http://www.wilmasblog.com/leverage/2007/02/21/is-there-hope-for-mums-yet/ Being a strong basecamp Fri, 30 Jul 2010 02:43:42 -0600 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.5 hourly 1 http://www.wilmasblog.com/leverage/2007/02/21/is-there-hope-for-mums-yet/#comment-13 Wilma Sun, 04 Mar 2007 05:50:03 +0000 http://www.wilmasblog.com/general/2007/02/26/is-there-hope-for-mums-yet/#comment-13 Dearest Carla, thanks so much for sharing your mother experience. Isn't it funny how we get put into a mother role and if it doesn't fit we don't fit. It is really hard not to give in and feel bad about being who you are. It is great to get encouragement from you to persist in being who I am, in the end we will all shine. I read about your story going to India, a real experience... I do appreciate your feedback, lots of love and hugs from me and John of course. Dearest Carla, thanks so much for sharing your mother experience. Isn’t it funny how we get put into a mother role and if it doesn’t fit we don’t fit. It is really hard not to give in and feel bad about being who you are. It is great to get encouragement from you to persist in being who I am, in the end we will all shine. I read about your story going to India, a real experience… I do appreciate your feedback, lots of love and hugs from me and John of course.

]]> http://www.wilmasblog.com/leverage/2007/02/21/is-there-hope-for-mums-yet/#comment-8 Carla in California Fri, 02 Mar 2007 22:02:37 +0000 http://www.wilmasblog.com/general/2007/02/26/is-there-hope-for-mums-yet/#comment-8 Hi Wilma ... finally got around to catching up on all the fine info you and John have sent me. ... just wanted to comment on "Hope for Mums Yet", since my children are now 43, 41, 38 and 21. I had a difficult relationship with my mother (a single parent), who was controlling and had stifling expectations; therefore I made a conscious choice not to treat my own children the same way. I found that when they were younger, they did indeed have a view of me that conformed more with society's censure of my irregularities, but that over the years, as I persisted with my own growth and encouraged theirs, they have all come to be close and caring friends. They all tell me they love me and treat me respectfully; they listen to my advice and sometimes even ask for it! I'm delighted to have such good friends as my family ... just as I'm happy that my extended family contains good friends like you and John! love and hugs, Carla Hi Wilma … finally got around to catching up on all the fine info you and John have sent me. … just wanted to comment on “Hope for Mums Yet”, since my children are now 43, 41, 38 and 21. I had a difficult relationship with my mother (a single parent), who was controlling and had stifling expectations; therefore I made a conscious choice not to treat my own children the same way. I found that when they were younger, they did indeed have a view of me that conformed more with society’s censure of my irregularities, but that over the years, as I persisted with my own growth and encouraged theirs, they have all come to be close and caring friends. They all tell me they love me and treat me respectfully; they listen to my advice and sometimes even ask for it! I’m delighted to have such good friends as my family … just as I’m happy that my extended family contains good friends like you and John! love and hugs, Carla

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