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Since I’ve been living in Waipu, in rural New Zealand my world has shrunk and my reality has changed considerably.
Talk about the simple life, I am currently the epitome
of simplicity and loving it.
I know simplicity is a hot topic at present and I feel very trendy, however even if it wasn’t trendy I would go for it. Shrinking down life is fantastic and my reality is outrageous.
I have gained so much by letting go.
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Even at present when the whole world seems to be in turmoil and upset about one thing or another, I truck along in my beautiful world, loving every minute of it.
To arrive at a simple life is far from easy, at least it wasn’t for me.
It is the question; “Is there another way to do this?” that has kept me on the road to simple living.
We all know about busy.
It’s a constant complaint women have and yet I ask myself “Are we really that busy?”
I mean, are we really as overworked and overwhelmed as we say we are?
This is for loyal women, for those loyal women stuck in relationships.
Let me tell you, your relationships won’t last, even with all the loyalty you can muster.
Get out! With velocity.
It is a myth that we women can talk well about anything and everything as by birthright.
I mean we can chat very well but what about that real talking, that real valuable sharing that will get us somewhere?
I don’t think we do it naturally; I personally had to learn how to do that kind of real talking.
I have a real fear of going into the unknown, which is quite a handicap if you want to do things differently.
The fear for the unknown shows in my fear for mazes; I hate mazes.
The good ones where you really cannot see where you are going freak me out completely.
I normally avoid these kind of things as I prefer to stay well within the boundaries of my capability and comfort. |
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One day however I got completely caught out by the unknown.
How often are you actually really learning in your life?
That falling on your face and lying there for all to see type of learning?
That kind of learning that bruises your ego, that makes you feel emotions, that takes you on a road you have never been before?
That learning, that ‘playing on the field’ learning, because you do want to learn to do things differently?
I have done that a lot lately, that real scary learning as part of developing our own online business and overcoming my own belief “I cannot do this.”
Today was such a learning day.
When you see a woman with a piece of green stuck in her teeth, can you resist to check yours?
The same goes for when I see women act in a certain way.
I immediately see myself reflected and think “Oh no!”
It happened last week.
I saw unnecessary sacrifice and it triggered my buttons hugely.
How many of us are doing this and how much do we wreak havoc with it?
How would it be adopting out your son, knowing that you will never know him?
How would it be having kept your adoption a dark secret and then having a doctor ask you if you have had a pregnancy before?
How will life be with these dark secrets?
It never stops; my learning that is.
Before I talked about how hard it is to learn to say ‘No’, now I can begin to work on the word ‘Yes’.
I never really thought I had trouble with that ‘Yes’ word, who in their right mind would.
But of course you will find that women will have a problem with the ‘yes’ word, at least I have and I qualify as a woman.
As one of my themes for 2009 is collaboration and communication, it is a big help for everyone , especially for partners in the domestic collaboration scene to know the meaning and use of the word ‘yes’ and ‘no’.
To prove my point here are some observations and corrections that I made.
Well, you cannot say life is dull when you do things.
Our house is no longer for sale and we are kind of back to square one and looking at our options.
It shows that you can have goals, put plans into action and yet there is no guarantee that things will go as you planned.
The wonderful thing is of course that we don’t have to sell and that there are other options to get to our Garden of Eden.
However having said that, I think we always have options in life as long as we are not too rigidly attached to outcomes (haha, I am learning) and as long as we have friends (haha, I got those).
How is this for an interesting observation.
Because I don’t know how to do things together I do them alone.
As a result I get exhausted and I don’t do half the things that I want to do.
Why is it that most of us refuse to learn to play team and rather stick to our own.
It is not that it is not heralded by successful people.
In between building, plumbing, sanding, repairing and painting I have been thinking about how the world would look like when we were all living together as if we were not afraid of each other.
What would we be capable of if we were not afraid to ask people when we needed or wanted something?
What more would I dare to do if I knew there was always a safety net of people to catch me?
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