The scary power of the love-hate relationship game.

I am so surprised that I am manifesting anything good at all.
As manifesting relates to our thoughts and how we feel about things I am honestly surprised that not everything I have created falls apart or goes up in a puff of smoke as soon as it appears.

I have realized that I am playing a dangerous love-hate relationship game that results in inconsistent and careless thoughts, which is more destructive than I imagined.

I can see this inconsistency everywhere around me, so I know I am not alone in this.

To demonstrate this inconsistency let’s look at how you and I treat the computer, the love-hate relationship game that goes on there.

The computer is just a tool and as such it has added a lot of value to my communication ability.
Thanks to the computer I now have instant access to a lot of people.
I can see photos of all the new babies from friends and family, I can skype my sister in Holland and I can access my favourite French chansons I lost with all the moving around that I have done.
I even found a precious friend I studied with ages ago and have a buddy in Melbourne.
I can also do valuable work, the computer provides me with the means to make a living doing something I am passionate about and I can publish my writing.

So in this mood I obviously love my computer and have it contribute hugely to my life.
On these days the computer is a manifestor of great stuff.

Then in the same breath I complain that I spend too much time on the computer, I even accuse it of having me enslaved to its key board and being addictive.
I complain about how impossible it is to deal with all the emails and information that I can access and how it ruins my health.
I blame the computer when I feel guilty that I haven’t emailed my sister in weeks .
I use my bad attitude to the computer to decline doing interesting things such as e-learning, saying I am already spending too much time on the damn thing as it is.

So in this mood I obviously now hate my computer and I stop taking advantage of what it has to offer. On these days my realtionship with my computer dominates me.

To have such strong opposing feelings about an object is weird to say the least.
The computer is not good or bad.
It is in who I am being around it, loving or hateful that manifests this inconsistent reality which baffles the Universe and stops me consistently manifestating good things.

It becomes really scary when I realize that how I relate to the computer can be a reflection of how I treat teh rest of life and what I manifest there.

If I am stingy, greedy and fearful I probably will be inclined to spend a lot of time on the computer out of fear of missing something.
Of course the fear then makes me feel resentful of the time I spend on it and that reflects in me bad mouthing the thing.

If I am generous, not coming from lack and fear, I see the opportunities it offers, I don’t resent the time I spent on it and I can leave it without feeling I am missing something or haven’t done enough.
I enjoy my time on it, I won’t feel dominated and I will tell how wonderful the computer is.

Here is another manifestation.
We all have heard people complaining about going on holiday!
They tell you that they actually don’t have time to go, there is too much to do!
You see them getting stressed to get everything ready and before your very eyes their anticipation of going on holiday has turned into overwhelm, panic and stress instead of joy.

So they and the universe have thought up a fantastic holiday and when it is delivered the complaints start about not having the time and how time off is actually NOT wanted right now.

Hello, hello!!!!!

How can we manifest a great life when we constantly see-saw destructively between love and hate, joy and stress?
It is quite obvious how destructive it is when you look at it.

And the good news is…….???
We do it with everything, at least there is some consistency here.
Look at relationships. We want a partner and then we complain that they don’t wash the dishes right, they take up our time when we want to read a book or they don’t make enough money.

Look at work. We want work to earn money and in the same breath we resent the time we are at work, we don’t like the boss or we don’t like the work itself very much.

Look at where we live. We in New Zealand like living in this clean and safe country and at the same time we complain about its remoteness, lack of shopping or the rain.

Most of the time things are never good enough and as we come from things are wrong we are in the love-hate relationship game that stops us from receiving all that is on offer.

Sometimes we don’t even see what good things we manifested because we are busy manifesting what is wrong with what was manifested right in the first place.

What …..? If you don’t get that read it again;
we don’t even see what good things we manifested because we are busy manifesting what is wrong with what was manifested right in the first place.

Eckhart Tolle and Esther and Jerry Hicks say this about manifesting;

“Joyfully allowing and appreciating is a very significant part of the creation process. If we simply focus on loving what we have or where we are at and don’t constantly look at what is wrong, we would know that the Universe would continually drop an abundance of delicious manifestations on our doorsteps for the rest of our lives.
The key to receiving all we have ever asked for is to relax into the perfection of this present moment and let all the good in.”

And that is what we prevent with our love-hate relationship game.
Hmmmm.