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Opinions, opinions, don’t let them cramp your style.
If investigated a year ago I would have denied that I had lots of opinions.
And if by chance some would have been uncovered I would have denied responsibility and blamed my parents 
.
No more denying though, I’ve seen the light and the fact that I have opinions which hugely influence my actions!
Having gone unnoticed for much longer some of those opinions could have made me lose out on great health care and a supple body.
Lucky for me I have a healthy dose of curiosity and being a ‘yes’ to some of John’s invitations has helped to unstuck some of my opinions about health care, thank goodness.
Until now my body has very seldom given me grief, so in my opinionated mind such things as aerobics, Pilates and having massages were all an indulgence that wouldn’t add much to my health and thus were not important.
In my opinion I didn’t need it and it was only for a certain type of people anyway.
But now sitting behind the computer and having had a shoulder injury I started to notice some aches and pains.
They started to cultivate an invested interest in staying fit so I can do all the exciting things such as kayaking, having a Garden of Eden, sailing and living a good life – all things that require, dare I say it, exercise and health care.
However I still didn’t think of doing something, and wasn’t everybody complaining these days about something as a result of sitting behind the computer?
However despite all this, I got to receive regular massages and although of course I still maintained I actually didn’t need them, I did love them.
The turning point came when I had a sore back on my massage appointment day and the massage actually helped. Nobody could have been more surprised than I.
Hmmm, that changed an opinion or two right there and then.
Next I got slowly roped into doing exercises.
I have always regarded gym as the epitome of torture. To willingly exercise yourself into a stupor and near death wasn’t my thing so you can guess my opinions about ‘work out’.
Right, no way Jose.
But again the universe and my curiosity worked wonders and one day I found myself traipsing behind John into a Pilates studio.
Now Pilates was conveniently clumped with aerobics and gym so I sat myself down comfortably on a swish ball ready to watch John being tortured and curious why he would even think about doing such a thing.
But it didn’t look like torture at all, these were great exercises and before I knew it I was also on hands and knees doing some great stretches and what not and losing another opinion fast.
So now I have massages and Pilates exercises, my body is feeling great AND my opinions have become healthier too.
Thanks goodness that I am a “yes” underneath that opinionated self.
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Wilma, also to remember, keeping your face toned and radiant is as important as the body. Releasing the tensions held in the face also shifts emotional patterns which I guess translates to opinions too!
Oh Lynda, that is so true. I loved your facial radiance treatment where you massaged my whole face and head. That was such a wonderful experience too and it gets so seldom done.
For people who are interested in this, I higly recommend this as well at facial radiance.co.nz at http://www.balancemassage.co.nz/About_Us.htm#Facial
Thank you so much for your wonderful writings Wilma. You make me smile…..and think! Love Nicola
@Nicola. It is lovely to hear that you enjoy my writing. I love acknowledgement and as you are the wonderful person of the Pilates Studio I want to say thank you in return for keeping me supple.
John and I are doing our exercises very regularly and I love how they are saving my bacon….. as I shhhhh slump behind my computer most times…..
Man I can relate big time to this one in regards to being highly opinionated around the gym. After going flat tack at the gym for a few months I began to drop off, I became angry about the pain every time I lifted a weight, an opinion was born in my mind over this time that “this isn’t fair and life should be easier.”
So for a couple of months I only did half of what my plan was, never increased my weights and grizzled about that fact I wasn’t seeing results.
I read in a book recently about creating new beliefs around anything in your life. The book itself was on trading psychology while in the markets.
Anyway its starts with having (1) thought or desire then (2) creating a goal to work towards (3) create a rule to live by so you don’t deviate from the new belief you are creating.
In my case it was (1) desire: increase fitness, burn all my fat and increase muscle. (2) to increase all weights by 1/3 by the end of 4 weeks. (3) My rule: I will go 5 days a week regardless of how I feel, do my full program each session, and each week I will increase my weights up a notch.
Any conflicting thoughts I have about the gym that stem from my old belief about life being easier, I refer to the rule I am committed to. The old way of thinking is disrupted and with constantly re-directing your thoughts towards your new rule, beliefs begin to change. The internal conflict goes away and action becomes natural. Its a bit like having two buckets and the old one begins to tip into the new one. Energy is taken out of the old one and focused into the new. Eventually you’ll have a nice full bucket and the old empty one. Any internal conflict means that the old one still needs emptying. Eventually, we will have a new clear belief where we operate automatically.
I have found the now I WANT to go to the gym more than I don’t. The voice sometimes pops up when experiencing pain on the machines. Refer back to your rule and challenge the old thoughts.
Think of all the places where we operate automatically (many of them not useful) and imagine operating automatically in the direction we want to go.
That excites me.
@Blair. quote; “Think of all the places where we operate automatically (many of them not useful) and imagine operating automatically in the direction we want to go.
That excites me.”
Yep, what you wrote excites me too, it is possible to change, I love your bucket metaphor. Cool comment.