Comments on: Relationships work . . . . 5 ways to see if yours can too. http://www.wilmasblog.com/leverage/2008/09/02/ways-to-make-your-relationships-work/ Being a strong basecamp Fri, 30 Jul 2010 02:43:42 -0600 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.5 hourly 1 By: Wilma http://www.wilmasblog.com/leverage/2008/09/02/ways-to-make-your-relationships-work/#comment-3915 Wilma Thu, 11 Sep 2008 23:44:50 +0000 http://www.wilmasblog.com/leverage/alignment/2008/09/02/ways-to-make-your-relationships-work/#comment-3915 @Malcolm. Lovely distinction between fate and faith. I love this description; "They come together to create something new, they are defined not by what happens to them by fate but by what they commit themselves to do.” If we only knew the power of what we choose and how we choose to be, who would choose fate and suffering. Malcolm, I know what you are choosing, and thanks for a great comment. @Malcolm.
Lovely distinction between fate and faith.
I love this description; “They come together to create something new, they are defined not by what happens to them by fate but by what they commit themselves to do.”
If we only knew the power of what we choose and how we choose to be, who would choose fate and suffering.
Malcolm, I know what you are choosing, and thanks for a great comment.

]]> By: Wilma http://www.wilmasblog.com/leverage/2008/09/02/ways-to-make-your-relationships-work/#comment-3914 Wilma Thu, 11 Sep 2008 23:42:02 +0000 http://www.wilmasblog.com/leverage/alignment/2008/09/02/ways-to-make-your-relationships-work/#comment-3914 As everybody can see, I have been quiet as we have been disconnected from the world during our move to rural New Zealand. The move in cyberspace didn't go as smoothly as we desired. However we are once again back in cyberspace to enjoy your comments. @ Fiona; great to hear that you connected with this week's post. Of course I know where you are at, you are sooo transparent :) . Cannot wait to hear what your observations have brought about. As everybody can see, I have been quiet as we have been disconnected from the world during our move to rural New Zealand.
The move in cyberspace didn’t go as smoothly as we desired. However we are once again back in cyberspace to enjoy your comments.

@ Fiona; great to hear that you connected with this week’s post. Of course I know where you are at, you are sooo transparent :) . Cannot wait to hear what your observations have brought about.

]]> By: Malcolm Macnaught http://www.wilmasblog.com/leverage/2008/09/02/ways-to-make-your-relationships-work/#comment-3907 Malcolm Macnaught Wed, 03 Sep 2008 05:24:14 +0000 http://www.wilmasblog.com/leverage/alignment/2008/09/02/ways-to-make-your-relationships-work/#comment-3907 Here are some wise words on RELATIONSHIPS from sources I can name for anyone interested: "What’s a contract, a contract is an agreement between two or more individuals, each pursuing their own interest, and they come together to make an exchange for mutual benefit. A COVENANT is something different. In a covenant, two or more individuals, each respecting the dignity and the integrity of the other, come together in a bond of love and trust, to share their interests, sometimes even to share their lives, by pledging faithfulness to one another, to do together what neither can do alone." and "There is a covenant of fate and there is a covenant of faith, and they are different things. A group can be bound in the covenant of fate when the members of that group suffer together, or when they face a common enemy. They have shared tears, they have shared fears, they have shared responsibility. They huddle together for comfort and mutual protection. That is a covenant of fate. A covenant of faith is different. That is made by people who share dreams, aspirations, ideals. They don't need a common enemy, because they have a common hope. They come together to create something new. They are defined not by what happens to them by fate but by what they commit themselves to do." i.e. A strong relationship is a Covenant of Faith. Here are some wise words on RELATIONSHIPS from sources I can name for anyone interested: “What’s a contract, a contract is an agreement between two or more individuals, each pursuing their own interest, and they come together to make an exchange for mutual benefit. A COVENANT is something different. In a covenant, two or more individuals, each respecting the dignity and the integrity of the other, come together in a bond of love and trust, to share their interests, sometimes even to share their lives, by pledging faithfulness to one another, to do together what neither can do alone.” and “There is a covenant of fate and there is a covenant of faith, and they are different things. A group can be bound in the covenant of fate when the members of that group suffer together, or when they face a common enemy. They have shared tears, they have shared fears, they have shared responsibility. They huddle together for comfort and mutual protection. That is a covenant of fate. A covenant of faith is different. That is made by people who share dreams, aspirations, ideals. They don’t need a common enemy, because they have a common hope. They come together to create something new. They are defined not by what happens to them by fate but by what they commit themselves to do.”

i.e. A strong relationship is a Covenant of Faith.

]]> By: fiona http://www.wilmasblog.com/leverage/2008/09/02/ways-to-make-your-relationships-work/#comment-3905 fiona Tue, 02 Sep 2008 10:11:23 +0000 http://www.wilmasblog.com/leverage/alignment/2008/09/02/ways-to-make-your-relationships-work/#comment-3905 thanks WIlma.. this is timely for me (you're amazing - how do you do that :) ) ... so I shall step back and observe more... and listen without judgement (and try to resist being 'right')... thanks thanks WIlma.. this is timely for me (you’re amazing – how do you do that :) ) … so I shall step back and observe more… and listen without judgement (and try to resist being ‘right’)… thanks

]]> By: Wilma http://www.wilmasblog.com/leverage/2008/09/02/ways-to-make-your-relationships-work/#comment-3899 Wilma Tue, 02 Sep 2008 01:19:00 +0000 http://www.wilmasblog.com/leverage/alignment/2008/09/02/ways-to-make-your-relationships-work/#comment-3899 Hi Kerry I know, it is very hard to let go of something you always "knew" as the right thing to do. And we all belief that working hard will get us the rewards in the end and yes at what cost has never been told. Good on you to start to see it for what it is and letting it go will bring up fear and feeling unsafe and that is very uncomfortable in the beginning. It is then that we need support and someone to edge us on. Love Wilma Hi Kerry
I know, it is very hard to let go of something you always “knew” as the right thing to do. And we all belief that working hard will get us the rewards in the end and yes at what cost has never been told. Good on you to start to see it for what it is and letting it go will bring up fear and feeling unsafe and that is very uncomfortable in the beginning. It is then that we need support and someone to edge us on.
Love Wilma

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