Regrets, mindclutter and weakness in completion.

Completion; John's Dad being showered with love.

“Completion brings harmony to your life and to relationships.
Completion is a great way to unclutter your world and your mind.
It’s worth your while to observe where your weaknesses are with completion.
(WomenLikeMe on Completion)

Completion relating to relationships refers to things such as wanting to say thanks to somebody but never getting around to doing it.  

Oh, how this aspect of completion struck a cord with me! It hit a nerve big time.

When the heart guides the mind, the dance can begin.

The place our heart took us to.

The mind had a lot to say when Tess Marshall of The Bold Life Blog invited me to write a guest post. However the heart jumped up, settled down that mind of mine, gave Tess the biggest virtual hug you can imagine and then both the heart and the mind went to work.
The guest post is now pubslished.
The result is worth a visit, Tess’ Blog is a blast and as for my article, well see for yourself.

The benefits of doing completion.

Completion! I am wrapping the presents and deliver them in the weekend.

“The concept of ‘completion’ can seem disarmingly simple, but for all its obviousness it is rarely well practiced.
This is to our detriment as not only does completion achieve the obvious of getting things done and done well, but it brings harmony to our lives, better relationships and a feeling of being in control and the master of our destiny.
Completion is both a habit and a skill that has far reaching beneficial consequences.”
(WomenLikeMe on Time and Completion)

Oh don’t I know it.
I am not a completion machine and I am becoming aware that I am missing out on the benefits, big time. 

My daughter and I on ‘why should you?’.

I am back. Thanks to all the encouragement and preparations to make the heart strong, my daughter and I had an absolutely super time together. Even the weather played along, we just had sunny days, all four of them! Yes, I did get the delighted shrieks when she saw the food and no, we did not go to a hotel in the end. She chose to stay in her flat and I honored that. She was sick of the city and being cooped up inside working those long days, so she requested a lot of walking just to be outside.

Our wonderful time together, resting at the beach.

So walking and staying away from the city we did.
In hindsight it was actually great to stay where she lived because that gave me, as her mother, a peek into this side of her life. As a proud mother I am very pleased to say that she had her small room beautifully organized. She used very clever storage systems and her whole set up worked a treat. It all looked very neat, workable, clean and tidy.
But the communal area outside her room was a totally different experience altogether.

Forget unfair and luck, integrity is what counts.

‘By living from integrity, you align yourself with the way the Universe works. When you live out of integrity you get unreliable results. You might think the world is unfair and picks on you, which it does not.’ (WomenLikeMe on Integrity) The unfair, random acts we think we receive from the Universe are generated by our own randomness around being in and out-of-integrity. Ouch. Being in- and out-of integrity guides our doing.

Sitting and enjoying the sun while being fully in integrity. John is getting the drinks

It ultimately  determines whether we end up working with the laws of the Universe and getting wholesome results or working against the laws and achieving randomness.
So what is this integrity that is so important to have the Universe effectively and pro-actively on our side and us being a reliable partner it can work with?

What happened to my Integrity?

I thought I knew what Integrity was. I thought I was ‘au fait’ with the subject. Boy was I mistaken, big time. Recently I realized that I grew up in a family that wasn’t big on integrity. I’m not ear bashing my folks here instead I’ve observed that all families have integrity issues, whether they be visible or invisible.

Dealing with my unanswered e-mails

For our family it was okay to borrow things and not return them for an eternity.
It was okay for us kids to blame each other in order to get our own way.
It was acceptable to use my mother as an excuse for being late for school or not having our homework done. “Just tell Mrs. Keane that you were helping me and it was MY fault” my mother would say.
Of course she thought she was helping us out and even though it did come from a place of love and protection, it did not bode well when the time came for me to venture out into the big wide world for myself.
I got a rude awakening; not everyone operated at the same level when it came to integrity.