasant ring to it, like not flexible or something.
However language is a funny thing and how meaning of words can change one’s outlook.
Let’s continue to be *unbending*, hey Nic.
PS However I have to add that Pilates (http://physiopilates.co.nz/) is corrupting my unbendy body, there I bend more these days.
@Kath. Haha, classic, well we can train together.
But you are right, multitasking in that department is a skill.
Talk soon, Wilma