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Do I want an easy life or not?
Having a cleaner is bliss.
But you won’t believe how much of a mission it was to get me one.
Something in me refused to give up the hard life I had created for myself with a full time job, supporting an upcoming business, wanting a social life with relaxing weekends and a clean house full of clean clothes.
It was like this.
After a busy week when I still had my job; we sit in bed on Sunday morning sipping coffee.
Then a voice, my voice snarls to John; “Fine for you to slouch around in bed” followed by a big sigh.
John continues drinking his coffee, still thinking all is well until my voice snarls again: “If you stay in bed all day I can’t change and wash the sheets. We have to get up.”
The rest of the Sunday a bad witch takes over, who cleans and thinks it is all for everybody’s good. But one day John takes charge of his own good and suggests a cleaner.
That however hits a brick wall.
“Why do you think I am doing it all myself?”.
John actually would like to know that, but doesn’t get the dialogue he would find useful.
“I can use the money better myself than giving it to a cleaner”.
This one is a classic and I am still cringing when I realize I honestly said this one. “What is there to clean for her, I do it all myself anyway. And I cannot let somebody else clean our toilet??!!”
“She doesn’t know how to clean like I do, and by the way is it not a bit snobbish to have a cleaner when you are living in such a small house?”
It seems the bad witch was well and truly in control.
But John didn’t get fazed and continued to enjoy his Sundays although he had to get up earlier than he wanted.
And then one day he got through to me and I realised I wasn’t having much fun and he didn’t appreciate my cleaning antics at all anyway. Nobody won and all I had to do was spare a few bucks for a cleaner. He also had a woman in mind, she lived right next door. So off he trotted with me in tow, as I couldn’t possibly ask that woman to clean my house. She might be offended and for me agreeing is one thing, doing it was another.
But of course the woman said “yes” and we had a cleaner.
That Sunday I worked harder than ever; she couldn’t possibly think we were dirty and I still couldn’t decide what to let her clean. So she arrived in a house that was spick and span and when she asked what she was supposed to clean I chickened out and told her to do whatever she thought necessary. But I was in luck, she treated our house as her own and off she went doing her own routine and cleaning very well.
It was amazing how quickly I got used to the luxury and how quickly I found another reason to chase John out of bed on Sundays.
I wonder when he comes up with a gardener.
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I have a housecleaner and a gardener. I thoroughly enjoy having my time to enjoy my home and my kids, and also am honored to be helping someone else have a job they enjoy….
Well done, you clever woman. You are so right not to waste time on things that can be done by somebody else. What a great way to look at it as creating a propserous flow for you AND other people……
Hmmmm, cleaner, gardener, what else????
Good work Wilma and a great comment from D.Lisa. I guess if someone is willing to do it they are getting something they need. You are contributing to someone elses prosperity by hiring them to do that work. Its funny how Monicas Dad works in an office but if you asked him what he enjoyed, gardening would be up there. He used to garden for a lady years ago after work and he did it for years. I guess he was getting paid to do something he enjoyed. Personally I cant see how someone enjoys cleaning but each to their own.
Great point too about Mon’s Dad. It shows how little we are actually allowing ourselves to do what we like and to do what we are naturally good at. It seems that the whole ‘work ethic’ has taken away the sense of propserity of enjoying what you do.
Funny that you say that you don’t enjoy cleaning. In the beginning the idea of having a cleaner felt like having someone else doing my dirty work and that that was wrong. But John said once; “there is no dirty work, there is only the wrong person doing the wrong job”.
Thank you Wilma, you had both Ian and me laughing out loud, reading your cleaning blog!
I’ve spend the last 1/2 year working part-time in a Cafe where a lot of the work constitutes cleaning. And yes, it’s brought in some money, but I’m getting to realise that I’m just running my own version of the scarcity model: I can’t possibly earn money doing something I adore doing, which is healing/giving Reiki – who would pay for THAT?
It’s like a deeply engrained belief, that in order to DESERVE money, it’s got to be earned sweating and slogging away…otherwise it’s somehow cheating and doing it at somebody elses costs…how weird is that?
So, I’m down to one day a week at the Cafe and the next step is a healing room in our house!!
Hi Wilma
I’ve had a cleaner for years. In the beginning I felt as you did, but it doesn’t take long for you to realise how great it is to have someone else do those tasks. I use a franchise cleaning company and recently the owner sold to another person who is not such a good cleaner, so consequently I’m looking for a new cleaner. Do you think your neighbour would be interested?
Ylia, you champ to realise all that! There is a woman on our course who does Reiki with horses, amazing and so wonderful.
You will fill your room with clients now you desire it!
Good on you, Sue.
What is it with us that we cannot do what we like and feel we have to do the hard slog as Ylia just mentioned as well.
However it looks like we might smarten up a bit……..
Hi Wilma,
How did you know we were hesitating to hire a “werkster”? We needed not much but just something to be convinced and you gave it to us by you blog. Thanks! We can’t ask the lady next door to do the job because she herself has a cleaner but she possibly can show us the way to find one.
Hey Toon, pleasure to be of service and to support you in having more time to play golf all over Europe. Have you found a buyer for Crusoe – the wonderful sailing yacht as per our lifestyle-sailing website – yet amongst your prosperous friends? With a cleaner (werkster in Holland) you would also have more time to go sailing with your friends who buy this great yacht. Just a thought.