Don’t you love it when all of a sudden you get an insight.
For years I wondered why certain relationships work and others don’t.
Why with certain people I get on like a house on fire and with others I don’t.
Why my marriage didn’t work and with John I have a blast.
Recently as part of talking about the topic ‘Completion’ on Life Leverage I clearly saw that ‘contributing’ and ‘receiving’ has got something to do with the fact why certain people are so much easier to have relationships with than others.
I discovered that there is one group that are the contributors, the givers in life and the other group are the receivers, the takers in life.
I am not saying one is better than the other, we need both of them.
It is about how we balance ‘being a giver’ and ‘being a receiver’ .
The balance effects the quality of our relationships and the level at which we get things done and the speed we complete things with.
Bad hair day? Well, we are camping in wilderness.
Even now I have my wonderful life there are still bad hair days.
Oh how I wish on those days that somebody just told me what to do and at the end of the day would send me home telling me I have done enough and I could happily relax, feeling very good about myself.
But no, with an interesting life comes responsibility and choices and that sometimes makes me so tired and confused.
I then notice that I am still an apprentice, learning how to carry all that responsibility for having a good life.
On those days I observe how little I have learned to cope with freedom of choice.
And on those days I feel there is so much to learn and when will I finally be perfect?
Now it is no wonder that I feel that way when trying to map out my own life according to my desires and creating a balanced and productive life.
We are not trained to do so.
Fairy tales not true?
Well, don’t be too quick with your opinion.
Once upon a time a little soul prepared to go to earth, eagerly making plans to have the time of her life.
While waiting her turn, the little soul dreamt of beautiful gardens, woman friendly sailing yachts in tropical waters and a blissful life with a prince; imagining that together they would make the planet a joyful and prosperous place.
After her arrival the little soul was lovingly received and fussed over by an older sister and three brothers.
For years life was good.
She was a delightful little soul, trustingly holding on to her dream, being totally and fully self expressed.
Just as she imagined it would be before her arrival on earth.
But little did she know then that there was a ‘very big web’ waiting for her.
All was not well in paradise this week.
After a fantastic first few weeks and lots of fun I woke up on Monday quite sick!
I felt nauseous and increasingly uncomfortable with a funny pain in my stomach, which I’d noticed before but been ignoring for a while.
Now, being ill is not something I do well.
I find it a personal affront, I get upset and quite agitated.
So on top of not feeling well physically, I start an enormous mental fight that of course is taking me nowhere and has all the hallmarks of making the whole condition even worse.
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