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Being peaceful is the real power behind living in the ‘Now’.
I hear more and more people who seem to know about manifesting, talking about being peaceful.
I am getting the feeling that being peaceful is very important for ‘The power of Now’ thing too.
But ‘being peaceful’ is a hard place to get at and that is not good news when it is seemingly so important.
Is it me or the circumstances that prevent me from being peacefully in the ‘Now’?
I found out that it is me and peacefulness has got nothing to do with circumstances.
All this came about while having coffee with a friend last week.
Friend’s partner’s car got broken into and in that same week she found out that her work contract was coming to an end. As a result their plans to extend the mortgage to build their new home were canned.
You can imagine that there wasn’t a lot of being peaceful going on there.
And how could it? Who could sit there, smiling serenely and saying; “Thanks Universe, they were great moves”.
But coming back to ‘The power of Now’ and being peaceful.
What is happening in a situation like this is this.
Goodbye dream, welcome grindstone.
‘The Power of Now’ will stay a secret . . . as elusive as that precious being peaceful.
The ‘Law of Attraction’ goes out the window and in comes ‘Force and working hard’ to compensate for the losses.
And that is that . . .
We both agreed that being peaceful was very hard in those circumstances . . . but what would happen if we could?
Then we got talking some more.
Do we actually see evidence that peacefulness is getting us anywhere?
So I thought hard to come up with an example.
And thank goodness I found one.
This year I promised my daughter a trip to Vietnam for her 21st birthday.
However because of certain circumstances I feel it is not the best time to go.
I even thought about postponing the trip but didn’t dare to do that.
We so both want to go and she so deserves it.
And as I don’t contribute financially at the moment I was secretly fretting about that too and thinking about ways of creating an income that would cover the trip.
Blogging was an option as people seem to earn money that way, but after a frantic period of searching the Net and seeing how complicated professional blogging is, that was out. Then I was thinking very hard about how to market the course so I felt I was at least contributing to that.
As I have no idea about marketing that was way too hard and was making me feel really stupid and ineffective.
Then I thought to become really frugal and save money left right and center.
John saw all this happening and at some point he said; ‘Give it all up. Just accept you are going, the money is not an issue and don’t force anything.”
Boy, was that hard.
But I could see that most of my money making schemes were nonsense and nothing was helping very much.
What would help was to stop losing energy with my focus on futile money making schemes.
What would help was my normal going about my life in the ‘Now’ and looking forward to our trip rather than making it a problem.
When I finally reached that peaceful stage unexpected things happened.
I got a good airline deal which was a lot cheaper than the ones I looked at before.
And my brother sent me money to cover the airfares.
Writing this down I still think this is so weird and how much more proof do I need in my life.
Focus on being peaceful in the ‘Now’, stop fretting . . . but I seem to need strategies to do that.
I so require people around me who support my dreams and at the same time learn strategies to get to that elusive peaceful place.
On my own I am a lost cause, I can so see that.
My friend and I decided there and then that learning strategies about peacefulness is an important thing so you can deal with upsets.
That is what I meant; it is all about us and it’s got nothing to do with circumstances.
We agreed to have coffee again, soon, as a strategy.
And you?
Are you lucky enough to have learnt strategies to get back to peacefulness if you err towards fretting, worrying and taking futile action . . .
and do you use them . . .
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I first recognized the power of being peaceful, when sailing in stormy weather. It made such a difference to sailing when I was peaceful inside and every thing was crashing around outside.
I learnt strategies for being peaceful when running bus tours. I would be going for it from 6am to 11pm, with passengers asking me questions or needing my attention all day long. I would send them on bush walks, then retire to the back of the bus for a short snooze and some quiet time. It was magic, leaving me refreshed and ready to go again. I still regularly take a 20 minute nap during the day to restore my peacefulness.
Other strategies I have for being peacefully in the present is our morning coffee, a daily 10 minute meditation, I call “creating my day” and at the end of the day, talking over the day with Wilma as we go for a walk or doing Tai Chi.
Being a water person, my absolute favourite is going for a swim in the sea and this is the best if I’m feeling very troubled or just had a challenging conversation.
Now to get on with another peaceful day.
John
I still think the only catch with these strategies is to actually know that I am not peaceful. The tragedy is that I not even notice that I am trashing around and losing my peacefulness. It is when I hear myself rant and rave and John reflects to me that I am losing it that I then can start using the strategies that work for me.
That is definitley not sleeping, it is talking and going over the same thing again and again until it clears…….John’s strategy for that is wearing earmuffs……
You brought a few tears to my eyes. Yes that’s a girl thing…ha!! Yes i will move forward today in peace knowing i will be served as i have served. I am so glad you have each other for you are perfect.
Oh Pat, going on an unmarked path as you do, creating from nothing is courageous and takes a lot of trust.
To stay peaceful on a path like that is an art and in my eyes not easy to master.
Who can stay peaceful all the time when walking an unmarked path in the jungle?
But you are very well on the way to mastery walking trustfully and peacefully where not many have gone before.
I salut you for that courage….
Hi Wilma,
A strategy can be to say: “I am peaceful” (even if you’re not feeling that way), rephrasing what you wrote: “On my own I am a lost cause”. I don’t agree that you are a lost cause on your own, how can you be? (I haven’t totally realised this myself, but it comes up as I write this). Also it is wonderful to have friends and inspiring people around me to help me re-mind.
Bertie
Haivng people around me who can bring me back to peacefulness feels a bit like having training wheels. Hopefully one day I can discard the training wheels and I have no doubts actually that I can, but until then I am keeping them….:)
Having you share your strategy about saying to yourself “I am peaceful” is a great training wheel, as is your encouragement that nobody is a lost cause…
It all adds……
Great to have you back from your overseas trip….
I am peaceful because my thoughts, words and deeds are absolutely one and the same.I have limited desires and i am satisfied with what i have. I am confident enough to resolve the differences amicably.I love all.
It’s wonderful to have an interaction of this type.
“I have limited desires and i am satisfied with what i have.”
This is how I feel also… I was thinking today how I remember really peaceful times in my life. How satisfied I felt. Simple desires.
Then, today I wondered, am I wasting my time? I thought and came up with NO! It is just where I am at today!
This day will lead to something next…
@Linda. It is a real trick to not look what you have, but how satisfied it can make you feel what you have. Every day will lead to something and peacefulness also means letting that unfold without knowing exactly how. That is a skill and I am learning because I find it very useful.
Thanks for your visit.