Stop Mind Garbage. Let the heart play, make relationships blossom.

I might have an above average IQ, but the garbage my mind has come up with is astounding!

This so called ‘intelligent mind’ sabotages my life, it ruins my day, my life and relationships if I let it and it should be stopped!

Watch this mind and heart playing their respective parts in these scenarios.

See who you’d rather follow!

Here is heart having a good time wishing to live in a pretty house in a very sheltered private spot away from city lights and city noises, dreaming and drooling.

Mind has no idea how to get there, it doesn’t like having no plan and starts stirring the pot, especially when heart wants to relax.
So when I want to sit down and have a great relaxing weekend, mind starts;
“Don’t sit there, relaxing and dreaming; you have a place to find.
Go and make a straight forward plan how to get a place like that, set your goals, search the internet and keep going. Make it happen!”

While mind is carrying on like this, heart starts to feel like this.

Heart doesn’t mind making plans, but the properties it sees on the internet don’t appeal at all>
It doesn’t think mind’s plan is the only way to go and the slave driving tactics of mind is making heart sink.

Heart thinks;
“If mind would just shut up for a minute or two, I could recover from its stressful antics, I could bring the spirits back up again by trusting that all is well and that we don’t have to know every ‘dreaded how’ right now.
At least the weekend would have been a loving, relaxing, invigorating and productive one.

But no, mind continues to wear heart out, until heart gives in and says; “Okay, you go for it”.
Mind is in seventh heaven, and starts attacking another heart, thinking; “Hearts need this, they are cute but soo impractical.”
So here’s goes;
“John, should we not DO something, like regularly ringing real estate agents?”
“John, shouldn’t we be driving around Northland again this weekend, seeing we haven’t got anything yet? I know we need a rest, but I cannot relax until I KNOW.”
“John, why do you tell everybody we are looking, they are all here in Auckland, what do they know? Just work a bit harder on it yourself, will you? And why are YOU so sure we will find a great place? Do you think you are God or something?”

AND here come the problems we all are familiar with.

Heart sees it coming but is too worn out by mind.
Before you know it, stressed mind not knowing what to do next, still won’t let heart help and reeks havoc with its panic.
All the fun is taken out of life, all the love disappears out of the relationship, nothing but garbage is created and no miracle stands a chance.

Lucky for me a miracle did happen and John and I are now living in this Garden of Eden, still lovingly together.

However mind is very well trained and doesn’t give up that easily.

So although heart and mind are now happily living in this Garden of Eden and are
enjoying the starry nights, the bright moon, the birds and whatever else nature can do to delight us, mind starts again!

You can’t believe it, can you but here mind goes again;

“Okay, now we (note the ‘WE’) cracked this Garden of Eden thing, shouldn’t we worry about how we get this E-learning show on the road?”
“Also, it is all good and well living out in the country but with the petrol prices so high, is that actually a good thing? Before I could walk to the shops.
And how to meet people in Auckland now we are so far away?”

Heart is ecstatic about living here. It loves every moment and agrees with taking this week’s afternoons off to explore the neighborhood.
It loved having a swim in the ocean and buying the organic compost, the seeds and little plants.
Heart loves John and our co creation of this Garden of Eden and having so much joy and fun, knowing all is well and a bigger plan is in action.

Mind loves it too BUT the elation is short lived and now mind wants to know the future and frets when swimming and buying all the plant stuff, thinking “what if, what if” and making all the fun and enjoyment and John’s trust in things wrong.
And before I knew it mind is causing panic, I fret about moving so far away from the city, about money, petrol prices, friends so far away, food supplies, what if John or I get sick, fall over in the paddock, drown in the river and THIS HAS TO STOP!

You can see that all this experience is showing me that it is worthwhile to focus on stopping this flow of mind garbage and play from the heart.
That will make my life, my relationships and me blossom.

The big thing I’m learning is to play from the heart.
We are not taught to play from the heart and the intelligence of heart is grossly misunderstood.

As a start here are 4 ways to start experiencing what it means to play from the heart.

1. Sit down with somebody and be totally present. How can you be loved when you are not there? Not being present is a relationship killer.
2. Notice what your heart says as you do ‘nothing’ and just be present and listen without judgments, opinions and well meaning advice.
   You can only be loving and lovable when your heart is showing up.
3. When you are tired, feeling down and unmotivated, notice, stop what you are doing and check if you are actually having fun doing what you are doing? Make sure that as soon as you can, you do something you enjoy. How can you be good company when your heavy energy is dragging other people down?
4. Sing in the shower, loud and passionate, without worrying about the neighbors.

Now let’s see how this will change your day, your life and your relationships at home, at work and with family and friends.
Now I am off to play with John.